We just got home from dinner. He had at least a 6 pack before we left and 2 margaritas while we were there. He also ordered a third and a bottle of beer, but he didn't get them down...thank God. Now he is NASTY and I just wish he would drop. Sometimes, when he's really bad, I even think about helping matters along. In the morning, it's as if nothing happened and everything is great. He will never change. How much am I supposed to endure? Does anyone else have these thoughts?
2007-04-13 15:54:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds as if your husband has a drinking problem and you have a problem dealing with it. It's not unusual for a spouse to feel the way you do. I recommend you get involved in Alanon, they won't teach you how to fix him, but they will tech you how to live one day at a time for you and to let him live his way. I hope this helps.
2007-04-13 16:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by seniorchiefretired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he downed a six pack before dinner I wouldnt get in the car with the drunk.
He has a serious alcohol problem and if this happens very often he is probably an alcoholic.
If you want to keep him try AA or other addiction counselling.
All wives at some point wish the husband dead :) but if it lasts past the current fight then plan on leaving him
2007-04-13 16:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are places to help you like alinon and other places that will help you decide your next move. I went to a place (can't remember the name currently) that showed me until he was ready to admit he was an alcoholic I couldn't help him and it just wasn't worth it so I left. He now attends AA but it's only to try to win me back even thou I'm currently in a new relationship who is a alcoholic. There is a lot to know about the substances abuse spouse.
2007-04-13 16:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if your husband is about ready for a family and friend intervention. he may not think that he has a problem because its only beer and margaritas, but remind him that alcoholics are alcoholics, it doesnt matter what the choice is, its the over-indulgence. www.alcoholicsanonymous.org
2007-04-13 16:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look down the road and think about your life in 10-20 years. Do you want to be in the same situation as you are now. If the answer is NO.................leave. Maybe you will "sober" him up and he will realize his mistake. If he drinks MORE, then you will knOW that you made the right decision.
2007-04-13 16:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a serious alcoholic. Been there, done that, now unfortunately there AGAIN. Getting ready to leave myself. You should not endure ANY of this. There are healthy, normal men out there for all of us.
2007-04-13 15:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by gator girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one person is unhappy in the marriage, then it is an unhappy marriage.
Try counseling. However, if he is an alcoholic, he may not be able to recover from it and you will not be able to get him to quit drinking. (Note: If HE tries to quit drinking, you must also - and do NOT go to any family gatherings, etc., where they serve alcohol.)
If it doesn't work, get your "ducks in a row": Consider your options of being able to support yourself and where you will live. And then get out of the marriage.
2007-04-13 16:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you're staying with this drunk for what reason????????
If you're unhappy, then get out. You can't change him unless he wants help. But he doesn't, so don't be a prisoner to his BS. Just leave, get over the heartache, and find some peace in your life.
2007-04-13 16:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video tape him.Show him what an *** he is when he is drunk.Then give him an ultimatum-drinking or you.You shouldn't have to endure it at all.And yes,I have had those thoughts in the past!!
2007-04-13 16:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that in your eyes he has a problem, and that you promise that if he keeps doing it you are going to leave him! but don't ever wish somebody would die, dam whats that say about you!
2007-04-13 16:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by BLAINE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋