I havent told any of my friends and my older brother who I love. He is always nice to me and drives me places. I have to give up gymnastics I was in level 8. I havent even told my best friend yet. Ist this worth crying about? Or should I think that life sucks sulk in my room and think about what I could have done with my life. Please help me cope with my issue! Any info on a fake leg, or any ways to tell my brother and my best friend. I am at home right now and the procedure is happening tomorrow morning at nine. I am so nervous!! Please help me!! Cheer me up and tell me its gonna be ok. Any Ideas on what to do so people dont pitty me and give me the special treatment?? thanks your help is GREATLY appreciated!!!! :-)
2007-04-13 17:54:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
you are going to do great, trust me. is the amputation going to be above the knee or below the knee. Rehab is much easier if it's below the knee. If it's above, you are going to have trouble with learning your prosthesis, but after some trial and error, no one will know by looking at you walk, that you have an amputation. Do you watch "Dancing with the Stars?" There is a lady on there with an amputation, and she is an amazing dancer, even for someone with two legs. I know she can dance a lot better than I can! You will be able to get back to a full active lifestyle after this. You're going to have physical therapy, which is going to be challenging but fun. And everything is going to be fine.
2007-04-13 18:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by knowledgablePT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep a smile on your face and remember that you could always just be dead, and how insignificant your life would have been had it ended at nine tomorrow. Don't worry about the prosthetic, at least you are young and will be able to adjust to it. And I must say, they are coming out with some pretty wicked ones these days that can make you run and jump higher. You really don't need to be worrying about what will you will do the rest of your life, a lot of amputees are able to go months or years before the people around them even find out that they only have one leg, unless they are told. Also, not many professions require that you have two fully functioning legs, and since you are so young, you have an opportunity to take up a really meaningful career that doesn't even require legs at all, such as being a scientist, or a doctor, or a teacher, or pretty much anything other than an athlete, and that really only encompasses 1-2% of the world's population as far as professions go. I was diagnosed with sever rheumatoid arthritis at age 17, and I was told that I will most likely not be able to walk by age 35, and hardly be able to move by 60, so I decided to take up a career in agricultural bio-genetic engineering for the sake of those who have no food because their land is barren due to a lack of edible plant species that have adapted to it as of yet. So I really turned my disability into a way to help others, as most of my days will be spent at a computer screen, or rolling down the rows of a green house taking notes, and I am perfectly happy with that. Good luck staving off infection, and hope that they give you the good pain medications so that you can have all kinds of fun for the next three or four weeks doing nothing at all, OK?
2007-04-13 18:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by shabushabu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely this is worth crying about-in fact, you have to cry before you can begin emotional healing. And you--in level 8 gymnastics-it is an especially hard loss. I"m so sorry it is so hard for you. PLease don't feel like you have to be brave for your family-your family is there to help you through this.
First, you cry. Cry as long and as often and as much as you need to. Then, when you're ready, you will be more able to put some perspective to it. You will have lots to learn and deal with, but anyone focused enough to make it to level 8 gymnastics can handle this. Your gymnastic abilities will be of great help to you when you re-learn to walk, run, and dance on your new fake leg. Did you happen to see Heather on dancing with the stars? She dances way better than I can on both my legs. They have amazing new legs available now. Hey, you might even be the first level 8 gymnast with one!
The only way to tell your brother and best friend is just to tell them. Then, let them cry with you and help each other deal with the shock and the unchangeablility of the whole deal. Let them know how they can help you and what you need from them, even if it's just company.
Sweetie, your life is far from over. Everyone has some kind of handicap, and yours will be worse than many and yet not so hard as some others. Handicaps help us grow our hearts...I always think that those who are physically perfect must have a handicapped heart (hey, especially those goons who park in the handicapped places for no good reason!) In five years you will look back on this with much more perspective. And don't worry about boyfriends....any boy worth loving will love you for your heart and your whole being.
Best wishes and prayers,
Auntie cryllie
please keep in touch!
2007-04-13 18:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by cryllie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. . . It's gonna be alright. Life sucks but the things that happen, happen for a reason. . . Life is filled with obstacles but you have to get through them and that is what makes you stronger. . . Eventually this will all come full circle. . . . You should really tell all the people you know that way they don't feel bad that they weren't there for you. . .You absolutely need to call your brother and tell him what is going to happen. . . . . You are 14 like me so you still have plenty of living left in you. . . . You can do whatever you want without restrictions now a days. . . Don't worry you WILL make it through this and be a stronger, better person when this is over. . . .
2007-04-13 18:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Christian Mata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me...life won't end after this surgery. Look at Heather Mills on Dancing With the Stars. She did a back walkover! It'll all be ok. May God be with you and your family and friends. God loves you and when one door closes another one opens. This is all apart of God's plan. It may not seem like it now, but it will later.
Good luck and God Bless!
PS...I'm 14 too! I have been a competitive martial artist for about 9 years and there are great martial artists with one arm or one leg. Life isn't over yet! You've got a long life ahead of you! Make the most of it!
2007-04-14 02:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your doctors for where to get the best prosthetics (fake leg) treatment, fitting, and support. You sound like a very strong and good person, hang in there. Maybe you should only tell one or two people at first and honestly ask them not to treat you with pity or anything, just tell them what you want and how you want your relationship to be regarding this situation. They should be totally understanding. If you're comfortable with the first couple people this way, maybe you'll be okay with letting more people know later. It's your call. Wish you the best on your surgery and rehab!
2007-04-13 20:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Amaebi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, everything is going to be OK. Have you been watching Dancing with the Stars? Paul McCartney's ex wife (Heather Mills) is on there, she only has one leg and is dancing with the stars and kicking butt.
Yup, I would be crying also, its quite natural, its the fear of the unknown. No one wants to loose a body part. But, take my word for it, life goes on and you will be just fine.
I have a cousin that has not lost one leg, but both legs. He got fitted with artificial legs and does just about anything I can do. He runs a lawn mowing business and does it as good as anyone with two legs. I also have another friend that has one artificial leg and nothing holds him back, he doesn't even walk with a limp.
So, you just get done what you have to do, and get back out there and live happily ever after.
God bless, you will be fine.
2007-04-13 18:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are very few words that I can say to offer comfort, but I'll try....
Surgery is no fun at all, especially if it's major.
Please accept the pity which people may express, as it is their way of saying they care about you. And if you get a little "special treatment", don't worry about it.
I believe you'll do just fine, but the road will be difficult.
You strike me as a strong willed person who can deal with this.
Please drop me an e-mail in a few days, just to let me know how you're doing.
I wish you a speedy recovery.
Mikey
2007-04-13 18:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is call your friend and brother and let them know what is going on. Next don't think about what could have been for you think about what you can STILL do even with one leg being removed. You still have the rest of your body and you have your wonderful mind so figure out how to put all your gymanstics training to use. Could you help coach little ones or maybe you need to think about developing new talents. Think about what you CAN do and not what you CAN'T do.
2007-04-13 18:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon do no longer problem! sure this is a tragic subject yet because of the fact your puppy is so youthful she ought to alter nicely after the amputation. She'll be strolling superb very at as quickly as :] merely be chuffed it become merely her leg....you nonetheless HAVE your puppy. She won't replace.
2016-10-02 23:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by celia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋