We are financially stable and have a nice home, with a great job.
2007-04-13 12:23:08 · 36 answers · asked by keely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems like a good time. Just make sure you are both familiar with and educated about the demands of raising children. Be sure you are both in agreement about how you want to share the responsibilities and that you are both ready to assume new roles. Children are meant to be a blessing but this can take a fair bit of work to keep it that way. It just depends on both of you-your experience with children and your attitudes, expectations, and knowledge of good child rearing techniques.
2007-04-13 12:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... Only you will know when it is the right time. I always had a few things I wanted done before having children (own a home, etc) You are only 21 and there is no rush. 21 is actually quite young to have children now. That being said you never really know what is going to happen. Dh and I finally decided to have children, saved, planned, etc. And I had a miscarriage. So you just never know..... Good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-04-13 12:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Amata26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something the two of you need to agree on together. It's generally better to have children when you are younger rather than older for the benefit of the kids when they reach adulthood--you will be more able to be involved in their later lives and the lives of your grandchildren (if you should have them).
If money is not a concern and you are stable in your marriage, then why do you ask? If you haven't been married very long and want to experience being married a bit longer before you have children, that's something to talk about together. Whatever it is that gives you pause and moved you to post this question is something that the two of you should talk about.
2007-04-13 12:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no! I'm married too, but no kids either or not yet at least! Enjoy each other companies for now. Go on a cruise, vacation... you know just the two of you. I would say wait for a few years. I’m not saying you are not ready… but don’t you want to enjoy more each other?
Enjoy each other because once you guys decides to have a baby... thinks will be different. If the time comes that you are really ready to have one... don't forget that your husband is always your priority... I mean, be the best Mom as you can be... but your husband is still your NUMBER ONE.. and he will love you forever for that.... !!!
2007-04-13 12:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by L!LO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way.............
For 9 months, you will be pregnant. Then after the birth you will be fighting for a moment's rest and deep sleep.
Is changing a diaper filled with #1 and #2 appealing to you?
Have you seen the world yet, or traveled much? Did you get your fill of clubbing and partying?
If there are things in your life that you know can only happen before you start to have a family, do it now before you get pregnant and feel you've missed out on anything.
2007-04-13 12:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On those three things then yes your ready to have a child. Emotionally is another story...only you can answer that. Kids are wonderful but can be stressful on a relationship if it's not strong. You don't get the time to be together that you used to for the first little while. For me it was worth it. My husband and I just worked harder at making time for just the 2 of us. MY husband wanted kids early in our marraige to...he is older and wanted to be able to enjoy them. Not be 40 with a 10 yr old if you catch my drift.
2007-04-13 12:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tina D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I would think of the implications. Having a child is not easy with someone, and can also leave you with a lot of ties and responsibilities. I haven't got anything against it, but make sure your husband loves you dearly and you love him and that you're ok with having his children. You are still quite young afterall.
However, if you feel its' the right choice for you, then go ahead and try, and best of luck to you. I wish you all the best.
Toodles
2007-04-13 12:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by thetruesloth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you two; I personally would not be having kids until I was at least 25-26, or later. But you two should make your own choice. The real truth is, it's never a "good time"; you just go for it. If I waited for a "good time", it would be never; at some point, you just have to decide you're going for it, and just do it. (I'm 32, have no kids, and still don't feel it's a "good time". Looks like I will have to "just do it".)
2007-04-13 12:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that is what you want to , its a wonderful little miracle but a full time job too. Hope you can spend some time with the baby after it's born. It is so hard to leave them and go to work , you miss so much. Best wishes to you and your husband.
2007-04-13 12:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you ask a bunch of people on yahoo answers to answer one of the most important questions in your life? if 5 people say yes on here are you going to do it??? if you are financially stable and it is what you both want then yes, if not then no. in any case good luck to you!
2007-04-13 12:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by poker22only 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋