2007-04-14 03:34:48 · 34 answers · asked by Robin L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I guess that's up to you and how you feel about it....as long as he's just talking as friends about everyday things then i guess it's really fine....but say he's chatting intimately to them in a sexual way then no i'd say it's not all right or at least it shouldn't be with you..
2007-04-14 04:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep seeing more and more of these type of Questions in YA recently. Its a shame when the Internet is used for cheating on ones spouse/mate. The Internet has made it very easy for people to cheat on each other, while keeping your mate happy thinking you are just surfing the net doing your thing and its all good. Alot of relationships have broken up because of "Misuse" of the internet and its a shame. If more people put as much energy into working on the relationships they have and not looking for some "Strange" online, The World would be a better place. The Internet is a great Tool and full of Knowledge but when people misuse it, all H*** breaks lose.
2007-04-14 03:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on what they are chatting about. You say you know about them.. Did he tell you, or did you find out yourself? If he was the one who told you, then I think it is probably safe to assume that things are perfectly fine, and he has just made some new friends.. nothing more. Usually when someone wants to hide what they are doing online, and who they are chatting with.. they keep it to themself. So, I think that you knowing about it (if he told you) is a very good sign.
If you are still uncomfortable with him having female friends online, then you need to sit down and have a talk with him about it. I have to wonder though, do you feel the same way about his female friends he knows in person? If the answer is yes, then you may need to work on any insecurity issues you may have. He married you, and just with the information given.. I would assume that he does love you. You need to get all issues out in the open so they can be dealt with, and move on from them so you can both be happy.
Have a wonderful day.
2007-04-14 04:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people online are looking for love. A few may have no respect for your marriage and try to reel your hubby in with temptation. That all depends on the strength of your marriage if it's cheating or innocent socializing. You know him better, so nobody can make that call. He has a wonderful wife, so there's not a need to spend so much time conversing online. He's married to his best friend.
2007-04-14 03:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned. Why does he feel the need to chat with women online instead of spending time chatting with you? I don't care if the talk is innocent or not. there are plenty of chat room for just guys to talk about football or whatever. Somehow he feels the need to chat with women? Sounds fishy to me. Maybe nothing is happening right now, but eventually he will find what he is looking for. If he his chatting with women only, he is looking.
2007-04-14 05:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that depends on why he is chating with these women. Now, if they are just friends that's ok. If these are just random women that he is interacting with and it makes you feel uncomfortable that is another issue. You need to sit-down and talk with him about how you are feeling about this situation and try to find out what is going on without being condemning. Don't jump to conclusions right off the bat because the situation can turn ugly and it MAY not be needed. The most important thing is if you feel uncomfortable. Don't be afraid to express yourself in a controlled manner. After all, marriage is about compromise and if he is not willing to do so or observe your feelings.... then you may have a whole 'nother issue.
2007-04-14 04:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by blazinwulf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with chatting with the opposite sex. Its when the content is a bit much... Flirting is fine but people have different ideas as to HOW FAR and how much...
He isn't hiding it from you so it is pretty innocent. If he was to start hiding converstions when you enter the room.. Then its time to have a concern and talk to him about it before it gets out of hand.
2007-04-14 04:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be talking to you! Even if you know about it - there is just something not emotionally healthy about a man who is married having conversations on line with other women. As much as we may dress it up - to me -it is a form of disrespect toward you, his wife, who he made a committment to. It his time is taken away from you, the family and the home, for him to be on line with some strange woman - yes- I think that is wrong.
2007-04-14 03:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a BIG FAT RED FLAG !! He may not be flirting or intending to cheat, but he is creating emotional intimacy with other women. Emotional intimacy is cheating, and can be very damaging to your marriage. Casual conversation with other women face to face at work or the local store is normal friendly behavior. Chatting on line with strangers, lonely women, women who are undoubtedly stroking his ego, is not good. Tell him it bothers you and ask him to stop. I know it won't be that easy to do, but you must try to get through to him. He may be feeling lonely himself, try to find out what he needs and be there for him.
2007-04-14 04:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Ponypuppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think cheating is anything you wouldn't do with your partner standing right next to you.
Is you husband willing to let you sit in on his chats or read what has been said?
If he has to keep the contents of his chats secret, then he's being emotionally unfaithful.
2007-04-14 03:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋