or future husband? I'm curious to know how women really think about this since the man is supposed to be head of the house.
2007-04-13 12:12:06 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
So are you from the middle east or are you a time traveler from 1935?
2007-04-13 12:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
Okay obey is not a good word. But i respect my hubby and his wishes but that doesnt mean i have to. And the man being the head of household was back in the 30s. Now and days it both of the people in the relationship.
2007-04-13 12:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no where written that says we must obey our husbands other than in wedding vows and I don't think it means to bow down and wipe their shoes. We are to respect and honor our husbands and they are to love us and treat us as gentlely as possible and this is Biblical for anyone who would like to look it up. I am old fashioned in that I believe mothers should stay at home and raise their children if at all possible. I know in this day and time and with the cost of living, it's almost impossible. I believe in keeping the romance alive and that can happen when the marriage is not just 50/50 but 100/100 percent for each person. It takes two to make a marriage and I just don't believe God intended for us to bow down take any kind of abuse which I did for along time and that he wants us to be happy.
My second husband and I have had many stressors in the almost 9 years we've been married. We have seperated for a short period, we recieved counseling but not one time has he ever told me to "OBEY" him. He's a good man and he's different (haven't been able to teach him to pick up after himself) but that's a little thing compared to some things. He has been good to me and patient with me and my disease that I found out about after we had been married for about 4 years plus we gained custody of my son's child. So no I don't accept the fact that we are to "obey" and God does not expect us to obey wrong doing either. I know of several husbands - one in particular that has encouraged his wife to go forth with what she has wanted to do. She raised her children and went back to school - the seminary, travels and gives lectures and seminars and he loves her enough to allow her to do this. When she's home, she gives him her attention so it's a two way street. This obey as in bow down is only to be given to God - I bow to no man but I will love my husband and we can work together but God is the light of my life and he is who I obey.
One other little thing that I've always heard, the man is the head but the wife is the neck that turns the head - remember that ladies.
2007-04-13 12:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by grandmabonnie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am divorced so I have not problem at all since I no longer have one. I don't intend to get another one if he expects me to 'OBEY' him either. That is what is wrong with relationships today. Someone thinks they should be in charge. I think we all have our different things that we bring to the marriage and can learn to compromise on what issues we don't see eye to eye with. There is a diferece between being HOH and being a dictator.
2007-04-13 15:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My future husband wouldn't do that to me. I wouldn't marry him if he did. It's going to be equal all the way. Nobody is going to be the head of anything. It's all about balance for me. One of us might be more talented in one area, but that's okay. I'm not all for that "obey, honor" crap, hate to say it. My vows are gonna be so different. And for the head of the house situation, unless I'm on Big Brother, there will not be one in my marriage.
2007-04-13 12:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Hugo rocks 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm in college at the moment and yes when i do get married my husband will be the head of the house. what he says goes. now that's not to say that i won't have a say or have some independence. my future husband will know what's best for me for us as a couple. if you ask me that's one of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high today and marriage is not seen as sacred as it once was. along with women's liberation came the mistake of the lack of respect which is most common today. the man is the head of the house and is supposed to support his wife and family. it may seem old fashioned, but if you look in the past you'll see that with this way of thinking most marriages lasted longer, 50 or so years. look at John and June Cash, two country legends, or look at your grandparents. chances are they have/had a long marriage. look at loretta lynn and her husband doolittle or barbara mandrell and her husband. in their marriages the man supported the women's singing/entertaining careers but the men still had the last word, protected and advised them and knew what was best. marriage is something that is until death do us part. the wife is supposed to be subordinate to the husband, but the husband is supposed to be respectful, supportive, give advice, protective, and trustworthy to the wife. call it old fashioned but that's what i think and believe and how it will be when i get married.
2007-04-13 12:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I am a man. My wife expects me to advise her about a lot of things that actual she actually needs no advise about and would be at a total loss without my opinion. She is a very unusual and timid woman that I love and provide for, protect and shelter in every way possible. We may have a unique relationship but it works well for us and we are very happy.I only wish everyone had it as good as we do.
2007-04-13 12:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
no,i don't have a hard time - that's how it is,always has been,and should be. The husband is the provider,the protector - the decision maker and head of the family.With all that stress of taking care of me - i want to make it as pleasurable and easy as possible.
2007-04-14 02:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem accepting the fact that I should obey my husband, but sometimes I have a problem obeying him when it goes against what I want. That is the real test, and sometimes I fail despite my best efforts.
2007-04-13 15:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Those days are over and in most cases the wife is often the person who rules the house and the husband (way too many married friends in this predicament).
This day and age, it's equal and nobody is the head, it's shared.
2007-04-13 12:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by trojan 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i am not expected to obey no 1 and iam head of the house if i wasn't nothing would get done
2007-04-14 11:37:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋