im one of them, and i dont kno if i wanna break it, cuz i heard it hurts...so can you guys help me/?
>>>>>>>Please people, no speeches about pre-marital sex, thanx<<<<<<<<<<<
2007-04-13 08:40:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it won't hurt that much if he's gentle and goes slow but if you are under 18 don't consider having sex. If you are at least 18 I would stretch it out with you fingers. But I suspect you are not old enough since you would have to have been using tampons and that would do the trick. But maybe you use pads. Still wait until you are old enough i say 18 because I think that's an age were you would be smart enough to use protection that is very important and not be taken advantage of by some horny impatient teenager.
2007-04-13 08:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Harry Hood 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you're asking for. Are you looking for someone to help you break it? Or are you asking if it's a good idea?
There's lots of guys who would help if that's what you want. I'd say wait as long as you can, though. There are several reasons why I say that.
First and foremost, you can only loose it once with one person. If you loose it now with your current boyfriend (or just some random guy) then some day, when you meet the "right" guy, and you want to give him a precious gift, that one will be off the table.
Another reason to consider, the best guy you will ever find will probably have a pick of girls. That means you're going to be in competition for him. Well, if he likes virgins, then you waiting will give you one more thing you will have that the other girls might not, but if you don't, and another girl he's interested in does... you could loose him over it.
So basically, the longer you wait, the better off you'll be.
2007-04-13 16:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL... No speaches because I had pre marital sex... a few times... My saying is you have to test drive a car before you buy it right???
Honestly though... You yourself have to be ready for sex... Everyone is different it hurts for some people and doesn't for others... It depends... My suggestion is to take it slow if you are thinking of having it with a special someone take your time explore each other and learn as you go don't rush the sex part fore play for a little bit... Make sure you are comfortable before you do anything you aren't ready for... Good Luck I hope this helped a little...
2007-04-13 15:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Who knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me lecture you about the dangers of pre- marital...
Seriously a huge amount of women have found their way past this modest discomfort. Find the right guy (kind considerate etc) and it will work for you.
2007-04-13 15:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by der_grosse_e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it just because everyone else is. You don't have to wait to be married, and honestly, I wouldn't. Doing so makes you more likely to cheat later because you will wonder what you missed out on. Just be sure you are ready for it....if your first time is with someone special to you, they won't tear in and ruin the experience and it will likely be less painful. Just be sure to practice safe sex....if you are afraid of this little pain, imagine giving birth, not to mention having a painful and nasty STD!
2007-04-13 15:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course it's going to hurt at first, but that shouldn't be your only reason for abstaining.... and I'll stop there because you don't want to hear it, lol.
(However, you might want to see your gyno before you have sex. They can give you something to "stretch it out" so it's not as painful if you're planning on having sex in the near future.)
2007-04-13 15:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just sex. Do what you want. Wear a condom.
Girls that run a round like they have a pot of gold between their legs annoy the crap out of me. If you want to live your whole life and only have sex with one guy, that's your choice, but you might miss out on some happy times.
2007-04-13 15:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, yes it hurts. It didn't hurt too much, kinda like a bad pinch. I did not bleed. The pain is the tearing of the hymen. If you like, go to your GYN and get your hymen removed. It won't change the fact your a virgin, BUT with the hymen being gone it shouldn't hurt your first time.
2007-04-13 15:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is gunna hurt, but do you wanna end up like the 40 year old virgin? It will be good be good n the long run.
2007-04-13 15:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it hurts. Yes you will probably regret loosing it when you do. No speech, just remember this is a big decision, MAKE him wear a condom. Just be responsible and think of yourself first.
Good luck.
2007-04-13 15:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Should be Working! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋