was it a bad idea?

Question

the other day honey and I did something I thought he was really
interested in doing.Now today, two days later he says he never really wanted to. He has said on many occasions that he REALLY wanted to do these things and now he seems like he blames me b/c he said the only reason we went there was b/c he thought I wanted to. I NEVER DID! EVER! I HATED IT....was it a bad idea to go there and if so, who is to blame?

Just for the record we went to a tantric "workshop"..... WAS NOT WHAT I HAD IN MIND . if you know what I mean...

Answer 1

Eh I wouldn't worry. You both thought it m ight have been ok. It wasn't the best. So, you're both on the same page, neither of you loved it. Just don't do it again and chalk it up to experience. :)

Answer 2

Well I'm not sure what you did, that you wish you wouldn't have, but I'll take a guess and say that you had a three-some?
If Im wrong I can still use it as an example! I had a threesome with my then bf because I thought that he did(he talked about it all the time) I hated it, and hated him after! He later said that he never wanted to , but now I know that he just said that because he didn't want to be the one to blame.
I think that perhaps it was a bad idea for you to do something that you hated to do, but life goes on! You both are to blame for not using good communication:)

Answer 3

I think I know what you're talking about. And its never really a good idea. Its something that should remain in the fantasy world.

But you should agree that you BOTH mis-read the signals from the other. And agree you NEVER want to do it again.

No blame, because then it causes resentment.

Good luck.... Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Sounds like it was just a lack of communication. If you both hated it, neither of you should be blamed. I would think he'd be able to laugh it off, ya know?

Answer 5

Your honey just took advantage of you, he's not serious with your relationship. He just wanted to taste you. He's now making excuses and blaming you was his scape goat. Maybe he is thinking that something might happen after what you two did and he is not yet ready. That was all he wanted, now that he got it, byebye to you. Think of it, i might be right.

Answer 6

so what did you both do that you both didn't like but thought the other did.......i think you both need to be open more to each other and tell each other how you feel about something you or he didn't want to do in case the other does........i need more info to help you out....be honest to each other about things and not just stand back and do something you didn't want to do in the first place........i think both of you are to blame because both of you didn't confront each other about it to see if the other one wanted to do it also but both of you were scared to say no in case the other wanted to do it....

Answer 7

I actually wouldn't let it bother me too much. It just seems to me that this was a matter of simple miscommunication. It's human nature to make these sorts of mistakes. If it really concerns you, then simply talk to him about it and see what he thinks about all of this. Then, go from there. I doubt that you have anything to worry about.

Answer 8

? where did you guys go?

for every couple there should always be trust and communication, everything that goes on needs to be approved by both, ( short or long term stuff ) you need to talk and try to resolve this issue, do not get mad..the first one that gets mad, loses the control and leads to something bigger, try to be a good listener and see what is on his mind :-) good luck!

Answer 9

i dont think you should blame anyone b/c then yall will just start a fight. just either dont bring it up or be like i didnt really want to either so lets not do it again

Answer 10

It's hard to decide without more info.