How do you get rid of repressed anger?

Question

I have anger inside toward people who have hurt me - either through saying things that hurt me or accusing me of things I did not do. I also have anger toward friends that don't return my phone calls.

I know that I have to forgive them. What is the best way to do that?

Answer 1

Find a notebook (spiral bound type) or any sort of book that has pages that can easily be turned and feels comfortable to write in. Then journal everything you're feeling. Just write and write....tell who hurt you, how you felt then, how you feel now, how angry you are at them, how you wish you could show them how they hurt you, etc. Vent it out through that journal every single time you feel your anger start to build. It's worked for me for the past three years. Anger from dealing with my rude, insensitive, and just plain evil inlaws was building up, and it was beginning to take a toll on my health. Since I started journaling, I can deal with them much better, and my health has returned to normal. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Dealing With Repressed Anger

Answer 3

This is a very good question and a tough one to answer at that. There is no way to "get rid" of anger, even though, surely someone will reccomend some sort of drug as a joke. Just like in chemistry or physics, and the law of equality/matter, nothing can be done without an equal, opposite reaction, and matter cannot be created nor destroyed. This means, if you have anger, repressed or not, inside of you, you have to get it out!! "Bottling it up" to use the common phrase will only lead to an explosive reaction much like a violently shaken pepsi. Punching your friends in the face will cause them to most likely reevaluate your relationship. Communication can be difficult, and coming clean with your feelings (anger) can be more intimidating than simply cutting off the friend or your ear, but communication, when conveyed effectively, perhaps through jokes, or a poem, song, or post-it note will reflect the things that your friends do that make you angry. Through revealing what hurts you, your real friends can grow in a way to account for your feelings. "Forgive and forget" means that to forgive, you have to forget, and to forget, you have to bring up the point, as moot as it may appear in the moment, with your friends, so they can see your point of view and the unneccessary conflict that came up due to whatever misunderstanding.
Point is: you have to talk about it; some people get a shrink, but if you don't want to waste your money being analyzing and led blindly by someone with no insight into your life, talking to your friends, as awkward as it may feel, is really easy, fun, and connects you to your friends while solving the problems, and this awkward connection is the ONLY cure for anger or other unwanted feelings.

Answer 4

You cant hold the anger inside you. Thats really painful. So you need to get that anger out of you.
One way to do this is write down why you are angry at all those people and then burn the paper.

Another part of it is getting over what happened. This is important. You cant just dwell on the past or on dumb people you have no power to change. It seems like you are letting others actions affect you way too much.
The only thing you can really worry about is yourself. Sure I have friends who don't return my calls, but it doesn't make me upset. Why should it?
I cant make them call me. If they don't want to be my friends (which is not the case I'm pretty sure) then thats their loss.

Appreciate yourself and you will stop dwelling on others.

Answer 5

Stare into a mirror think about it extra hard and see how much anger u hav.... Then u can see why u should stop havin these anger sparks but its not that bad to hav the regular anger though.... And dont close ur eyes or blink too much while looking into the mirror.....Or at least take anger management

Answer 6

You must learn to do something that is very very difficult: Look at all things in this world as perfect and good. Try this, say to yourself "Everything is an act of God and therefore everything is good and divine. That includes people hurting me or not returning my calls." When you regard everything as an act of God and perfect as a result, it is impossible to feel anger, hate, or fear!

Answer 7

That is a silly thing to be angry about. Get over it. Take up running, jogging, or boxing to get rid of anger.

Answer 8

well just forget them. just close that chapter in your life, and look at it as a lesson learned. you will have many more friends!! start doing for yourself, and as people not returning your phone calls i wouldnt care i hate talkn on the phone. Just don't call them until they call you. If they don't call you, do you really want 2 talk 2 them? Find some hobbies, thats what I do, and as for the accusers kick them 2 the curb. who needs enemies with friends like that!!!

Answer 9

get a large bat, go beat em up

seriously, you have to get angry I think

just let that anger out sometimes, with a friend who can deal with it, a punching bag, or alcohol, music, whatevr works for you

Answer 10

take up kick boxing or a sport, like soccer. Put all your anger behind ur kick.