My oldest son lived with his Dad, who really did not care about his schooling anyway, he came to live with me, has a job but no GED, I offered him 500 to do it, since I have offered it to him he has done most his GED but has to re-take the Math and Essay, do you think that was bad of me to Bribe my 19 year old or do you think later in life he'll be thankful at all?
I feel sometimes you gotta do whatcha gotta do you know what I mean?
2007-04-13 06:24:55 · 15 answers · asked by Gina 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I wouldn't think of it as a bribe; you have given him a tool that's going to make a major difference in his life and employment prospects. It would have been different if he'd taken the money and blown it. He didn't. He actually worked at getting his GED, and although he's gotta go back and retake a couple parts, I bet he appreciates the interest you've taken in his education and his success.
2007-04-13 06:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by duncanhines1920 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said it seems like it wouldn't be a bad thing to be with her. Obviously people may think things so you would have to put up with comments and such (People can be very immature and nasty, especially as a teenager) but if you feel you could handle it and it would not effect your feelings for make you feel down then you should go for it. Think about it, in 10 years you will be 29 and she will be 23, it's really not as bad as it looks whilst you're young. I know a couple that are 10 years apart and it doen't change anything or seems wrong as they are older. I think you should have a sit down with her and really deeply think about it before you do do anything though and if you end up being together then don't rush into anything. Take things really really slowly. If things did end badly you could end up in trouble. Give it a few more weeks, make sure you really know and like her and then I think you can take things further if you feel like it's the right thing to do. And if you do make tyhe choice to be together ignore silly comments because you be being sensible about it and you'll know it's what you want. Hope this helps. Good luck. :)
2016-05-19 17:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be $500 well spent if he follows through with it while increasing his chances for success in the world. This first step is really a good opportunity for him to see the new avenues for advancement in the academic world. Next step could very well be a community college and more. Later he will see the advantages he has and also have more self esteem. The end result hopefully will be a better person that wont become a burden on society due to the lack of education which usually results in lower socio-economic standing and trickles down through generations. He really needs to start thinking about his future family and focus on their success.
2007-04-13 06:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If by you offering your son $500.00 to motivate him to get his GED worked then more power to you. He'll be getting his GED which will help him in the future when and if he decides to look for another job and he will also have extra cash in his pocket. Just make sure that he keeps his end of the bargain and does complete the program and receive his GED before forking over the cash.
2007-04-13 08:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by debbie_75052 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Gina ~~~ you did the right thing and yes someday he will thank you.
Offering a $500.00 bonus is better than arguing and pulling teeth ~~~ just don't give in and give it to him before he is finished.
Math and Essays are not easy for some kids so be patient on those two.
I really admire you for doing what it takes to get the job done.
Our lives are not like our grandparents or even our parents ~~~ it's a different world so you have to use different concepts to get the job done. I admire you for thinking for yourself beyond what you were taught to do.
God Bless You and Take Care.
2007-04-13 06:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was not a bad thing. Sometimes it takes more motivation to help children and young adults to understand the importance of education. However, you need to "coach" him to save this money or certainly to spend it wisely. It would be dreadful for him to "party" it away.
He may be thankful in later life or he may not, but you can rest in knowing that you did what you thought best under the current circumstances. Good Luck!
2007-04-13 06:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by John Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not bad! If he would get it done and pass it , $500 worth it ! After all, he needs that GED, that's the least you can do to help straight his life out before too late.
2007-04-13 06:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by judy06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. I wish my parents were like that with my education. It took me so long to realize how important my education is and now I'm an adult and finally back in school doing the things I didn't think I needed to do when I was younger. Good job Mom :)
2007-04-13 08:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would modify that slightly and give him the $500 AFTER he gets it. Not for just taking the exam.
That way it is a reward and not a bribe. That sets the tone for life.
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2007-04-13 07:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by ca_surveyor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people reward their kids for their good grades with money, so I really can't see the difference between that and him getting a GED.
2007-04-13 06:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by mark my words 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋