ok I am 14 and so is my b/f, billy. in november he was put in juvie for 3 days for possesion of marajuana. after he got out, he was on house arrest until febuary and on probation. he also had to get regular drug tests. Ever since then he has been doing fine until monday (4/9/07), he smoked a joint. he didn't know he would have a drug test the next day but he did and of course failed it. So he was back in juvie. he has been there since tuesday and it has been horrible and really hard to handle. Now last night he called me from there and said he was going to go to court today and then go to rehab for 60 days. Could someone please answer some of the following questions: What could happen to him? he wasnt completely sure he would go straight to rehab so what else could happen?
If he goes to rehab, will he be allowed visitors? phone calls? will he be able to leave at all?Is there any way for me to talk to him?
please help me. i feel so helpless and like im in this completely alone.
2007-04-13 13:38:58 · 14 answers · asked by icplover4693 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
stop saying dump him pleez im not going to no matter what you guys say. i love him and its not as easy as you think. im asking you what will happen, not what i should do and if you guys cant answer that, then freakin move on
2007-04-13 13:46:53 · update #1
btw, he is really good kid so stop saying hes a loser. you dont know how bad of a life he has (like his home life. he has no dad and his mom is an abusive drunk). he makes good grades and is always takes care of his little brother cause his mom is never home. weed is just one flaw. and honestly, its not all that bad. i just want him back. more than anything.
2007-04-13 13:57:47 · update #2
and yea, my parents will let me see him in rehab. they really like him and know about him being in trouble and think its really retarded and are doing everything they can to help.
2007-04-13 14:06:11 · update #3
First, you need do dump you bf. I know that's not what you want to hear, but do it for YOU. He's still smoking weed, knowing he's on probabtion and likely to get popped with a piss test? duhhhhhhhh
If he goes to rehab, he probably won't be allowed ANY visitors for the first few days, or a week or two. It depends on the facility. He'll probably be there for the full 60 days, too, if it is decided by the courts. And doubtful if he'll get to leave for weekend passes, etc. They will determine what is best for him. When he does finally get out of rehab, he needs to straighten up his act.
Please help yourself and distance yourself from him. This 60 days sounds like a good opportunity for you to do some soul-searching. Good luck.
2007-04-13 13:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by ~RedBird~ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sicne you didn't ask for a lecture I won't give you on. Seems like that's all people wanna do on here.
Regarding rehab-it honestly depends on the place he goes to. Some allow visitors, others don't. Sometimes, they are allowed visitors after a certain number of days. Most of the time, at these kinds of places, the people who work there want the addict to concentrate soley on their addictions and therefore, won't allow them to have outside contact. They may allow a phone call every once in awhile. I know there are some places around here who do allow visits on Saturdays and allow phone calls just about every night. I am sure that you will at least get to write each other.
I also doubt very much that he will get to leave to go anywhere...
Now, he may have to spend a few nights in juvie before going there-it's all up to the judge. But my guess would be that he goes straight to rehab.
2007-04-13 13:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Hestia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is nothing but trouble and you have a whole life ahead of you.
I suggest you pray for him and encourage him to seriously give up any and all drugs.
My personal opinion of what will happen to him is that the court system will continue to punish him each and every time he is arrested. Either he will continue going to jail or worse or he will make a personal decision to stop. Those are the only two real choices in this regard.
As for as rehab goes, the different centers have different rules for visitors and phone calls. However, I strongly suggest you end this relationship with this young man. I think he needs professional help and you are not in a position to give up your time and life for him.
If and when he does change, if ever, he will come and find you....
2007-04-13 13:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you guys saying that he's not a good person? Because he got caught with weed? That's ridicules! Sweetie, if he's not a liar,cheater or a thief and he is good to you then just let things happen as they will. Find something to keep you busy in the meantime and don't make it seem as if you are too clingy. He will learn to use better judgement and you have plenty of time being only 14 yrs old.
2007-04-13 13:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by charlie_the_carpenter 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you probably wont be able to see him again . Yes he may be aloud visotors but will your parents alou you to go see him is the questions. Let Me tell you a story that my consalor Mrs schanz at school told me ok .
She said when she was in high school or collage she dated this guy who constenly wanted to get high and wanted her to get high with him. and she woudl never think of doign it get high she new what would happen so she adventually stoped dating him . And awhile after she had broken up with him he was arressed for possession of Marajawanna and coco and she heard this and didnet no it so she was glad she broke up with him or she coudl fo got ptu into jail and her lfie coud of got screwed up . thats just a story abotu some sort of that ue tio be in your postion .
But to answer your question: IF he gos to rehab that will be a good thing . But I dout that he will be able to have visitors because he is in jovie rehab.
How to keep in touch hope he calls or find awahys to write letters .
IF he dosent go stright to rehab he will have to either stay ther in the jail or go under house arrest again .
2007-04-13 13:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by basketballbaby2223232 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your little "boyfriend" sounds kinda stupid. Why dont you dump him and find a nice boy that can smoke a joint without getting himself in trouble. What am I talking about? You're 14 you'll probably meet someone while he's dealing with his detention or probation.
2007-04-13 13:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Theodore Sebastian 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
im not gonna tell you to dump him.thats up to you.but i think that you should be very supportive of him.help him stay off the drugs.if he's goin to rehab then you wont be able to talk to him for maybe a week when he first gets there.and you probably wont be able to visit him for a few more weeks after that.all rehabs are different and have different rules.i wish him luck and hope he stays of the drugs.its not worth it.itll mess up your life.
2007-04-13 13:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump him and find a boy who isn't destined to spend the rest of his life in prison. This one's a loser on the express train to nowhere.
2007-04-13 13:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by Susie D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to find somethig else to do while he gets over this and just hang in there.. He has a problem with an illegal substance and needs the time to recover.. I won't give you a lecture. your bf knew that he shouldn't of done what he did, be glad there are people there to help him get over it..
2007-04-13 13:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by tiny b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what they will do but any time you get caught the second time for something the judge should just smack you upside the head with his gavel. and honestly i think the the death penalty should be given to potheads. if you want it bad enough to risk it all then maybe i'll respect you... maybe.
2007-04-13 13:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by FengHuaXueYue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋