It's been like 25 years ago. I've been E-mailing her,( she writes back), but I'm feeling REALLY guilty, and told her so. Do you think it was right? THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
2007-04-13 05:18:59 · 10 answers · asked by ♪♪♫ DINO ♪♫♪ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR ANSWERS, THEY HELPED SOOO MUCH!!!!!
THANX AGAIN!!!
2007-04-13 05:36:34 · update #1
...hopefully the emotional dust has settled after 25 years anyways. You two still communicate with each other huh? That's cool I suppose....and really not all that uncommon. What does each of you two get from this emailing relationship anyways. What's the trade off really? As long as you both are civil and friendly with one another...where does that leave you feeling the burden of being wrong in communicating with her? You left her long ago dude...and she's seemingly been able to move past it. I'm thinking you need to shed your guilt and shame about an event that happened long ago. Dump your past stuff reasonably. You're supposed to learn from it certainly...but not hang on to it forever. It's not wrong to write her my friend....but leave your expectations to chance. Most people don't give second opportunities after these kinds of ditching events. Treat people the way YOU would like to be treated.
2007-04-13 05:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was 25 years ago. Let it go. She obviously has or she wouldn't be e-mailing you. You're obviously are better person now or you wouldn't feel guilty.
You told her you feel guilty. I suppose there was an apology in there. It's done now. Let it go and don't bring it up again. Unless, you're trying to drive her off. That's what will happen if you continue.
2007-04-13 12:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guilty about what? Are you married and your wife doesn't know that you are communicating with your ex?
If you're not married, then there should be no guilt. 25 years is a long time and people change.
2007-04-13 12:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one lucky SOB.
I wouldn't even talk to you again.
That was a bad thing you did. Confusing and devastating a gal like that.
Do you think she should just forgive you? You can never understand what she had to go through.
The best thing for you to do, apologize then let her go and move on. And if by some reason you are ready now, don't force her, maybe she has thought twice about you.
And if she does reciprocate your feelings...for god sake don't do it again! :)
2007-04-13 12:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by aslongasitrocks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living in the past? After 25 years, give it up.
2007-04-13 12:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll be sad, but 25 years won't make too much damage now.
25 years ago u were younger, but now u r wiser :)
U can speak about ur past, but u can't live in it.
Take care :)
2007-04-13 12:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Panther 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't beat yourself up about the past what's done is done you can't turn back time, I don't think there is any home in you contacting her and staying friends either, your lucky you can both get over the past so keep in touch hope this helped :)
2007-04-13 12:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure It's ok to write her, if It's been 25 years ago, I really doesn't think she's even thinking about that, so I'm sure you guys can be friends, but if i were her that's all it could be is friends...
2007-04-13 12:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you're both over it and you've both moved on, I'd say it's ok. If you're seeking closer i think it's ok, I'm never against anyone ever seeking closure. We all need that to move on with our lives, you know?
2007-04-13 12:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why you are communiacting with her.Are you trying to rekinder a friendship??What are you feeling guilty about??
2007-04-13 12:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋