my bf is my first sex partner so i don't kno what's normal in terms of numbers. anyway he went to college and was in a frat, played football, etc. he said he had himself a "good time" on spring breaks in Cancun n' Vegas -- number of girls he been with is about 25-35. he's in late 20's. said that he think it's a normal number -- is this too many lovers? also, bf says most of the girls he just got oral sex from. he seems settled and stable w/ me but i'm just confused....
2007-04-13 06:18:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I wanted to kno if that was too high a number... we both have been tested and are CLEAN. please, that is not what i was asking...
2007-04-13 08:13:18 · update #1
25-35 is that a joke. He doesnt even give you the actual number but a range? If that includes oral sex that is probably above average but not too bad. Find out how many times hes had intercourse though. More than 10-15 means he was getting around. Also ask him how many times hes cheated. More than 2-3 times means hes not going to stop. (though if he did hed probably lie about it). If he didnt cheat then he was just having a bunch of one night stands.
2007-04-13 09:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jesse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, not to call your man a liar or to say anything about him, but on average, men lie about the amount of women they have been with. Why we lie about it to the women we are with, I have no idea, but me thinks that if he told you a number that high, hes prolly exaggerating a bit. Either way, the number really shouldnt matter, but may make you want to be sure he has been tested for STDs....you can get those from oral sex too ya know. Thats really the only problem with someone who has been with a higher number of sexual partners.
2007-04-13 07:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sean G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 07:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by bilbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he seems settled and stable now, it was probably just adolescent irresponsibility at work. But that really is an outrageous sexual history. Only you can know how much it bothers you. I think for me it would be hard to accept, but if you really love him and trust him, you may be able to get past it.
Good luck!
2007-04-13 11:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would your boyfriend say if YOU told him YOU had 25-35 sex partners? And what if you told him that most of the guys you just gave head to? What would he call you? That's what I thought.
The old DOUBLE STANDARD. You think he's COOL because of his sexual experience...would he think YOU'RE cool if you matched him?
2007-04-13 15:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its a lot more then me, but I did not play football, join a frat, or spend time in cancun/vegas.
Its not a shockingly large number for his age, I don't think.
2007-04-13 08:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're letting him fool around with other girls then that aint normal. he has a high chance of speadign STD's if he's not careful.
2007-04-13 08:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he isnt contracting diseases then its how ever you feel about it ... don let other people make up your mind ... but as long as he doesnt have a disease your fine....
2007-04-13 07:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by rockerbaby95820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it honestly doenst really matter....as long as he loves u, then who cares
2007-04-13 06:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋