My hubby is flirting with the corner store clerk?

Question

How would you react if
you found out your husband was flirting with the clerk at the corner store? Every time I go in there, she's always telling me how wonderful my husband is. She obviously has a crush on him. Last time I went in, she told me that she was outside down the street looking for her cat and my husband pulled up and said,"are ya looking for a date?" and she laughed and said, "no, for my cat" so he got out and proceeded to "help" her( cats hate him) and was joking around yelling,"*****?*****?"..I dont think this is appropriate behavior for a married man, do you? Would you be concerned? I have not said anything to him yet, because I am not sure if I am over reacting, or if their is cause for concern; I can say, I KNOW he would not have behaved this way, had i been there.

Answer 1

I can't believe the clerk is telling you this stuff with pure motives.
If this makes you really uncomfortable, talk to him about it.
I don't think a little harmless flirting every now and then is a bad thing. We all like to think we are still attractive to the opposite sex and it's nice to have your ego stroked every once in awhile but if it's becoming a pattern then it's a bit disturbing.

Answer 2

this is a delicate matter. question is do u trust him? i mean not to cheat? flirting can be harmless. and if he has nothing to hide i would just bring up one day over dinner. not in an accusing manner, jokingly. say" hey that little clerk down at the corner store talks highly of u, i think she might have a little crush on u." "what do u think?" ok then u can just see his reaction. people flirt all the time, so don't go accusing him of anything just yet. i flirt with guys harmlessly all the time...doesn't mean i am going to go out or hook up with them. i was married once and my ex was doing the same thing. except that wasn't out of the ordinary...he was always a big flirt. it was when he said he fell in love with the idea of her from their talks is when idrew the line. they were talking about our private lives and i told him he should of come to me if he needed to know something, not a stranger- friend- opposite sex- finding feelings for her! no way not gonna happen, so he realized that was over the line and stopped. we talked more after that. but like i said our marriage ended a few years later anyhow.

Answer 3

Flirting is one thing but doing the actual deed is another. A simple flirt isnt anything to worry about all men flirt at least once in their life time and if they say that they dont or never did they are lying. My hubby flirts all the time and I could care less because I know it is harmless. I think that it boosts the man ego to flirt and have the woman flirt back. If this is bothering you then maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel but to me it sounds like you are a little insecure and you need to trust him if you are going to have a relationship/marriage to him....Good Luck

Answer 4

One thing about being married - communication seems to be the thing that goes south first. If you are feeling uncomfortable about your husbands' actions - you need to let him know immediately. In his mind - it might be just play - but if he loves you and is concerned about your feelings, when you let him know how it makes you feel, he should cease instantly. Respect and concern for one another is most important in a marriage and relationship. The Word of God says that we should abstain from anything that even 'appears' evil. And to me - his actions and the clerk's is a dance with the devil. Don't sit idly by and watch satan interupt the flow of your marriage.

Answer 5

No this is not appropriate at all. He is acting like a high school boy. There is obviously some neediness that this clerk gives out, an aura. I would talk to him about it and make sure you let him know honestly how it makes you feel. He should honor God, his marriage vows and you!

Answer 6

He's getting much too close for comfort. Ask yourself what he would do if you behaved that way? My ex was a chronic flirt even around me. One time, when a waitress asked him what he'll have, he said, "I'll have you!" Of course, he cheated more than I even know.........basically, with everyone and anyone. So......he's history. I believe that just because a man is fed at home doesn't mean he can't read the menu.......if he starts sampling............that's unacceptable.

Answer 7

Ok I am a clerk. And I flirt a lot.
but it makes everyone laugh and have a good time.
She told you, and laughed about it
I have had people tell me about something my husband has done.
not a big deal
If possible talk to your husband without accusations.
Say something like "Hey Selma said you helped look for her cat, does that mean we can get a cat.

love and luck

Answer 8

he could tone it down a tad but it is likely he just enjoys the attention and is really flattered he still 'has it'. everyone likes to be liked and he is no different. if you accept he is like this and dont get upset about it when it is innocently flirting the chances are that if ever he does overdo it and you say ,,'enough', he will listen and learn that not all things are appropriate. (do remind him that not all women will find his behavior ok and he is lucky he has you)

Answer 9

It may be as simple to see if he is still attractive to the opposite sex or he is try to pick her up. She may like him, but she seems to be a good girl and keep him at arms length. His behavior is stretching the bounds of being married. You are right his behavior is inappropriate and should be corrected.

Answer 10

Whip that trick, don't let your man be flirtin with some flousey at the corner store that's how it starts, then you'll be off to work and she'll be at your house. Tell her manager she is getting to friendly with your husband and you don't want to cause a scene at their establishment.