2007-04-13 06:50:20 · 14 answers · asked by dnimrich 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes. Because someone stupid coined the phrase 'stand by your man' and many people believe it. So they say that even if your man cheats on you, you should stand by him. The funny thing is that men would never tolerate this if it's the woman cheating.
Not only that, if a man is cheating, many, including the man believe that it is the woman's fault. If a marriage breaks down, it is the woman's fault. Trust me, I have personal experience on this. My ex-husband cheated on me and he and my in-laws blamed everything on me by saying I have been a bad wife, etc and yet I should not opt for a divorce because 'I am the woman and I should be the one to hold our marriage together.' So yea, women are judged very harshly.
2007-04-13 07:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by ohioan_femme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When a person hears that a couple breaks up, we tend to speculate on what happened and then judge the situation. It's really the wrong thing to do, to judge them. But how many of us have done that?
Especially in a case where we have an emotional involvement with one or the other in the broken relationship. We want to defend the person we are closest to.
Because of this, I think that both parties involved feel that speculation through the non-verbals (how we look at them, our body language, whispers, etc).
So, I think that our human nature makes us judge both sides and unfortunately, the woman feels it as well. I once heard a minister state that in about 70% of the cases, the reason for infidelity are the lack of emotional needs being met in a relationship. For that reason, the person that strays is not having their needs being met and so they look for someone to fulfill that need.
So, here we are with speculating and if we think that the "poor guy" did not get his needs being met, then we start to blame the woman.
It just goes to show, we need to watch how we judge the couple. After all, it's their lives, not ours.
2007-04-13 14:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I wasn't aware that women were judged harshly for reacting that way. I never would judge a woman harshly, I would probably encourage her. But then again, I am a woman who ahs been cheated on.
2007-04-13 13:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by corbienest 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Judged by whom? Isn't it the GUY in this situation that should be being judged for his behaviour? If you can't trust someone in a relationship, then the relationship really has no basis and it SHOULD end. Unless it was a "friends with benefits" sort of arrangement, then it couldn't really be considered as cheating.
2007-04-13 13:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess the saying, "The stick you use to measure the actions of others will also be used on you ... " doesn't apply in this situation ... unless it's a thing God will fulfill later. It has been my observation that a woman will forgive a cheating man ... but few men will forgive a cheating woman.
2007-04-13 14:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Cheating is wrong - period but women seem to get put down more than if a guy cheated.
2007-04-13 13:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, if the guy cheats - it's expected, but if the woman does it - it's like we have committed a great crime.
It should be the same for both.
2007-04-13 14:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not in the circumsances I've seen. A cheater doesn't deserve to have someone stay just because their partner is afraid of how they will be judged.
2007-04-13 14:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-04-13 13:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Good Grief 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
not by me i think if two folkes want to date and dont make an agreement then thats one thing but to ask someone else to be exclusive then to cheat makes a manho out of that liar
2007-04-13 13:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋