What do you think??

Question

Right whats your opinion on spereated couples when a child is involved?

Do u think a) they should stay together for the sake of the child or b) they should seperate because that would be better for the child??

Also do u think that a child who is brought up by a single parent is at a disadvantage to children brought up by 2 parents? do you think that they are more likely to turn out wrong i.e criminals?

I think that if parent aren't getting on then they should seperate because it isnt any good for children to be brought up in an arguing environment! And i think that single parents can bring children up just as good as married parents because it isn't quantity that counts its the quality of love shown!! xx

I think some of u got the wrong idea! Im not married wiv kids i mean im only 15!
It was coursework i had to do and was interested in what other people thought! Sorry shwda explained
xx

Answer 1

Look honey, I can't give you statistics.....but I can give you mine......I was divorced from the father of my children when they were little & we all went to hell & back....however my children have grown up fine.....I have 5 kids & my eldest daughter [35] is married to a policeman....my eldest son [30] is a damn good tattoo artist [don't make assumptions based on that] he's also a very good single dad, who has gotten the custody/full parental control of his 18 month old son on the reccommendations of the social services....my next child [daughter 22] is a full time mum who also works part time & going to college to do fashion design in the summer term.....my next son [20] is working with the Daily mail newspaper group after doing media studies at college & is working towards becoming a fireman [his dream]
my youngest boy [17] is at college taking media studies, english lit, philosophy & law........I was brought up in childrens homes after being taken away from a prostitute mother & a pimp father......so don't think that it's not having a father that causes delinquent children.....there are many more factors that control that outcome......

Answer 2

THis is such a tough question. it can go either way. it depends on what the child sees. Single parents have extended families and role models for children. Bad marriages show a child all the negatives and they don't see what a good relationship should look like. That is the tough part.
If the parents can be civil towards each other, if they choose to stay together and be polite respectul and at least are decent, well... maybe it's not so bad.
If however the parents are always screaming at each other, being disrespectul and can't act properly when kids are around... being single is probably better. Get some good role models and the kid won't know any different. Positive role models are the key to having happy kids.

Answer 3

First of all no-one should stay together for the sake of the children....how healthy of an environment can that be. Don't underestimate kids they understand what is going on. I don't think it matters if 1 or 10 people raise a child. What matters is that they are in a healthy, safe, nurturing, loving environment. As a youth case worker I see plenty of kids that come from "normal" 2 parent families that go bad. At the same time I know many kids raised by a single parent that have turned out successful.

Answer 4

If the relationship has any hope of repair, the couple should try for the sake of kids to work it out. Raising children is hard work, and really hard work when its a single parent. However, if by staying together the child will be subjected to an unstable unhappy home life then it is best to seperate and attempt to make a stable, safe and happy environment with the child, if only with one parent. A child will always prefer to be his/her parents, but not at the price of violence, anger, rage, and unhappiness.

Answer 5

Children raised by two loving parents have a distinct advantage over children raised by one loving parent. Children who are raised by divorced parents who manage to cooperate and get along do better than children whose divorced parents remain at war. Unfortunately, parents who cannot cooperate to stay married often cannot cooperate to parent, and the kids definitely suffer.

The best thing for the kids is for the two parents to figure out both how to stay married and how to enjoy being married. Staying married and fighting vs. getting divorced are not the only two options.

Can you think back to a time when you two were happy, loved each other, and knew how to get along? If so, then it's possible to get that back. Doing so requires you both to commit to the marriage--not to a miserable existence--but to a marriage that you value and put effort into for the sake of your children and for yourselves.

Why not fight for your marriage with everything you have? Why give in and give up? Divorce, divided households, step families and all the chaos and confusion that result from these things are not the best you can do. Why settle for so little?

Answer 6

I think that kids need both an male and female influence in their up-bringing. It annoys me when women say they don't need a man to help raise their children and they can do it on their own. You could drive a car blindfolded but that doesn't make it a good idea. Raising a child is a difficult enough task with two people involved, separating could only make it harder. If both parents can be involved it is always the best way. They wont necessarily turn out as criminals but I believe they will be damaged in some way psychologically.

Answer 7

I think a child would probably be better off in a loving home with one parent than in a battle zone with two.

How a child turns out depends on the parents. A strong role model.....e.g. a parent who has a good job and works hard, will set the right example, and the child is likely to be successful. If the parent sits back and relies on state handouts, the child is likely to grow up without ambition or direction, and much more likely to end up on benefits.

Answer 8

I am a seperated mom with two children and I wished I had done it sooner because you said about damaging your children by being a single mother, well you are damaging your children by staying in an unhealthy enviroment and thats what happens to children that go on the wrong path. I know because I have been there. So do it now before it gets worst. They will adjust and they will have a better life. They live what they learn. Remember that.

Answer 9

Never, Never, Never stay in a relationship because of a child. Children can feel or sense if things aren't right. Then you have to explain your situation. A lot of single parents raised wonderful childrens. It all depends on the peson. Personally, 3 of my friends are single parents and they are doing an excellent job in raising their kids (two of them has 3 teenage boys). If they can do it then so can and will you.

Answer 10

.just because a couple separate doesn't mean a child is brought up by a single parent, both parents can still be involved with the upbringing of the children.