Can you live without sex ?
let say you still love your spouse but no sex because of the medical reason.
would you rather still stay with your spouse for the rest of your life with zero sex?
for me sex is not the most important part of the marriage life but sex is "one" of the important in marriage.
however every person has defferent point view in marriage life.
2007-04-13 08:54:21 · 16 answers · asked by confusegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you care about each other there are other ways to be intimate with out actual intercourse. There are medicines for things like that also.
2007-04-13 09:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A marriage can definitely last without sex itself. You don't mention the medical reason but surely there is a way for you to be sexual without actually having sex.
Oral, toys, masturbation just to state a few.
If you love each other -- make it work!
Did the health reason exist before you got married? If so, then you should live up to your commitment.
If not, you should still live up to your committment (better or worse!! sickness & health!!) -- imagine being on the other end and having someone leave you when you need them most.
Good luck.
2007-04-13 09:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by celia17 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that if it is a medical reason, that you should be understanding. Your marriage can survive with out sex, if it is not based on sex. It might not be the ideal situation- but people made it work before Viagra came along and started playing God. I think that if you really are commited to your spouse, that you can make it work.
2007-04-13 09:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man oh man...Hobgoblin hit the nail on the head with his answer! I have a step-daughter who is in her 30's. She was born with Spina-bifida and doesn't have the use of her legs. She also is lacking in the sensational feelings in her lower parts. Yet...she has a boy friend and has participated in sex with him. She says she loves the feelings of intimacy and all the foreplay. She loves the skin to skin because she lacks that in her life. She says she doesn't mind not being able to achieve the "Big O" . So sex to her is not just getting laid....but all the other stuff that goes with it. She said if she were to marry her boyfriend...(they have talked about it) that the feelings that they have for one another and the willingness to cuddle, have foreplay and just generally be close would be enough for her. (Their relationship has lasted over 3 years so far and he has no physical problems) so I do believe that a marriage without the intercourse but with all the other intimate things you could do for one another is capable of lasting.
2007-04-13 09:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by geegee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy, that would be tough. I agree that sex is one of the big things in a marriage - it's one of the strongest ways to keep a couple a couple. However, sex is one of those things that can be handled in all sorts of ways, as others have suggested; perhaps with time and imagination the two of you can find ways to make each other feel happy in sort of non-traditional manners. Good luck!
2007-04-13 09:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If my wife was unable to have sex for medical reasons, I most certainly would not leave her for that. Now on the other hand, if she just decided that she no longer wanted to have sex, I would ask her if I could have a stand in... I think sex is a wonderful benefit of marriage, but not the glue that holds it together.
2007-04-13 09:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A marriage can and will survive without sex, as long as the marriage is based on real love and compatibility. Every marriage goes through sexual peaks and valleys, but humor and conversation can be consant! Sex doesn't equal or replace love!
2007-04-13 09:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by aksinflower 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Confusegirl,
Let us first define "Sex." Is it only the act of intercourse .... or ..... does it include the many, many acts of tenderness and foreplay? Is your definition narrow enough to say that sex is just that action of getting stuffed?
If you can also include the touch, caresses, nuzzling and snuggling that is to be had in foreplay ..... then add it to the mutual acts of pleasuring each other ..... then "life without sex" will never happen.
Widen your definitions. Expand your experiences. Do what is possible and be glad with it.
I speak from experience, medical reason and all.
Hob
2007-04-13 09:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by Hobgoblin Kev 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a difference between can't and won't have sex. If my husband wouldn't have sex with me, then I would not tolerate that kind of marriage. BUT if he couldn't have sex with me for medical reasons, then I would accept his condition. I would of course take care of my needs on my own and/or invite him to participate in any manner he could.
2007-04-13 09:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course a marriage can survive w/o sex. When you got married, you married him because you loved him not just because of sex.
2007-04-13 09:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by * lovemykids * 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is just the icing on the cake. But real love is the cake. It's still very satisfying without the icing.
2007-04-13 09:09:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋