I know i'm too bossy....how do i stop?

Question

I want things my way or nothing and i know this and i hate it!!!

Answer 1

(-: I've also had a real problem with this. One thing I do if I find I'm insisting on my way is to stop for a minute. I think about, "Well, what's the worst that could happen if we do it *their* way?" If it makes little impact on me, or if it looks like it could be a good learning experience, I say, "OK, let's try it your way."

If it's going to make a big hassle in the future, then I try to convince the person to do it my way. But I also listen, and try to compromise to make a solution that is better than my way and their way.

I think we try to be too efficient these days, and it winds up alienating people, and we also get solutions that aren't the best solutions. I do believe that "two heads are better than one" and I try to remember that when I'm getting into "control freak" mode.

You *do* need to have control over certain aspects of your life. You might look into that, and when you feel secure and safe there, you might feel a little more leeway in other areas of your life.

Answer 2

Being bossy is an attempt to control a situation or person. People who are frequently bossy often feel inside as if they do not have enough control.

If this describes you, remind yourself that you cannot control anyone but yourself. YOU are the ONLY person you can actually control. If you are trying to control others because you feel out of control in your own life, step back and focus on controlling that which you CAN control...yourself and the choices YOU make.

When it comes to getting your way with others, remember the above, then change your thinking from "getting your way" to "earning cooperation". When someone does something you want them to do, they are cooperating with you. This is true whether the person is motivated by money (as in when you are their boss at work), by sex (as in when you are their romantic interest), by love (as in when you are their friend or family member), or by a shared goal (as in when you are teammates, roommates, or coworkers).

Cooperation can be tricky to earn, but as long as you're thinking of it as earning cooperation rather than imposing your will, you will be much more likely to succeed.

There is a whole series of books called "The Right Use Of Will". All seven books can be boiled down to this quote from the first book in the series... study this, meditate on it, repeat it daily as an affirmation... it will help: The practice of the Right Use of Will is "being able to accept everything involved in the process of coming into agreement without overpowering or denying anything".

Answer 3

You must be a Leo lol. Or have strong Leo in your chart. All Leo females I know are like this, lol. Drives this Aries nuts!! What you need to realize is this, Its not about You. You are making everything about yourself, not considering others, they're opinions and feelings. This is something you will learn as you grow.

Answer 4

sounds a bit selfish. Try to be more generous.

If it is a work situation and you are the boss, well then be as bossy as you want.

Answer 5

Think about the other person and how they would feel. My older sister always told me "Think before you act." Think before you react to someone/something.

Or...

See a psychologist or pschyatrist

Answer 6

it happens to me i just try to compromise with whoever it is

Answer 7

just relax