I feel slow and stupid because I'm behind?

Question

I have wanted to become one ever since I was a senior out of high school..My first 2 yrs at my University, I was undecided if medicine is right for me..ppl were saying how difficult the career is then I decided to change my career...Therefore, I took courses that the nursing program requires, thinking I might become a nurse..Then I thought about becoming a Physician Assistant..Along the road, I discover that these careers won't make me happy..For some reason, I still have a great passion to become a doctor...Now, I'm a sophomore in college..I haven't really take any of my pre-med classes.

I feel stupid and slow because other pre-med sophomores are finishing up their pre-med classes while I haven't really start on mine..My GPA isn't great like them, but I know I can improve it..
I'm behind all the sophomore pre-meds...I feel lonely..

It seems like all my life, I'm always behind with everything..my grades and intelligence aren't great like others.

How can I feel better?

I want to become a doctor...

Answer 1

So many (myself included) fall to this situation often feeling like the world is moving in fast pace and we are left standing or trailing behind. I over-came my own personal situation by keep aiming toward my goal and although it took more time I finally made it. The great part was that I did it slow and at such a pace i was able to learn and pay for my education while others built up debt. When i finished i had no bills hanging over my head so i was then able to build my profession rather quickly. I no longer focused on the others but only what i wanted. It wasn't until 5 years into my profession that i learned that many of those in the same field were so far in debt they had to let go of their dream and follow something else. To make a long story short i had hired some of those upper class-men and they now work under me. life is funny that way. So remember to enjoy the rewards of life it is not so important when you get there as long as you get there in your own pace and not a pace others try to set before us.

Answer 2

I do understand where you're coming from. Life is a nasty b-i-tch at times, but you must stop kicking yourself. It's like being at the bottom of a pit which you are digging; you will continue to go deeper and deeper down. Try this, it may work for you: you want to be a doctor, so step back from your academics for a few moments and relax. Panicking will cause anxiety, which you probably know already--I don't mean a panic attack, okay? Have you made any friends or acquaintances at your university? Do you have anyone from your city/town you could call or e-mail; nothing heavy, just a simple 'Hey! How are you?' Hearing a familiar voice may help a lot. Several other suggestions: try drawing something, write an insipidly odd poem, think of the silly. I don't know you but I truly believe you can improve your GPA. It's also very possible to make up your classes. Just try taking things a tad slower, meaning, relax and go with the flow. (For me, I changed my major several times. When I need to take any tests now, a proctor reads them to me, since I have trouble focusing on the multiple choice tests. I also found that I do much better in smaller classes and in independent study. There are professors who understood this when I talked with them. That's my own experience, as an example.) Please relax. It's going to be bumpy for awhile. Take things in stride. Much luck.

Answer 3

Is your GPA going to be hanging on the wall of your practice or just the certificate of diploma?

Will the best solution for your patient pop right into your head or will you find the best solution through research? Is one way better than the other or is the solution most important.

Your behind, not stupid.

You need to think about defining intelligence a little further before comparing yours to others.

Your decisions have only put you behind not out.

You can feel better by improving your attitude. Humility helps...like putting into perspective what your lot in life is compared to other people. You could be autistic or dyslexic and have that battle to fight. What if you were not afforded the opportunity to go to college? Just being in the race is pretty cool, do you have to compare yourself to the competition to achieve your passionate goal of being a doctor?

You know, sometimes there are people who continually get the raw end of the deal. You seem to think that about yourself. Some of those people have made quite a name for themselves. Einstein's parents were told he was an idiot. Martin Luther King was killed for his beliefs but my what a legacy he left behind.

I hope this gives you some perspective....and belief in yourself

Answer 4

If you were struggling to achieve competence at hamburger making, you might have a point. I'm sorry I can't feel too sorry for you because you are not the best of the best, but 'merely' almost the smartest in your medical school.

Your life is not worthless because you struggle to achieve the very top results- you should either take price in a slightly lesser achievement- bearing in mind it is still more than the vast majority will ever achieve.

Either you want to be a doctor to help people, in which case you should be happy to help people in a similar job. Or, you want to be a doctor for the respect, prestige, and for how it makes you look in the eyes of others- and I have no sympathy with such vanity.

Good luck in your studies.

Answer 5

It's tough to feel like this, but don't quit school because of it. Just keep going. Make some friends in your classes, study with them, and do some after school activities with them. That will help. Along the way you will meet people who are your age or even older and in your program. Once you become a physician, the age won't matter at all.

Answer 6

Everything takes time and effort. During the former period of my academic life, I was considered as "slow," but then ended up getting my MA from a recognized university in Germany with almost an A- average. Sometimes you have to fight for what you want. You might have to struggle, but this will make you a stronger person. You want to become a doctor? Then become one!

Answer 7

Just play the lullaby (make sure you hear the "you-did-something-right!" sound) and jump through the waterfall. The waterfall will slow, but not stop. If you can't make it, you might not be jumping quickly enough or getting enough of a head start to get across. Neither the time of day nor the magic meter will make a difference here.

Answer 8

I think your giving yourself less credit than you deserve. You have too much self doubt which is why your behind in the first place. I am pre med too and trust me its never too late to get back on track. One of my friends failed 3 classes her first semester of college because she kept doubting herself and kinda gave up. Now she is in good academic standing. By all means do not listen to others. THINGS ARE DIFFICULT OR CAN GET DIFFICULT BUT THEY ARE NOT IMPOSSIBLE.

Answer 9

Okay Doctor to Be. Let me ask what you would say if one of your patients came to you with this exact problem. Would you tell him or her to just give up? Would you tell them to quit feeling badly and get going on getting those better marks?

What would your counsel be? I think if you look at it this way, you are going to be able to answer your own question.