My friend got married at 19. I think she was too young, but whatever. Last summer her husband was living in another town (he had to finish his job in the other town before he could move to this town with her) and during that summer my friend cheated on her husband with three different men, that I know of. Every time she drinks it seems like she falls into bed with another man. Her husband has to know about this because she hasn't exactly been secretive about it. There are lots of people that know about her infidelity.
2007-04-13 10:40:43 · 14 answers · asked by cutietexanchik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not jealous of her and no, I don't want to sleep with her. I did say something to her about it. I told her that she is not being honest or fair to her husband and the vows they share. She got really angry with me and hasn't talked to me. I just want to show her without hurting her husband just how badly her actions are going to affect him.
Sometimes I think the only reason she got married is so that there would always be someone there.
2007-04-13 11:41:38 · update #1
The only person who can help her is herself. She cheats because she wants to cheat. There is nothing you can, or should do. However, you should end your friendship, until and unless she stops acting like a bar hog. We ARE judged by the company we keep. Do you really want slutty married friends?
2007-04-13 10:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 12:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't be friends with someone that is that dishonest. If she cheats on him she shows she is sneaky and not trust worthy. Why would she treat you any different. It's in her blood. Whether she married young or not, 3 guys that you know of shows she has no respect for anyone....the 3 guys, her husband, herself and even her friends that are disturbed by her sexual appetite. People like this deserve to die old lonely.
2007-04-13 11:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got married before she was ready. What she needs is someone to be her friend, but also be honest and try to help her not cheat on her husband. Good luck with that.
2007-04-13 11:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close friends you could certainly tell her you don't approve, but she doesn't need your approval or disapproval. She married way to young and apparently for the wrong reasons. Let's just hope she doesn't start making babies with her husband or any of the troops.
2007-04-13 11:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is a good idea to approach your friend with that kind of judgment to begin with. what do you know about her relationship with her husband? maybe she is unhappy in her relationship and looking for intimacy in the wrong places. its possible that her husband doesnt spend a lot of quality time with her. i think the best thing to do is to ask her why she cheats in the first place, tell her how you feel about cheating, and then if there is no getting through to her maybe distance yourself a little from that friendship. good luck.
2007-04-13 11:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by k-la 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you don't like or agree with what she does, unless she asks for your opinion, stay out of it. She will do what she wants and you can't control her behavior. But you can control yours, based on how she conducts herself, you must decide if you want to be her friend or not.
2007-04-16 16:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight with her. you are her best friend so the best thing you could do is keep it real. you might hurt her feelings, make her mad at you or whatever, but that's what best friends do. sometimes when others won't do it, it's up to you to let her know.
2007-04-13 10:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would shoot it straight to her...tell her that everyone knows she is cheating...tell her what YOU think about it...but, don't tell her husband, don't start any trouble just in case he doesn't know yet...be supportive of her, but, tell her you don't approve.
2007-04-13 11:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends tell friends what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.
2007-04-13 10:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋