Curious........Would you tell your friend the truth if you know there g/f or b/f was cheating?

Question

Would you tell them if you knew, or not? and why?

Answer 1

One guaranteed method of ruining a friendship is to tell your friend their g/f or b/f was cheating. It's a guaranteed method because I have seen it happen so often. Firstly, it's none of anyone's business - secondly, it's none of anyone's business and thirdly, it's still none of anyone's business. And when your friend finally discovers the truth, you knew nothing about, no matter how tempting it is to say, "I knew about all along."

Answer 2

This can be a tricky spot to be in. For one thing, your 'friend' might not believe you and there goes your relationship with them! Sometimes, it is best to hold your peace and allow time to be the element of exposure. I firmly believe that whatever is done in the dark will eventually come to light. However, if you have a close relationship with this person, sit them down and lay out part of the foundation - you dont' have to tell it all -I mean, if you do- you need to make sure you can back up whatever you tell them - I guarantee - they might not believe you. On the other hand, I have witnessed frienships break up when the friend didn't say anything and the one who was hurt came to her friend and asked if she knew- and when she said yes - the friend got upset because she "didn't tell". Sometimes, you can never win - but it depends upon you, and your friendship. Make it your own choice - but think carefully.

Answer 3

When my husband was involved with a coworker, his coworkers thought they were "helping" by telling me directly that they were having an affair. I had long knew it in my heart, but I had three small children under the age of 2. I said to one of the women who told me, "what do you want me to DO about it??"

At that time I felt I was helpless. I loved my husband, we were dependent upon him financially. Things changed in time but at that time the knowledge didn't help me one bit.

I have since become aware of other people's indiscretions and I am a firm believer that I will not become an accomplice nor an informer. What happens between a couple is their private business.

Silence is golden.

Answer 4

Yes. I would tell them because I wouldnt want to watch my friend be strung along by someone who didnt care about them, and also give them the chance to end the relationship with the cheater before they get hurt.

Answer 5

i can't say that whether you have to tell ur friend or not....
but, one thing; just think about this= if u tell them, they will be hurt for a while, but then they realise that u r true and be happy again...
if u don't tell them, they will still be happy but one day when they know the fact they will be very3x sad, not just to their g/f or b/f but to u too....

Answer 6

Yes i would,i don't want to see anyone being fooled.I would want my friends to tell me if i was being cheated on

Answer 7

NO! Even though you are doing them a favor they will get angry and their anger will be misdirected at you. You may lose your friend. If you can't stand it and have to tell them I would do it in an anonymous way or arrange it so that she sees it for herself and no one has to tell her.

Answer 8

'shoot the messenger',,,,,i think the right way to go about it is this,,,,tell the cheater you know,tell them if they do it again you will think nothing of telling your friend. let it be clear you will not stand back and watch your friend hurt and if they want to end the relationship,,do so,if not,,,,,,quit the other woman/man.

Answer 9

Yup, have to.

But say it like you care not like "you got screwed", I think say it over the phone.

Answer 10

yes, if there bf or gf was cheating i would