I am very confused and need help with my situation, with a girl.. i have not felt this way in years?
i met this girl that currently has a boyfriend and we have been talking for over 2 months...we both admitted theres something between us but we never took it further than just friends. recently we have stop talking and a lot of words were exchanged. she said that she dont want to take it any further and i cause more stress than help . she works very close to my job and it been over a month since we have spoken to each other, we have not seen each other either . i do talk to other women and im a big flirt but at times but i cant stop thinking about her. i do like her and when i look in her eye i can see there is something there. she told me never to contact her and talk to her ever again but i cant help they way i feel . i have other women wanting to date me and get serious with me ..but again when im with them im thinking of her .what is WRONG WITH ME. what should i do since she told me not to contact her or talk to her ...i have her number and email..should i try calling or email??
2007-04-13 18:28:19 · 18 answers · asked by ben d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her replies seem she doesnt see you more than a friend. She wants no more the 'something' you mentioned. I think you better leave her. She doesnt seem to be a firm person. Wait for the right girl. There will be some girl who can love you. Next time you love a girl, be more direct to her about love.
2007-04-13 20:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Intensive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She TOLD you to leave her alone. LEAVE her alone.
If she changes her mind, she will contact you.
For some reason, men do not take rejection very well. It is in the matrix of the way men are made. Not kidding here. I have had experience with a few guys like this. One still does not get the message and I have lost all respect for him.
It is annoying and simply put, childish, to continue trying to see or talk with anyone that does not want to carry on a relationship.
You are like anyone else that had high hopes for a relationship to develop. I am sorry for you but that is the way life happens sometime.
Maybe the look in her eyes before might have been temptation, but that is over with now. She has a man. Stay away, don't try to contact, don't call or e-mail...... DON'T at all....
Since you two work, I assume you are old enough to know how to carry on with out her in your life and if you have so many other women wanting you, go for it dear. We all need someone but she ALREADY HAS HERS....
Don't' make her take out a warrant on you.
2007-04-14 02:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough to respond to. First, is she still with her boyfriend. Yes to me, it's immorally wrong to like someone who already have someone. But you can't help it. Try asking her why she's stress and doesn't want to talk to you. If it's 100% on you, then it's best to break it off. If you like her enough, you would let her go. Then again it can never be 100% on you. Try to find ways to help her in friendly terms, despite how much desire you have to take it further. Remember you have to respect her. If she needs you to be a friend, be a friend. If the stress is because she like you and her boyfriend, then the decision is to her. All I can say is that I wish for the best for both of you. I would hate for anyone to misout on something beautiful just because they walked away. Sometimes you have to strive to get and recieve love. Other times you'll just have to leave it alone for love.
2007-04-14 01:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by drE-drE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my word...you poor thing you....I too had same exact situation happen to me and my ex-b/f a little over a month ago...Only when we parted we were doing better than ever...up until after we said good nite on phone next nite...THEN only GOD knows what changed my ex-b/f because 11 days later when I happened to reach him on landline phone...he was very short, angry,cruel, and gave NO explanation as to what made him this way and why he not only broke-up w/ me but he told me he didnt even want to be friends. Still 22days after this I am just as clueless as I was 22 days ago...and even more mind boggleing...my g-friend whose husband is my ex-b/f's best friend said when she brings up his friend and my break-up he will not say anything
except that it's none of their business. She said that since our mysterious break-up she never sees her husband anymore so she knows my ex didnt leave me for another girl....I said 2 bad 4 her...as strange and as secretive as he was about the reason 4 our break-up...he might be queer...AND lol who is the guy he is spending all of his time w/ again?
2007-04-14 02:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, but since she said never to contact her again i suggest you to respect that. However, if you do feel very strongly for her, i suggest you go talk to her boyfriend... i'm assuming that this stress is probably generated from having a boyfriend. Talk to him, and explain how you feel about her, and ask him if he feels the same way. If he does, you should back off and let her live her own life, if not, then you know what to do! Ask him to help you.
2007-04-14 01:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has a boyfriend i suggest u leave it, ull move on in time..although ppl might be constantly telling u this...if there are many girls who want to date u obviously u must be attractive, im sure u can give a chance to one of those girls and see how it goes on from there, just keep ur friendship clean with u and this girl, if u still think abt her...just tell her how u feel and say u just wanted her to know and ur not trying to pursue anything further, she needs to make up her mind aswell...she cant think u too have something, when she has a bf
2007-04-14 01:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by angelfire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur are in love man! What are you supposed to do is do things that she never told you to do so. Call her up...before bedtime but never tell her exactly what you are about to tell her on the phone. ask her out secretly. If that doesn't seem to work, you should tell him by phone then...But it is better if you make it intimate. Why shoudn't you tell him in a more converntionally way....through a never-dieing love letter.....
Do it or else......you'll loose her forever. As you have said...there's somethin' between you and her, right?
2007-04-14 01:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by PTjohn M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you want to go to jail for harassment, or harassing communications. Since she has told you not to contact her again she can put you in jail. Don't you have a mutual friend who could find out what happened between you two?
2007-04-14 01:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be, or you could be arrested for stalking, and ending up in prison, is not something you would hope for.
Forget her, and find someone, who will be happy to spend time with you.
Otherwise, you are heading for big trouble.
2007-04-14 02:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k first i would try to e-mail and then maybe calling if nothing try going out w/ one of the girls and flirt a lot she will get JEALOUS really quickly then you'll get in touch more then don't push Maybe if you play it right she might want to go further.
2007-04-14 01:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋