Do you think if a woman wears something revealing...?

Question

Do you think if a woman wears something revealing, that she sets herself up for rape or any other kind sexual harrassment? Why should she be responsible for another mans reaction? Why can he not be responsible? For his reaction. Our mothers have always told us to keep covered and don't be a "stubbling block for men". When will become more resposible for their actions? I or any other woman should not have to be afraid to walk down the street, wether fully clothe or half naked, with out worrying about being rape or assaulted by man.
Feed back please!!

Answer 1

Well, you are preaching to the choir. No one asks to be raped, by definition, if they asked, it wouldn't be rape. And a woman's dress or demeanor in no way is ever an invitation for rape. Rapists go after women who they view as weak and who they can overpower. Rape is about power, not sex. If you are fat, skinny, old, young, ugly, pretty, it doesn't matter. That means nothing to a rapist. If he can overpower you, that's all that matters.

My mother never told me to not be a "stubbling block for men". I don't even know what that means. However, the way you dress does affect how people perceive you. You wouldn't show up to work in a hoochie skirt, of course. But that doesn't mean it's okay for your boss or male coworkers to make sexual advances towards you. But if you find you are treated differently or not taken as seriously, well, that is something you brought on yourself. You have the right to wear whatever you want, but you should also have common sense enough to know that people often treat you the way you present yourself and clothing has a lot to do with that. This has nothing to do with rape but in general, respect.

Answer 2

Big difference between ogling and rape. If a woman wears revealing clothes she will attract attention. She might attract the attention of someone she wants to look at her. And she might attract the attention of people she doesn't want looking at her. People will be evaluating her judgement, her body, her style, etc. Men will be sizing her up. Some people will make a comment. "Nice _ (outfit, body part)" or "I wanna _" or "Put some clothes on!". And she can expect this with some degree of certainty. Even if it's summer and everyone else is half naked there will be people who look, people who stare, and people who can't keep their big mouths shut. But set up for rape? HELL NO! Even if a prostitute was drunk and running down a dark alley naked no one would have the right to rape her. PERIOD. There's no excuse for rape.
Me, I'm an avocate for personal responsibility AND clothes. The two don't have to be mutually exclusive. I think women (and men) should be fully clothed in public. I think people who wear unusual clothing or less clothing than the norm should understand that everyone will be looking and some will be talking. So they don't get to tell people not to look at them cuz it will happen. But everyone has the right to reject advances and everyone has the responsibility to keep their hands and everything else off another person until they have explicit permission to do otherwise.

Answer 3

There are circumstances women can put themselves in that might increase their risk of sexual assault (revealing clothes, excessive use of alcohol or drugs etc)

HOWEVER (and it's a big however) there is not a direct cause and effect relationship between a woman wearing revealing clothes and getting raped. Sometimes you can be enticingly dressed and seductive as all get out with an objective towards desired sex and not get a flicker out of the significant other. And then other times you can be sitting there minding your own business in more ordinary clothes reading a boOK and get quite an unexpected "rise" out of him. That seems to illustrate better than any rhetoric how little control we have over other people’s actions.

We are responsible for our own actions but we cannot be held responsible for other peoples. Just to use as an alternate example, suppose someone leaves their keys in their car and forgets to lock the doors. They have put themselves at greater risk for having their car stolen and really did a pretty stupid thing. But that does not make it ok (legally, morally, ethically) for someone to steal that car.

Answer 4

no i do not it is not her fault but the fault of the attacker as it was the attacker who chose to attack her . the woman could not attack herself so to say she is somehow at fault is absurd.yes a woman should be able to walk around fully clothed or half naked without fear of assault. nudists believed that if the naked body became a common site there would cease to be such an element of lust about it. nudists also thought that people should be free to be nude even work in schools nude. there use to be nude beaches in the sixties i have heard so why not. i have always thought a woman should be able to do what she pleases without fear of harrassment and it was not her problem but a problem of the harassers who are usually male . males should help educate each other and take steps to prevent harassment get together talk to each other about rape harrasment speak out against it join women in an effort to get rid of it. publish articles in the newspaper about it which send a clear message this is wrong this does not have to happen it is not inevitable that it will happen anywhere in the world it can stop if all the men in the world get togther and aknowledge it as a sexist act it could be gone forever.did i go over board or do you like my answer.i do not know what you will think of my choice of source but here it is.that is if they have not already made efforts which have been ignored by the media

Answer 5

This attitude is a HUGE injustice to both men and women!

Men are COMPLETELY responsible for their own actions. To expect anything less than personal responsibility and self control from a man implies that he is somehow deficient.

It is NOT acceptable to blurt out whatever random crude thoughts that come to mind, or to view a woman in scanty clothing as an invitation of any kind. Boys need to be taught this, and if some men don't already know it, then they need remedial lessons.

In a civilized society, a woman should be able to wear whatever she pleases without fear of assault. Society blaming the victim is abhorrent.

For those who say she dresses that way to get attention, I say maybe so, but the KIND of attention you give her comes down to YOUR personal responsibility. If you commit a crime, YOU are at fault and YOU need to accept the consequences.

Answer 6

A woman should be able to walk down the street naked and not be raped, that is just common sense. No one in their right mind can ever blame a woman for being raped because of what she was or wasn't wearing.

As far as the woan who expressed anger at boys looking at her because she wants to wear shorts or other revealing outfits, what you are asking is not reasonable,you have a right not to be harrassed , but it's human nature for someone to look at something they are attracted to, and if you are dressing provacatively then men (or women) are goingto look if they find you attractive.That doesnt give them a right to do anything to you but they do have a right to look and admire.

Answer 7

No woman should ever be subjected to unwanted sexual advances. At least not after the first no.

Sexual assault is horrible, and rapists should be thrown in jail for a long time.

That being said, if you wear something revealing, you should expect sexual advances, and expect men to look at you. You don't wear revealing clothes so that men will ignore you, right?

Answer 8

Women have the right to wear whatever they want...I believe they shouldn't have to worry about rape or sexual harassment. One thing I do slightly disagree with though is this...You are inviting men to "stare" more than normal. But, I still don't believe that they have the right to do anything that would truly be considered sexual harassment.

Answer 9

My feelings on this? A woman could walk down the street BUCK NAKED with a sign on her back that says "F**k me now", and if she is approached and says "no", but some guy "proceeds" anyway, then there is still no "blame" on her part.
Men are responsible for their own actions.

Answer 10

I would like to walk down any street with a wad of $20's in my breast pocket and gold plated rolex on my wrist. However, people will always want to take what they cannot get through normal means.

Be it stealing a persons money, or using them for sadistic/sexual gratification, the best one can do is reduce the possibility it may happen to them. As such, I carry plastic and don't wear a watch, just as a woman can wear a fully buttoned blouse and khakis to work/school/etc.

People will treat you in a fashion befitting your appearance; be it a business suit, dirty rags, or a plunging v-necked tank top. If you dress like a whore, you will be treated like one.