ok so the day after Christmas I come home and my mom tells me she's moving out. Merry Christmas me!:( anyway...it really tore me apart.My parents had been married for 19 years. I had to move out of my nice neighborhood that i loved into two new houses that are ok but it just doesn't feel like home. i feel like i have just been ripped apart or something. I hear my parents say bad things about eachother and it just hurts. Things are getting better but some nights i just cry myself to sleep. I am afraid to talk about it with friends and people that I trust anymore because i think they are getting tired of it! help me! how do i cope with this!?
2007-04-13 11:10:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've got to stop reminiscing, stop thinking about how you would like things to be and, instead, try to find happiness in your life as it is, now.
Aren't you glad that both of your parents are now free to find someone to love that will be good to them & make their lives better?
Don't let them speak badly to/about each other in front of you. If one says something bad to you about the other, say "Hey, I really don't like to hear you talking about my dad/mom that way. I love him/her. I'm sorry that you don't anymore, but I have the right to continue loving him/her. It doesn't make me love you any less. I would say the same to him/her if they spoke badly about you." Leave the room when they start speaking badly to each other, or just zone them out. They are adults, they should be behaving like adults, but if they aren't it's not your problem when they work out parent/adult things like children.
Just keep concentrating on being the best person you can be, growing, learning, having a good life. Don't let the negative parts of their breakup affect your future.
2007-04-13 11:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from. My parents got divorced around the time I was in 1st grade. Now I'm almost in 11th and it still hurts and I still cry myself to sleep sometimes. The way I cope, IS, to talk to my friends about it and writing it in poetry or listening to music that relates. I went to therapy for awhile and that just made everything feel worse. I can't even drive past my old house without crying... It's a normal feeling you are having and maybe knowing that other girls feel the same way you do might make it feel better. My parents will say horrible things about each other sometimes, I laugh sometimes because it's true or I will ask them to please not to say anything in front of me and keep to themselves. I know it hurts and you will get through it.. It's though but just hang in there and hopefully things will get better.
2007-04-13 11:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can easily relate to this. My Parents announced that they were getting a divorce back in Christmas of 1997, and it was the hardest thing for me, EVER. There would be times to where I would just sit in the bathroom in total pitch black darkness and just cry my eyes out. Some days were easy to cope with, others were very hard for me. It took me over a year & a half just to get back to my normal self again. As it turned out, my dad married my mom's best girlfriend in 1999, and that cut the cake there. My dad invited me to go to the wedding, but I refused.
2015-10-27 13:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember they're divorcing each other, and not you. I know it doesn't feel that way, but it's true. When they say bad things about the other one in front of you, gently tell them that you know they're hurting, but you can't be their confidant for what's happening..you love them both, and you're not going to pick one over the other. If it continues, give the parent a kiss on the forehead, say "I love you" and leave the room.
Just remember, you aren't alone. Lots of kids go through this, and it's never easy.
2007-04-13 11:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry hun, theirs not really much you can do to cope. but if you need anything heres my email...chica_chick666@yahoo.com . my parents are divorced and they got divorced after 14 years. they talk bad bout each other. i had to move out of a house i lived in for 12 yrs. it was horrible. if you wanna talk bout it, i'll listen, and i wont get tired of it.
2007-04-13 11:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by londonbridge101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor doll.
You will overcome this terrible sad news. Time to think of yourself now, and not them! It's not your fault! Time is the only healer. Now go out and have some fun for a few days!
Take care and keep your chin up!
2007-04-13 11:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Charles B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them both to stop the arguing because it was upsetting u..........they will stop.
Anyway most couples argue cause they still like eachother.
You said they was getting better so it wont be long before they are friends again.
Some divorced people get on better when they divorce.
Good luck you will be fine.......make sure u tell them though.x
2007-04-13 11:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋