My husband.................?

Question

Okay so I work in a busy law office and my husband works for Child Protectice Services. So , he has travel time a lot during the day. And he has this thing where he will call 3-4 times a day. I don't want to be mean because I love that he thinks about me during the day, but he calls for no reason and I am so busy. My boss doesn't care about personal calls, but I feel like it slows my work process down. How can I nicely put, Don't call me so much?

I would like to add that I have 6 phone lines that ring constantly and I work for a busy law firm. My main function is to use a dictation machine and answer phones. So, if I am talking to my husband than how am I suppose to answer the phone and listen to headphones and type correspondence?

Answer 1

When he calls just say to him Nicely, Honey I am tied up right now, I will call you when I get a chance. That way you do not upset him and make him feel a Pest.

Answer 2

Communication is key. Tell him that while you do appreciate that he is taking the time out of HIS busy day to call you, you just have too much going on to get random phone calls numerous times a day. Not to travel on the dark side, but if you were to tell him that your Boss has said something about the phone calls, maybe he would be more apt to call when there is really something to talk about.

Just be as honest as you can, although his feelings may be hurt.

Answer 3

Tell him that you love his calls but maybe you should limit it to one during the work day. Have a set time that talk daily, like during a break or 3:45..whatever works for you. If you don't want to do that, you could ways just tell him that your boss has raised an eyebrow to so many calls and you need to cut back, then put plan A back into action with the daily scheduled call. good luck!

Answer 4

I wished my ex- husband would have called me. Instead of having lunch with my sister or all the other girl friends over the years. When he was on the road driving a truck he told me he had to stop calling so much it was running up the phone bill, and I had to stop calling my twin sister, not the youngest one he is still with, as our phone bills was too high.
I went looking for the phone bill found for the last six months he had been calling the next door neighbor -- girl every day ( or she was married) Stop complaining and thank God he loves you and wants to talk with you instead of other women. Telling me he loved me 100 times a day would have been wonderful. Instead I got the lies and no phone calls.

Answer 5

The same way I handled it with my wife. Let the answering service pick up or when he calls say "Honey..I'm right in the midde of something...can we talk about this over a couple of drinks tonight? Then Ican give you more of my attention than when I'm at work". Lines like this will usually result in the phone calls tapering off to a bare minimum.

Answer 6

My wife is a stay at home mom and sometimes she'll call me when I have 10 people around my desk and an emergency costing our company tens of thousands a minute and be seriously be put out if I tell her I don't have time to talk.

I think they just don't understand our work environments - but maybe have a keyword that you can use to signal your husband that now is a REALLY bad time, that's what I did with my wife - although she still sometimes pouts when I use it and she wants to talk to me.

Answer 7

Stop taking personal calls. Tell him you are too busy to stop working and talk on the phone every 15 mins. He should be able to understand that. Call him on your lunch break. That should be enough.

Answer 8

Is it really that much of a problem???
How sad that you're so busy, your husband calling is an intrusion on your big successful day. There's no "nice" way to say leave me alone I'm too busy for you. Be careful what you wish for.

Answer 9

Hahahaha - I know how your husband feels! My husband asked me to not call so much while he was working once. (Once I got pregnant I went speed-dial crazy).

He held me and while we were talking he said gently that he loves to talk to me during the day, but that I call so much it's hard for him to concentrate on his work. He then asked me to call him only once a day, and any other times if it was something important.

He had to talk really gently to me because pregnancy hormones are dangerous... but I think it's a pretty considerate way to say it!

Answer 10

"Honey, I appreciate that you are always thinking about me during the day so instead of speaking 3 or 4 times during the day ,let's speak at lunch time for 20 minutes to get caught up and I will look forward to our chance to talk at dinner."

See how that will work for you.