I had a friend tell me that her man smokes crack. She says hew doesn't steal from her, he keeps a job, and he supports his own habit.
I understand that this may sound good, but I myself have been with an addict in the past, and I believe that it is a progressive disease. I believe in it getting worse. How do I tell her without sounding like a hater?
2007-04-13 07:39:42 · 12 answers · asked by ellasdaughter2004 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you are her friend it doesn't matter if you sound like a "hater" or not. What the guy is doing is illegal and it will catch up to both of them one of these days.
2007-04-13 07:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with i have under no circumstances heard of crack going bad so there is something fallacious with the fellow telling you about it or if he got it so low-cost it's quite often reduce with a number of other matters that might go dangerous ( the things they reduce medicines with customarily do more damage then the drugs themselves seeing that folks will put whatever in it to make a revenue) in case your associates for some reason are set on attempting crack it perhaps simpler to convince them that they should no longer trust the man they are getting it from. Additionally make it clear to them that drugs like a good way to mess up your lifestyles in the event that they know the way against it you're they is also more likely to feel about what they are doing If worse come worsted you will have to inform any one, its higher to be the nark that all people hates for a whilst than the kid who's pals OD
2016-08-11 00:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by jarod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know of your past experience and how you can relate to her. Crack is an addicting expensive habit, and it will not stay at the same rate, he will eventually get worst overtime. Let her know that you really care about her and that the future with him is deminishing overtime. If one day he gets caught by the law or either a co-worker notice his behaviors, he will end up in jail or get fired from the job. This will then lead to him asking her for money and you should know the rest if she doesn't support his habits. Just a little insight of what MAY happen and probably will. Good Luck!!
2007-04-13 07:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kkuy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well I agree with you on the progresson of the disease. My oldest sister wen through the same thing, she's clean now but still has urges. Just explain your situaton and incorporated it into a conversation with her. You don't have to be confrontational about it, just explain things, give examples etc. Then let her think about it for awhile. Let her come to you; you know?
2007-04-13 07:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is practiced at denial, so nothing you tell her will make a difference. All you can do is remain her friend so you can help her when the relationship inevitably breaks down.
Keep the # of a good attorney and bail bondsman handy
2007-04-13 07:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend then you will discuss it with her and encourage her to get help in recognizing the problem. If she doesn't take your concerns seriously then protect yourself by distancing your relationship with her because you know it will go downhill fast.
If you don't take the problem seriously then that gives her less reason to take it seriously. Tell her you don't want to be involved with drugs at all. If she comes around then you can be friends again.
2007-04-13 07:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is in denial. You can't be with an addict and not be affected. Tell your friend the truth. She can accept it or not. After that, you have to decide if you want to hang around for the consequences.
2007-04-13 07:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people will just have to learn these things on their own . Tell her that you don't want to hurt her but you feel that is what you think will happen . In the end she will be glad that you where honest with her
2007-04-13 07:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he steals her car, raids her bank account and disappears for long periods of time with no explanations remind her how his crack use hasn't affected her. Then be her friend.
2007-04-13 07:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly there is no good way to tell her she will have to learn for herseld I know that does not sound good and you want to help but if you step in you may loose her as a friend all together
2007-04-13 07:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by dreamsangelslove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋