I am from India, nearly 95% marriages here are arranged by the parents. What is your take on this.?

Question

Parents get the allaince for their children, and all the relatives from Mother and father side come to the marriage. I do not know how the Marriage system is there in USA. And is it a surprise for americans that most of the Indian marriages are arranged ones by their parents.

Answer 1

I bet the divorce rate is a lot lower there too. People here marry whoever they want, then once the "in love"feeling are gone, more than half of the time they split up.

Answer 2

I have a few Indian friends and a few still live in India. I am not shocked and hey if it works for you, whats the prob? In America we are taught the American dream and thats also to marry, have a nice home, stable job, and children, simialr to your. America is a melting pot so when you say marriage system" it is hard to describe as we have many types. I am a Christian, and our ceremonies are held at a venue(church, garden, museum, family's home, in aother country, etc) but the idea is having both sides of the family there on opposite sides of the venue to partake and join as one family. There are groomsmen and bridesmaids. These people are there in support of the grrom and bride and they stand opposite groom and bride, yadda yadda... there a priest/reverend/ officiate there to say pieces from the Holy Bible and th grrom and brode recite vows. they promise to onlypart when due to death(like your system). Marriage in America is supposedly life long. We have types of "arrangement", there are friends, cousins, sisters, etc who play "match-maker" but it is not coherced and there is not necesarrily and end result(sometimes ppl who were "fixed up" up marry) but again it is not promoted by the family as a unit. And there is no set age to marry by. Like in India, the daughter marries before the son, we dont have that. We are more flexible in the sense that we can pick and chose for the most part. Some ppl donot marry out of their "social class" but its not that common as there with the banished caste system still used in India(Brahman marries Brahamn, etc)... soo much to talk about my friend.... feel free to mail me*

Answer 3

I personally think that everyone should have the right to choose. I have an Indian friend (she lives in America) who's parents want to arrange a marriage for her, like they did her brother's, but she wants to choose. It may come down to being disowned for her right to choose or marrying someone she may or may not fall in love with/connect with.

Answer 4

I know that it definitely doesn't end in as many divorces as here, but seriously, why let your parents pick when all Indian movies ever are about love? It's kind of depressing.

Answer 5

Makes one more great thing about living in the USA. I'm wondering if the marriage doesn't work and they divorce, do the parents pay the alimony?

Answer 6

That sounds a hail of a lot better than the American system: We call it "love". Maybe we can import some of your great ideas, along with your hard-working and beautiful call center ladies!

Answer 7

In America, and all other developed western countries, like the UK, France, Spain, Germany etc. people marry for love, rather than their parents picking for them.

Answer 8

whats the divorce rate. ours is 55% so if your is alot less maybe we should have prearranged marriages too.we here tend to marry for love or because we think we are in love. i wish i could pick my daughters husband cause the guy she is with is just plain yuck. i hate him.

Answer 9

I say that people should choose who they want to marry! They should marry someone they truly love, not someone their parents "love"... they're the ones who have to spend the rest of their lives with their spouse, not the parents... if you're gonna spend the rest of your live with someone, why not someone you love instead of your parent's pick?

Answer 10

It's not surprising anymore. We have been hearing about this for years. I think it's wrong. YOU should choose who you marry.