The first time it happened I found a wash cloth in the trash.... The problem is I didn't really find anything this time. I just knew.... I
knew it was happening when I was in the next room. I made some snide
comment this morning and he finally half admitted to it. The issue I have
is that nothing has improved between us since the first time we talked and argued about it. Our sexual relationship isn't that great and this just makes me feel worse.
That I wouldn't have such a problem if he made me feel wanted and loved.
Well he hasn't done either of those things. I guess I have known all of
this time, but it just hurts more when you know for sure. I just feel like
he is breaking my heart : ( What do I do? I just know he will never go see a therapist, he doesn't have that kind of personality.
2007-04-13 07:23:11 · 14 answers · asked by scratie2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry. I would be upset about that, too. Maybe you could try to initiate sex with him, give him a massage, nice dinner, etc. to get him in the mood. Other than that, I don't really know what to say except it would be very hurtful to think he would rather "service" himself than have sex with you. I have dealt with that issue and it takes awhile to get over it.
2007-04-13 07:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by submental25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell you the truth if your sex life ain't that great or absent in the marriage that is why he is mastubating. If this worries you so much start giving up your goodies more often
so he doesn't have to rely on this becuase you ain't giving him any loving. Maybe if you walked in on him while he was doing this in your birthday suit maybe that would get him going and may fix your sexual intimacy problems. But really it is quite normal for men and women alike to masturbate in any relationship because can you honestly say that you want it as much as your husband or as often! sometimes you just need to take matters into your own hands to have that sexual release to get you through the lack of sex in the marriage. It is also been known to be healthy and reduces the chance of prostate cancer.
You are totally overeacting he is a normal human male!
2007-04-13 15:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is do some soul searching as to why he does not make you feel wanted and loved. The other part of him master bating is not uncommon at all as most people men and women master bate. If it were me, rather than pass snide comments and fuel the fire, I would try a different approach and ask him if he would like to have a glass of wine and masturbate in front of yo. There is nothing wrong with people stimulating each other by master bating and it can actually be something new and very pleasing for both of you.
2007-04-13 14:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Frankee06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time. go over there and take care of him your self. don't say anything just walk over to the room and masterbate him yourself while kissing him and then maybe give him a little oral.
he'll see you in a completely different way - as this sexual person that wants him.
it's like this. if you want to feel wanted chances are he feels the same. so if you make him feel wanted he'll want you back.
2007-04-13 14:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by J 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
us guys are funny you see if we are stressed or horny it can last for a few sec to hours sometime us guys just whack on off just to get it over with. and other is to cut the stress of the day. and there is no need of asking are Lady's to help. when we can do it in a sec or two. I hope this helps answer you question.
2007-04-13 14:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a sex therapist or buy a porno and act out the scenes LOL. i would rather have my husband chase after me then go sneak around to pleasure himself
2007-04-13 14:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jahpson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use answered part already.hes seeking more sex let him do it its no big thing,i do i my wife knows, she see me ,i do it sometimes and do it on her panties that r dirty.or in front of her or ones in her draw,or somelses but sh do nt know about that i think. write me if u want more info. i can only say so much here as u know
2007-04-13 14:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by boardinblack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL BAD FOR U GYRL SORRY TO HEAR. BUT IF HE DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING THEN I WOULD JUST SEEK DIVORCE. AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE U FOR U
2007-04-15 18:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by sadv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would this bother you? It's not like he's having sex with another woman
2007-04-13 14:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This should not bother you, you should walk in and take over for him. If you are sweet about it, he will love it.
2007-04-13 14:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by morris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋