What should you do if you love your husband with all of your heart but he is constantly upsetting you?

Question

I love him to death but,he has changed.He never thinks about my feeling anymore and is so disreceptfull.What do I do?

Answer 1

What is he doing to upset you? Have you changed? I got on this same path and realized I was asking more of him - he hadn't changed. You just need to get on the same page again. Go on dates, have a hobby together, get back to basics. I think we get in this mindset of "letdown expectation", and we over analyze everything rather than let it go.

Answer 2

Frist of all, are there anything else going in your marriage that would seem like it might be putting stress on him...such as a lost job, financial problems, him working too much? If there is, then maybe instead of talking and working it out with you, he might just be taking it out on you and he might not realize this. Also, you could have done something that made him to respond that way towards you. Best advice is to talk it out with him. If he is not the kind of easy husband to talk to or you just don't know how to say the right words...write him a letter or email him. Remember communication is key to understanding eachother. If talking does not work, back away from him a little...just act like you can do just fine without him and maybe then he'll start to miss you and come around. If none of these work, maybe its time to reconsider being with him.

But if things don't work out and you decide to be with him, be patient.... I am currently in the same situation as you are now and very sad that things aren't working out but i still can't leave him. I find it very sad when you marry someone for the great person he is and after marriage, he's no longer the same anymore. Anyways, I hope your husband is easier to talk to and that you two will work things out. Best of luck to you!!!

Answer 3

You be VERY respectful to him without being a doormat. Do not whine and complain about stuff. Say, something like, hey, you want to go out to the movies? Your turn to pick the movie. or you want to go out to eat, your turn to pick the restaurant. So he gets the message that sometimes you are entitled to have a turn. Or your turn for me to give you a full body massage. You know how to do that don't you? You both get naked and go get a nice big bottle of canola oil and slip and slide on his back and front, guaranteed to have the best sex ever. Then you both take a shower and clean up and have some nice relaxing music on when you are sliding. LOLOLOL. I made love once to classical music of Romeo and Juliet and it was the best experience I ever had so far. LOL. Very erotic stuff.

Answer 4

You have to sit him down and tell him what is going on in your head and heart. If, at the end of the day, he doesn't respect you, you should think about divorce. You are not required to stay in a relationship if he is abusing you emotionally.

Answer 5

You need to talk to him and let him know your feelings for you. Try to give him some time to think about it.

Good Luck :)

Answer 6

as a man i would appreciate my wife telling me first and if that didnt work then maybe some kind of shock treatment... tell me u need abreak for a few days as your tired of being put down etc... that would def maske me think


hope it works out..... but rem dont give up !!! fight for it.....

Answer 7

Pray and talk -- communication is the thread that bonds relationships together.

Answer 8

Bring it to his attention and tell him he has to stop treating you bad.

Answer 9

Tell him he's ruining the marriage.

Answer 10

TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. TELL HIM HOW YOU FILL. HE CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND. ASK HIM IF EVERTHING IS OK. HE MIGHT HAVE SOMETHING ON HIM MIND. YOU CAN'T READ HIS MIND EITHER. TALK. GOOD LUCK. AND DON'T GIVE UP.