Help! I don`t know what to do anymore!?

Question

My mom is always under alot of stress, because she NEEDS to get a job, so she can be happy, and because she needs to pay off some of her debts. She already doing some at home schooling for experience, but the job she wants, she is still not qualified enough.
And because she is under so much stress, she eats junk food alot, and I tell her to eat healthier, then she just tells me to f*** off!
So what should I do to help her! Because it doesn`t look like she is helping herself too much!

Answer 1

Oh Honey, I am so sorry to hear this. It is very awful that parents are so overwhelmed these days they can barely take care of themselves let alone their children. I grew up in a single parent home as well...or I am assuming you are in a single parent home. Please do not take this all on your shoulders. You cannot help your mom at this point. She is in a position now that she is the only one who can help herself.

Is there is a way you can get your mom or you both can get into some counseling? A professional third party may help. There are some facilities that charge very minimal depending on your income.

In the meantime please take care of yourself! Concentrate on school and giving yourself a positive future. Believe in yourself. You are a good person. Keep telling yourself that. Things are not easy right now but keep your hopes alive. Read a good book. Be with friends who can pick you up in a positive manner. Do something that you enjoy doing that does not harm you in anyway. Love and pray for your mom. If anything sit down and watch The Secret with her. It might sound lame but it's cheap and who know what it might spark, kay.

Take care.

Answer 2

Sorry but you can only help someone that is willing to help them self first, just keep loving her and try to encourage her to eat healthier without hounding her, try not buying any junk food and eating it around her.
I know what your going through I had a girlfriend that was over weight and I mean a lot and she was warned by the doctor even and still she kept doing it, it just hurts to watch a person killing them self like that, but from experience hounding them Doe's not work for her family kept doing this and it seemed to just make her eat that much more.
Just show her you love her and be there for her.
I wish you all the luck for this is no different than any other type of addiction and needs to be treated that way .

Answer 3

Sounds like your mom is depressed...no job, overeating junk food, being 'short' with you et al, etc. If she is unwilling to acquire the appropriate education/skills/abilities to get "the job she wants", that is a decision. You should consider being a bit less direct in your interactions with her. (Don't 'tell' her to eat healthier.)How about you and she embarking on an exercise program together. At least a walking program to start will give you a chance to have a conversation with her in a setting other than the home. Keep in mind that she is stressed out. Take it easy with her. Show her love and understanding. Volunteer to prepare a meal (make it healthful), etc. At this stage she needs your assistance. Good luck to you and her.

Answer 4

First of all, since she's the parent, you shouldn't be worrying too much about the household; that's her responsibility since you didn't mention a father or step-father in the picture. The only thing you can do as the child is keep encouraging her, and, if you're old enough, maybe you can get a little job of your own to help out a bit (babysitting, or if you're a teenager, you may be able to work at a fast food joint or grocery store). If there is no one else in the house to help, that's pretty much all you can and need to do. And, above all else, pray HARD.

Answer 5

i think all you can do is just love her and support her and let her know you are there for her cause it sounds like she is not ready for anyone to help her she is letting the real world bring her down and she cant get help or be sucsesful until she decides thats what she really wants but she cant just sit around and eat all the time and have pitty for herself insted of sitting there eating all the time she could put that effort into studying or something to help her in life and tell you to f*** off just because she is mad at her self and maybe you need to tell her that well good luck girl and i wish you and your mom the best

Answer 6

Your mom is caught in a vicious cycle of low self esteem and low expectations for herself. Even getting her outside for a 30 minute walk with you will greatly enhance her mood and it is quality time spent with you. When people are stressed they eat crappy food and feel lousy about themselves. Help her break the cycle with a little exercise if you can. Good luck!

Answer 7

You could look for jobs for her in your local paper or on the net that she could do while she is getting qualified. Tell her that will help with her stress until she gets what she wants.

Answer 8

If your mother didn't took your advice about eating healthier i doubt she will listen to other of your advices , as the job , go and talk to the employer yourself and see what more is needed and maybe you can obtain for your mother.

Answer 9

at this time you should be a really good friend to her then a daughter. maybe if she discuss problems with she will feel better. tell her about the consiquences for not eating healthy food. and don't think about anything and just do this as quickly as you can.

Answer 10

I think you should encourage your mom. sometimes when we try to give family members advice they take it as criticism when that's not what we intend at all. you should say nice things to her and offer to help her look for a job. maybe when she gets the job, everything else will fall into place, like her health and how she's eating.
Good luck to you!!