i know because she told me .she says no spark in are marriage of 7 years.how do i change this
2007-04-13 09:25:58 · 19 answers · asked by kgva29@verizon.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask her what went wrong. She's your wife you can talk to her which is what you better do before she says goodbye.
2007-04-13 09:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in HER shoes! Think back to what you did to make her fall in love with you in the first place (seven years ago). DO NOT drown her with love letters, candles, flowers and candy. Take her back SLOWLY to the days when you sat on the tailgate at a concert or went for a walk on the pier at 12:30am. As she cooks dinner quickly but gently kiss her cheek or gently hold her hand while you are watching TV. One thing men forget is, soft and sutle is desired over heavy petting anyday. At this stage in you relationship, "quickies" are forbidden. Communication and trust are essential. Get this turned around quick or she could find this spark with someone else. Be spontanious, and that doesn't mean watching a different channel or taking her out to dinner instead of cooking. You have to melt her heart all over again. Remember she needs a spark not a fire so don't over do it and don't do anything that would be out of character! You want her to fall back in love with you not someone you try to be. Good luck.
2007-04-13 09:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really painful expecially as you said that you still love her. Don,t just easily give up. Take some of the advice suggested by others and try your best to save your marriage. But if all fail and she decides to leave you, just have the clear conscience that you,ve tried your best and you,re not to blame. Who knows what the future has for you? In a situation like this, you just try your best to do that which is right and let time and event solve the rest. Goodluck.
2007-04-13 10:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would make you feel this way anyways? I mean marrying someone is the last step of committing a relationship right? Maybe what you need to do is rekindle the ole chemistry again between the two of you again. Plan a romantic night just for the two of you and let things happen again just like they use to between you two got it? Sometimes the day to day stress will kill or atleast damage a relationships foundation, but with the two it can be rebuilt again and made even stronger!!!!
2007-04-13 09:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by krazykat4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are going to buy some milk at the store, leave and never comeback. Don't forget to get a hold of the wedding ring you can buy a good TV after selling it; a TV set is more loyal than that ungrateful "w"itch with "B".
Don't waste you time over there man; there are many good loving women wating for a good man. Move on before your life turn into a living hell.
2007-04-13 09:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered marriage counseling? We can't tell you why your wife doesn't love you as much as you love her...there is so much more going on here than any of us can advise on. A therapist could help you both sort through your marriage and help find a way to "rebuild" or "reconnect" - if that is what she wants. But then again, maybe she doesn't want to be married to you anymore...but all of this needs to be discussed as there is more to it than " I don't love you as much."
2007-04-13 09:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why don't you try making her fall in love with you again ;)
Maybe she forgot why she married you.
Do nice things for her, little details that mean the world to a woman, if you still love her, you shouldn't give up so fast. Specially after 7 years of marriage.
good luck
oxox
~J
2007-04-13 09:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to seek counseling together so you can find out why the spark, as she puts it, has died. That's really a shame after just seven years of marriage. Once you find that out, then you can go from there.
2007-04-13 09:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try wooing her. Go out on dates. Take a romantic vacation. Talk to her. You two have a very good relationship because if you didnt she wouldnt be honest and up front with you. Most women wont say anything. Talk to her honestly. Tell her you want to do everything in your power to have her fall in love with you again. She will come around. Good luck~!
2007-04-13 10:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn up the heat then! I am amazed at the amount of people that believe that love is something that does not need constant care. Love is like a flower, one must take constant care to insure that it stays alive!!!!
2007-04-13 09:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to figure out what went wrong. dont put the blame soley on you. She might be "projecting" her feelings that you should try harder, but I would say try to find out what is wrong. Focus on the primary fundamentals of a relationship, dont focus on the details of your relationship. It all goes back to the core.
2007-04-13 09:32:42 · answer #11 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋