i always want sex i think it is getting on my wifes nerves?

Question

i want sex every night it is causing problems in marridge my wife will be happy with once a month but i try and climb on her every night she wont have it is every night to much ive tried allsorts of aproaches from slow and romantic to rough and ready but nothing works she always to tired

Answer 1

I'm going to tell you something really weird that will help your sex life. See, here's the thing you gotta understand: nobody (man or woman) wants something they can have any damn time they feel like it. We all want to think of it as something special, like a big ol' steak....well, you don't have steak every night and if you did, after a while you wouldn't want it anymore, would you? For your wife, sex has become a routine...another nightly chore to do like cleaning the toilet, etc., and who wants that every night?
How to change that? This is going to take a little discipline on your part. Play games with her. When she's expecting that nightly visit, go fix yourself a hot chocolate and go in the other room and read a book, or watch t.v. If she tries to iniate a conversation about why you're not there for your nightly visits, just avoid it. Do NOT discuss the plan with her or you will ruin it. Do not have a spiteful attitude, only a playful, mysterious one. Tease her a little every now and then, and then walk away. She may try to flirt with you, but don't jump her bones right away. What your sex life is missing is the ANTICIPATION! The thing is that you want to leave her wondering what's on your mind. Leave her wondering if she turns you on or if you'd rather go read a book. I promise you, if you can hold out on this it will work. How do I know?
It definitely worked on me! Best of luck to you, dear!

Answer 2

Husband and wife relationship is like the stock market, up and down, but whatever it is, if there is no third party (affair)involvement, it should be ok. In day to day chores, we tends to have arguement and debates. But do you know that through all this arguement and debates, it makes a couple more understanding of each other thereby resulted in more love. So whenever my wife hit my last nerve, I had been taught to apply the out of the box view. Let take a step outside the situation, imagine you are not the husband, just an ordinary on looker, study the situation and think of a solution. Then take 3 to 10 big breath to cool down and approach you wife in a more reasonable and polite way. Guess what, it alway clear the sky for me and wifey. Sometime when we are involve in heating moment, we lost ourselve, it better to come out of it, look at it at a different angle, cool down with some good breathing exercise, you will see the picture more clearly and in fact, at time, laugh over it as some of this matter are just so trival to get so heat up. So be cool ya, hitting the nerve is bad for health ya. Especially for a man heart. Heart attack, the nos 1 killer in USA

Answer 3

It appears you have a problem in the area of sex when you are married sex is a mutual aspect of te relationship and should not be for any selfish cause. When you make love in marriage it is to be enjoyed by both parties not just one. Your wife is getting pissed of because you think she is your sex slave. When your wife says no it means no. That is why you have hands many women do not need sex like us men and it is common that they would rather have a long satisfying session once a month then everyday. Really I will tell you it is hard because us men do love our sex but I will also tell you it is much more satisfying if you have it less often. Because then it is something to look forward too and is muchmore enjoyable because you put more thought and time into it. You must start to listen to your wife or you are going to lose her for being such a selfish jerk. Tell your wife that you would be fine with once a week but once a month is hard for you. This may be something that your wiife may consider but really when it comes to sex the wife has complete control. If you force yourself on top of her and she is not consenting then you are raping your wife.

I also advise that you look into counselling because it appears you may have a sexual addiction.
Be receptive to your wife she may be going through something you know nothing about. It's time to sit down and talk with her find out why she is becoming distant in your sex life.

P.S. If you do not communicate well with each other some women will disconnect themselves from sex and intimacy until they feel they are being communicated with, and you are listening to there needs and desires.

God bless and Good Luck sorry but this is normal for many men in marriage.

Answer 4

I feel you, but the other way around. My husband never wants it and I'm always horney. I can go a day without sex and feel like it's been a year. Try watching a porno while you two are going to bed and see if she gets into it. If not, you've still got the porn! If she really is tired though, try doing a few of the things she has to take care of during the day (dry cleaning, grocery shoping, what have you,) that way she won't have done so much to make her too tired, and she's got the time to get in the mood. Hope this helps, someone in the world deserves to have sex.

Answer 5

I agree with Melissas answer. Thats how my husband was and i eventually started feeling like thats all i was to him. Go to bed tonight, kiss her gently on the mouth, take her in your arms and hold her and fall asleep. Make no advances or bodily suggestions that you want sex. Do that a few nights in a row then try. And dont ask her. That is awful. Kiss her, caress her, stroke her. You know where her "spots' are. Sometimes the best sex is when its not asked for, not expected, not demanded, and those little kisses and caresses just lead up to it and it 'just happens'. If she still says no, my guess there are way more issues in this marriage then her just being too tired. Cuz i know i could be dead to the world tired, and if my husband approaches sex like i just explained, i cant resist. He may secretly know he's going in for the 'touchdown', and i am clueless, but his soft kisses and caresses make me all his. lets just say hes pretty slick and knows how to 'push my buttons' in a good way though.

Answer 6

You guys need to talk about it and compromise. I don't think I would like to be approached every night for sex, either. Just lay off for awhile. And try to help her around the house so that she's not as tired! Many women find it sexy when a man does housework. ;) And, you should NEVER force her to have sex. If she's not into it, STOP!

Answer 7

Oh ... I hate it when my husband just "climbs on top of me" at night... also, banging your pelvic region against hers isn't going to help either, it will just get annoying.

Every night might be too much for your wife, and if you are having other problems than that might be why she is resistant.

One thing many husbands do is they stop seducing their wives after they are married. Sex then becomes an obligation for the wife instead of something passionate.

Maybe you should try to give her oral sex first, to get her in the mood. Or try seducing her outside of the bedroom... like the sofa for example. Get out of the routine!

Answer 8

Wooooa fellow, Give the Lady a break. I Love Sex with my Man and we both have high sex drives but twice a week is enough. Give your wife something to look forward to. If you make her wait longer, she may be in a more receptive mood. You have needs also, so just enjoy your Showers with a Nice bar of soap :)

Answer 9

My husbands the same way and yes, it does get on my nerves. Other than the sex issue, are you two having any other problems. Usually the underlying cause to not wanting sex is due to other problems or issues going on the marraige.

Answer 10

Question you have to ask yourself,,, why is she always tired? Do you have children that keep her busy, does she work a full time job and do all the housework? Maybe if you find out the cause, you can help with what is making her so tired so she has time for you at night.