My ex girlfriend finished with me nearly 2 months ago. The break up wasn't amicable - we were both going through lots of stress at the time. Anyway, after a month of not really talking, we started talking to each other more. She invited me round hers for lunch and a dvd, which was great, until I found myself on her sofa kissing her,and she didnt push me off. this went on for ages,and then she wanted2get back together,which i agreed to, and left.2 hours later, get a text saying she hates me, she never wants2speak2me again, and that i knew a relationship wasnt what she wanted. i apologised,and she sent this horrible text back calling me selfish, manipulative,and that she was on anti-depressants&i had ruined her life! anyway,i left it a week,and sent her a card saying that i was sorry for hurting her,& did she want to try friends....no reply...and i know she got it as she signed for it......now what?
2007-04-13 23:03:38 · 4 answers · asked by Rejhaven 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This might sound harsh, but let her go. She is obviously not very mentally stable and she is hurting you in the process. You deserve better than that I think. Let her go and let her work on her issues by herself. If you get involved with her and give her attention, it might only confirm her feelings about you. If she is really getting antidepressants she is already seeing somebody professionally, so they can help her with those issues. Don't get pulled into it!!
2007-04-13 23:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chava 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey..
This must be stressful fr u!
Anyways.. she's not able to deal with all the stress and is confused about how to react. one part of her is attached to u.. other says d relation is over.. to figure where things went wrong she's probably blaming u or herself for it..
Anyways.. so shez sayin all tht cause shez confused, stressed and sad.
And maybe she feels that not keeping in touch will help her deal with it better. (out of sight out of mind works in break ups... u need time to realise the person is not WITH u and u need to move on - WITHOUT the person's emotional support).
So dont call her and try gettin in touch... if u acre for her, let her deal with it.. she needs to learn it and ur callin will stress her out even more..
Dont worry... it happens to all of us... and we all learn to deal with being without loved ones... sad but true...
So let her go thru it ehr way and come out a stronger person. Dont get in touch with her.
2007-04-14 06:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She has problems that she needs to deal with and you can't help her. Move on.
2007-04-14 06:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by dxle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Margie is right.
2007-04-14 06:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋