Will I regret my decision in the future ?

Question

Hi guys, I just came here to ask for opinions over my issue. See I am 15 and I want to work as an editor of vogue as I heard they earn alot and get to go to fashion parties and show. So I told my friends that I am willing to give up family and friendship time for wealth and status. They say that even if I achieve my goal I will not be happy . what do you guys think ?

Answer 1

There has been some good advice given by some who have responded to this question. There are several things you need to think about before you make your decision.

The first is, what is important to you? Having lots of money and lots of expensive material things along with superficial people who claim to be your "friends" but will only be there for you when its convenient for them and/or when it benefits them in some fashion.

The second is, How important to "you" is your current friends and your family? Do you value them being there for you whenever you need support or encouragement or just a shoulder to cry on?

It is important to have a dream and a goal and to know what you want for your future. I applaud you for knowing what you wanna do with your career at 15. Not very many teenagers truly know what they wanna do with their lives at 15. But before you jump to far ahead of yourself take a good look at the friends you have right now that have been there for you through the ups and downs and good times and bad times in your life so far? Think about the time that you and each of those friends have put into this relationship that you share. Friends are important to have in your life. More importantly is having friends you can count on being there for you when times are rough while you work hard toward your career goal.

You also need to stop and think about your family. You may be able to ditch your friends and forget about the relationships you have make with them, but family never leaves. Even if you push them away they will always be there. Afterall they are the ones that have loved you unconditionally, supported you without hesitation and dedicated the past 15 years to you, your life and your needs, wants and desires.

There is nothing wrong with aiming for the sky and persuing your dream of being an editor for a major magazine. But that job wont last forever. When that job is done then what will you have? The friends you made because of your job are not likely do remain by your side while you are downs, specially if they are not in the same situation. I am not saying that all the people you will meet if you take this job with be superficial and not caring and true friends. But there is nothing better then having family and close true friends to celebrate with you in your accomplishments as well and help put the pieces back together when things fall apart.

I don't believe you have to sacrifice your current friends and your family in order to persue a career. I think you can keep them all and celebrate life together. Who knows, maybe one of those friends you have right now that you are willing to end the friendship with, could end up being your best friend who stands by your side through it all and is still there for you 20 years from now wether you have suceeded in this dream or not.

Take the time to truly think about the importants to you and your life that your current friends and your family play a part in.

Hope this helps.

Good Luck and I wish you the best in your future!

Answer 2

listen, thats ur life. ur so-called " friends" are stupid and just jealous.

if you want to be an editor of vogue, pluck up courage and go straight forward. Cos life is short my friend, so dont lose time on what people thinks of u.

Then if u succeed that does not mean u willl forget ur family, cos mum n dad will not feed u all the time. Few people understand the word "responsibility and independent".

then u r 15, so think well what u want to do as a job, cos being an editor is not as easy as u think, money tons in it but education is important too. so study well also and not all friends r honest.

All z bests

Answer 3

It is true that wealth can make a person happy...TEMPORARILY. Don't let yourself be dazzled with money and with your dream. What I am saying here is that you would regret it when the time came that you would be needing someone. You can still have that dream without sacrificing your special someones. Happiness comes within the person not with what you have.

Family should be the first in your list. Never sacrifice them because they would be the last person who will stand with you when you have nothing in your life.

I actually experiencing it right now. I have sacrificied my time for my friends just to focus on my dreams. And now, upon seeing them having outings, reunions without me, it totally hurts me alot! I never missed any get-together when I was still on their sides, I used to be the first person they run to whenever they are down..but when I slowly declined their invitations or calls...coldness came in and realizing that I wasted the friendship they had given to me. And it was hard for me to win them back because some of them had migrated but they all still have the communications. Their lost makes my life miserable though I have my friends today still nothing can compare with my long time friends.
Another thing not to give them up is because you would never know your true friends when you fall. At least with your friends today..you have this idea that they are with you not because of what you have but with who you are..

Try to watch the movie "Click" so you would definitely understand everything.

Answer 4

1. You usually don't have to give up family to achieve most goals so it's a mute point.
2. Most people don't pick a future career due to the possible parties they could attend.. lol.... but that's definitely worth consideration.
3. You will find that your family is much more important to you than you might think. Right now you have them at your disposal but it's a whole different issue when they are gone.

Answer 5

The only thing that makes your goal worth achieving is having the people around you that care for you and wish you the best know you've achieved it. You will not be happy because you will be around with a lot of fake people in that industry and you will never know when someone is telling you the truth. And if that's really where you want to head then good luck.

Answer 6

You should not just give up family and friends no matter how much wealth and status you may have.What if that job does not work out and you come back and you have no friends or family? Family and friends r more inportant.

Answer 7

ok i know your so confused but YES you will regret it if you push through, listen you cannot give up your family and friends with wealth and status. ask this question to yourself:

so what if i have lots of money if i don't have a family to be with?

remember that money can't buy true hapines

Answer 8

that's a lesson i've got discovered. whilst somebody provides you with an exceedingly high priced present, take it. Your mum is questioning of you, she's making solid possibilities of modern units, and you would be loopy to no longer settle for the present.

Answer 9

i think do what YOU want dont care about other people they only let you down in the end likes so if workin in the vogue place would make you happy wel go for it i have faith in you so just do it dont care what other people have to say to it their not gonnae be there for yooh in the end

Answer 10

Depends on how superficial you are. Even if you are, I doubt that you will be happy.

Have you watched Ugly Betty?