if my girlfriend is three pregnant and she doest want to have it and she doesnt believe in abortions..?

Question

and she doest mind giving it up for adoption but she is afraid of getting attached so she may end up keeping it what are we to do? are there pills that she can take now that can make the baby disappear? if so she said she is willing take them but, she said she only knows of one pill but that pill only works the day after the sex occurred so what can we do to prevent this baby from being born? i know many of you out there think we are wrong for doing this but we are only 18 and 19. we cant do this. she is more for trying to see what they can do to keep it. im more for letting it go.

Answer 1

My SIL had a baby at 15....you CAN do this! I know it may seem impossible right now, but you two had sex...obviously sex results in pregnancy. Just deal with it...grow up and take responsiblity for your actions.

Answer 2

The only pill that there is out there really to "make a baby disappear" is the morning after pill, which prevents ovulation and if an egg is there and does get fertilized prevents it from implanting *most of the time*

At this point anything you guys do to "make the baby disappear* will be considered an abortion. So the only real choice if you guys don't feel you are ready for a child is adoption.

She may get attached that is natural. Have her speak to adoption professionals. They deal with this type of thing all the time and can counsel you as to the best way for all of you to go about giving the baby up for adoption.

If you want to try and raise the child go for it. Many people have raised children at your age or younger and succeeded. It is tougher, but it can be done.

I would suggest to go with your heart. If you truly don't feel you can provide this child the best opportunities in life then do whats right. Just remember, you may regret it down the road. Think long and hard, search not only your financial balance sheet but your heart. If you love each other and love this child you can make it work for the three of you.

Good Luck in whatever you decide to do.

Answer 3

If she does not believe in abortion, the only option is adoption or parent. You may be only 18 and 19 but you were 2 consenting adults when you had sex- be responsible. The abortion pills that you are talking about , not the Morning after pill that you mentioned, causes abortion. The pill that she would take now is very dangerous to her- excessive bleeding, pain, deliver the fetus, maybe alone at home- messes up her hormones and can cause miscarriages and futility prob. later- a pill will not make the baby disappear- it will die. Adoption is a great choice, if my birth mom chose abortion I would not be here.Also I have 2 adopted kids as well. Choose life- because a baby is a gift and not a choice.

Answer 4

When my bf and I found out I was pregnant we thought the exact same way you guys do. Exactly. You're trying to be logical and realize you're not ready for this right now, you're too young, you don't have the money, etc. She's going through the emotional side of things and thinking of the impact of abortion, adoption and keeping it. It is a tough situation to be in! I know! I'm guessing she probably wants to keep the baby but she's scared. Maybe she doesn't even know she really wants it yet.

Have you guys considered going to counseling together? I don't know if you're in school or not, but at my college they offer free counseling. It's been so helpful. You both really need to communicate a lot right now. I hope your relationship is strong so you can support each other. You need that. Good luck with everything and remember not to rush into anything. You have time to sort things out and it does get easier! The first few weeks are the worst.

Answer 5

You need to realize that you are dealing with a child!!! And that will never just "go away". Any course you take, whether it be abortion, adoption, or parenthood, that child will have a place in her mind and heart. Being a guy, you are slow to understand the attachment that she will have. And you need to support her no matter what. Give it up for adoption, Let 2 people who truly deserve a child raise and love it. People that won't look at it as a mistake. I adopted my son at 8 years old. I made a decision and I stuck with it. Was it hard, yeah of course, but for once in my life, I was doing something for someone other than me. You are lucky that she is a good person with some type of conscience.

Answer 6

I had a baby at 18.. got pregnant at 17 and i am fine. There are no pills that will 'make it go away'. i think you mean the morning afterpill and yea that has to be taken right away.. Im dure if yer GF is 3wk or 3months so its hard to give much advance. The only way to get rid of it is Abortion.. they have 'pills' but its you have to goto a clinic etc etc to get it done.. Dont use the 'we cant do it' excuse becuase i know PLENTY of ppl at 18 who have kept there children when they have been pregnant that young and they all say they would never give that child up for the world!

Answer 7

WELL WHAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS TALKING ABOUT IS THE MORNING AFTER PILL, BUT IT DOESN'T PREVENT THE BABY FROM BEING BORN. IT DOESN'T ALLOW THE SPERM TO INSEMINATE THE EGG.
BUT THERE IS NOT PILL TO TAKE AWAY HER PREGNANCY. AND IF SHE DOESN'T BELIEVE IN ABORTIONS, HOW WOULD TAKING A PILL TO TAKE AWAY THE PREGNANCY DIFFERENT?
I AM SORRY TO SAY THAT THE TIME FOR THINKING YOU ARE TOO YOUNG ARE OVER. YOU SHOULD OF THOUGHT OF YOUR AGE WHEN YOU WERE HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX.
BUT IF SHE IS UNSURE ABOUT KEEPING THE BABY, SHE CAN MAKE ARRANGEMENTS TO PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, WITH CONDITIONS. LIKE THAT IF SHE DECIDES TO KEEP THE BABY SHE CAN WITHOUT ANY REPERCUSSIONS. OR SHE MAY KEEP IT AND THEN PUT IT UP FOR ADOPTION BECAUSE SHE FEELS SHE CAN'T HANDLE IT. EITHER WAY SHE REALLY NEEDS TO TALK TO SOME SORT OF COUNSELOR OR SOCIAL WORKER ABOUT THIS.
BUT IF SHE DECIDES NOT TO KEEP THE BABY, SHE NEEDS TO TAKE FURTHER PRE-CAUTIONS. LIKE GO ON THE PILL SO THIS WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN. BUT ALSO, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, GET PRE NATAL CARE. SHE NEEDS TO TAKE CARE OF THIS BABY NOW, BECAUSE HER HEALTH CAN BE IN JEOPARDY.
HAVING A BABY IS A LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE WHETHER YOU KEEP IT OR NOT, SO MAKE YOUR DECISION WISELY. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.

Answer 8

Of course you don't mind letting the baby go, your a man, it doesn't matter as much to most guys as it does to girls. No, There is not a pill, no there is not a way to prevent the baby from being born, and no, I would not consider abortion an option. There are many childless-couples out there who would love to adopt your baby, I have several friends who are adopted, and all have loving parents who love them just as much as if they had been there biological children.
boy+girl+sex=baby. You wanted to have sex like adults, so now you have to deal with this like an adult. Don't make a stupid decision, and maybe next time you want get in bed, think about it first.

Answer 9

What does three pregnant mean? Do you mean three months pregnant? If that is what you meant it is too late to take an abortion pill.

You are really limiting yourself on options here. I mean you say you guys don't want to have it and she doesn't believe in abortions and you don't want to give it up for adoptions, there isn't much else.

Why don't you guys look into open adoptions? That way you can see how the baby is growing and you can keep in touch with the family.

Answer 10

From working at an abortion clinic in Indiana their state law is 13 weeks or less for vacuum (suction) abortion. and 7 weeks or less for the pill abortion. If she is farther than 10 weeks the pill will not work.. I will almost guarentee you she would not want a 2nd trimester abortion. It is not pretty. I will also tell you if you take her to have one and she tells the Dr. performing the abortion she doesn't want to have it done, he will NOT do it. The abortion is her choice no one elses. More than likely get used to the idea of being a daddy, right now it seems like a step back in your life, but when that little one smiles at you for the first time, it is like nothing in the world. That baby will be the love of your life....

Answer 11

Sorry, but there is no magic pill that will just magically make ti go away.

If she doesn't want an abortion, then she is left with two options. Keeping it and raising it the best she can, or giving it up for adoption.

Tell her to go to a crisis pregnancy clinic and talk over her options with a counselor. They are wonderful and can help her sort through all her emotions.

God bless you!