does it mean you take all their crap but still stay loyal and loving?
2007-04-13 05:26:17 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unconditional love is a concept that means showing love towards someone regardless of his or her actions or beliefs. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships. It has also been used in some religious texts to describe God's love for mankind.
2007-04-13 05:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's love no matter what - like your mother or father's love (even when you hurt them badly)
I don't think theres unconditional love in dating or marriage - your mate has to meet your expectation somehow or your love cant grow and worse it would die - parents aside, not many people could really love you if you turn physical, lie, cheat, or abuse your person and your trust
I'd rather think i can live with someone for a long time, take all their crap, and stay loyal - but eventually enough would be enough
2007-04-13 05:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is love. Loving someone does not mean you have to take their crap. If their crap is affecting your love then you need to deal with it. Let then know how it is affecting you and why you think they need to do something about it. Then the relationship will gravitate to a new level, honesty - one that is open and frank. It is a loving think when you point out to someone that what they are doing is affecting you whether that is for the good or especially when it is bad.
But when you tell someone about their "crap" make sure you dont attack their personality. Just let them know about that particular thing that is bothering you. Commend first and recommend after. Best of success in your efforts to remain loyal and loving truthfully.
2007-04-13 05:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love gives and gives and gives and never asks anything in return. The emotional component is minor to non-existent, since nice feelings are purely for the benefit of the lover and not for the loved. It *always* puts the needs of the loved before the needs of the lover no matter what. It has no ups or downs, but remains constant. It is unchanged by pain, betrayal, joy, or loyalty. It is not possible for a mere human to give unconditional love except for very brief moments. -yk
2007-04-13 05:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Yaakov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love is something that should be reserved for your family or children. Relationships should not be unconditional, but rather conditional. The reason is b/c you should never put up with stuff when it gets to the point where its unhealthy for you. You are the best judge of what you can and can't handle.
2007-04-13 05:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unconditional love is a fable in my opinion. To actually be able to love someone regardless of their actions or behavior is ludicrous! Even parents can't guarantee unconditional love-we try with all of our might, but sadly even children aren't immune to losing love, (I know many people who hate and are hated by their parents/family).
The IDEA of unconditional love is a grand one-but impossible to fill. To believe that the love you feel for someone will always be there and always be as strong is wonderful and beautiful, but naive. Years of love can vanish like smoke with a single word or action...years of waiting hand and foot on your dearest love can cause you to eventually resent and despise that one you vowed your "unconditional love" for.
To directly answer you question...NO, you don't take all of their crap and keep on lovin'...just don't work that way. It has to be mutual...a kinda "you kiss my butt and I'll kiss yours...", and even then it's till a crap shoot. Why do you think love stories are just that, STORIES. You will occassionally see the rare couple who have trudged through the ages with their love in tack and as strong as ever. But not often.
2007-04-13 05:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't.
It means that you offer love without strings attached, hidden or open. Without demanding or expecting anything in return. Not to show off how you are a better person.
Taking their crap while still staying loyal and loving is enabling, or being co-dependent. You deserve better, you deserve to be loved unconditionally by yourself! Leaving a harmful relationship will help you love yourself, and the other person, unconditionally. You can't continue to love someone who hurts you.
2007-04-13 05:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be unconventional..but a dog has unconditional love. No matter what you do to him, he will love you still. So yes, you do have to take the crap.... but remember Love is a choice....If the person loves you back... there should be no crap ! Right ?
2007-04-13 05:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... It means you evaluate them in the beginning, and decide if you can live with the particular mix of traits this person has. You are not required to accept the traits that are unacceptable to you; you can always choose not to get involved with the person. But if you are thinking of committing to a person, you need to accept them. You don't keep taking "their crap" hoping they will change - you decide for yourself whether or not it is the amount and the type of crap you are willing to take, and then stay or leave depending on your decision.
2007-04-13 05:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as abuse is not present. Moses from the Bible, granted an anulment only in the case of adultery. I would have to say forgive and forget. Love is a powerful thing and a marriage is the best example of it. Be truthful, loyal, and loving no matter what "till death do you part."
2007-04-13 05:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Whitney C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋