and the groom vowed 'to love, honor, and cherish" but did not say 'obey'. Over five years ago I went to a wedding and my buddy was the pastor and these were the vows he told them to repeat. I heard several women say they loved hearing that. I'm wondering how others feel about this because I have met some women that totally do not want to be obedient to their husband.
2007-04-13 12:37:45 · 16 answers · asked by J.P. 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
What someone says at their wedding is their business, therefore, I would not be offended. However, I did not say the word "OBEY" in my marriage, as I feel marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.
2007-04-13 12:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by marilynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be offended. Those are the vows my husband and I took and we have a very loving relationship and solid marriage.
The obedience doesn't mean servitude. In all situations, someone has to make the final judgements. In marriages, it should be the husband. (Women are generally too emotional...I say this from experience, too.) That doesn't mean women don't have any say. We have plenty of say. It means trusting in your husband to do what's best for the family.
Men are to cherish their wives and cherishing means listening to, protecting, considering the thoughts and feelings of, etc. So a man who makes his wife mindlessly obey and never listens to her concerns and suggestions is NOT cherishing her.
2007-04-13 19:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by ladyscott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have the option of writing their own vows. Personally me and my hubby have been together 27-years, we got married at 17. We were BF&GF for 4-years previous to marriage, We honor each other and we took our vows and we are in this 50/50. We are friends-Thats what makes the difference.
2007-04-13 19:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to think.."bull crap, I'm not obeying nobody" but then when I got into a serious relationship I realized it was about TRUSTING the man enough to love honor and obey so I am really looking forward to the day that I exchange vows with my honey.
2007-04-13 19:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by little lu-lu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's the first thing a woman does when she gets out of the Women's Shelter?
The dishes, if she knows what's good for her!
Seriously though, that 'obey' stuff went out the window a long time ago.
What does it really matter, though? 1 in 2 marriages ends in divorce anyway.
2007-04-13 19:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by sectumsempra_avada_kedavra 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Offended, no, but my husband would never expect me to be submissive and obedient. That would be boring to him. We respect each other and trust each other, so we don't need to vow to obey each other.
2007-04-13 19:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by cytogirl1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not be offended i took those same vows and besides it says the same thing in the bible, the wife obeys her husband and the husband cherishes his wife.
2007-04-13 19:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's their vows, not mine. Why should it offend me?
2007-04-13 19:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You heard wrong or you're lying. I made sure my vows didn't say that.
2007-04-13 19:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i wouldnt be offended because i would take those vows.
2007-04-13 19:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by CreamSaver2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋