i still havent had a period yet, just wandering if u still havent had a period and breastfeeding but u still have a sexdrive, my bubs 4mths
2007-04-14 03:00:38 · 9 answers · asked by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i do have 4 kids and a husband who im always busy looking after, just wandering is it the tiredness or the hormone stuff happening while u breastfeed that causes a lack of sexdrive
2007-04-14 03:19:45 · update #1
I have breastfed both of my 2 children & plan to do so w/ my next due in June. I think that a big part of it is the fatigue. You are up every 2 hours w/ the little one & not much your husband can do to help in that area (wouldn't it be nice if we could take turns w/ the feedings LOL). For me one of the hard things was that we have the baby sleep in our room for the 1st 3-6 mos. and I was always worried that the baby would wake up!
Anyway, plus, as you said you have 4 other little ones that you are looking after. We get tired. I think it's also hard to feel sexy or desirable or think about taking care of yourself when you get so busy. I can't remember how long it took w/ my other 2, but I know it was a while before I was ever in the "mood". Thankfully, I have a very understanding husband who didn't push the issue and let me take my time to get back into things.
As far as the period, I do not have one after the initial bleeding for the entire time I am nursing if I am taking the mini-pill.
Anyway, just give it a little time, I am sure that things will get back to normal soon. Also, you may want to just try and get a little pampering just for yourself... take the kids to a sitter & go get your hair &/or nails done. Feeling beautiful again goes a long way towards getting that sex drive back.
Good luck!
2007-04-14 03:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by melonamc 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might not have desire for sex right now. You are breastfeeding and when a baby is pulling on your sensitive areas, the last thing you might be thinking of is sex. But you have to consider your needs and the needs of your husband or partner. You should have some help. The breastfeeding is good for your baby, and your mate will have to understand your body's changes. Still, take some time to treat yourself to a comfortable bath, nails, feet and get dressed up. You and your mate should go somewhere -here is where you might have to consider adding a bottle (of your milk) so that someone else can feed the baby while you have a night out. Even though you are breastfeeding- it's not a sure cure for preventing pregnancy - so use protection unless you want another child right away (smile) I was fortunate, I never lost my drive for sex and my husband was very much a participant and helped me make our evenings great. We would take our daughter out with us and we still had a wonderful time. It's all about adjustment and desiring to help each other overcome whatever the obstacles might be. But don't stop the loving - you need the attention and so does he. Good luck!
2007-04-14 10:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Breastfeeding absolutely does reduce your sex drive! The motherly hormone released during breastfeeding has been proven to suppress the sex drive. It shouldn't go back to completely normal until you're child is weaned. I guess it's natures way of spacing out a bit!
With regards to the period, every woman is different. Some have a period every month like there's no difference, some every few months and some never while they are breastfeeding. My daughter is 1 1/2 and still breastfeeding, and I haven't had a period yet! Can't say I miss it, though.
2007-04-14 23:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by ☼Pleasant☼ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son is almost 8 mon old, and I am still breastfeeding. He is also eating solids. But my sex drive is still gone. My husband is getting very frustrated with the situation and is trying to convince me to stop breastfeeding. Since I stay at home with my son I find it silly to stop and start him on formula. I still have not had a period. And I think that the lack of is due to a combination of hormones and that I feel more like my body is something functional for my son than a sexual thing for my husband. Good luck on the situation. I hope mine comes back once I do stop breastfeeding.
2007-04-14 10:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jill B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My baby is 3 months old, I'm breastfeeding as well. I haven't had a period yet, and I have absolutly no desire for sex right now. I consider myself "touched out" I've had someone on me all day, for part of the night, the last thing I need is my husband flopping around on me too. And you know its hard to feel sexy when your covered in and smell like baby puke.
2007-04-14 10:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by santobugito 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is very common. Although, some sexual desire will start to come back. I breast fed our son for 12 months exclusively, and after about 6 months or so, after EVERYONE had adjusted and my body was regulated, my husband and I were back on track. It takes time, but don't force the issue. It will happen when everyone is ready! Good Job on breastfeeding!! :-)
2007-04-14 10:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
not sure of your question
my baby is fifteen weeks on monday, have had one period since birth
sex drive a bit lacking but sleepless nights and no time to yourself all contribute, can take a while to get back nto normal i think
2007-04-14 10:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex drive should come back after you wean the baby. If it doesn't, I recommend taking wild yam. Get some that is standardized. It really helped me a lot.
2007-04-14 11:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by pennypincher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breastfeeding can cause a lack of lubrication, but it doesn't cause a reduced sex drive.
2007-04-14 12:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋