am i destined to live a life of school and work until i die?

Question

why do i have to wake up every morning to go to school?
why do i have to go to college?
why do i have to get a job?
why do i have to make a loan to buy a house?
why do i have to get married?
why do i have to have kids?

i know i need a job to make money in order to survive but why is that the only option?

i feel like i have no control what-so-ever of my life. and i know im going to get responses like "dont go to work and live on the streets then" people say that because it is true, i am destined to live a life i dont want, to live a life of school and work until im dead.

How do i get out of this cycle?

Answer 1

You know I feel the same way. WIth the endless work from school and jobs its like, time for myself is rare. Summer/spring vacation go by pretty fast, while the school months stretch on forever, it seems. To me it feels real and it's like a prison, although sometimes its not bad. The people are so-so, and I'm not really popular.
Also, my one friend summed it up for me:
We're born, we go to school, we work, get married, work some more, retire, and then die. To me, I guess that's the structure of it but you can definitely not rule out the saying that, "Only you can shape your destiny." Whereas, your destiny is your choice, there are alot of options, and it only gives you the feeling of freedom when you step up and make your own decisions.

Answer 2

well you don't have to wake up every morning, you don't have to go to college, you don't have to buy a house, you don't have to get married or have kids. You do need to have some kind of job to make money or be a part of a commune to have something to trade for the things you want. School is tough and nobody likes it but at least you are aware that you don't want the traditional job that all the drones do cause they want live the "American Dream". **** it find something that you like to do and find a way to make money off it... actually you will find those are the happy people. I poor drinks all night .. and my best friend ski's for a living and there are many people that make a life career out of having fun. Just don't let the drones who think you have to be a doctor or businessman get you down because they are the one who have boring lives.

Read Rich dad Poor dad. I know it sound boring but it has good mottos and the drones will be impressed (mainly because it has a good title and they have never read it.)

Answer 3

There are many options for you as a human. Don't feel trapped.

1- You can read about and explore different cultures and systems around the world and make the decision to move there to join them.

2- you can work hard the first several years, start a business invest wisely to try retire early.

3- Mary a rich person. -less recommended.

4- Find a profession that you absolutely love to do and you won't feel like you are working, but rather enjoying a fullfiling life.

look at it this way, regardless of where or how you live you will need to sustain your life in one way or another. Working hunting , gathering etc. Just as long as you do something that you think will fulfill your needs, you will be ok.

Answer 4

You have to get a job so that you can live somewhere and eat something.

You have to go to college so that you can live somewhere you want to live, eat what you wan to eat, and have money left over to do other things you want to do.

You have to wake up and go to school to be able to go to college.

You don't have to buy a house. You can rent.

You don't have to get married. You absolutely do NOT have to get married.

You don't have to have kids. Other people will make sure there are enough kids to go around for the future even if you don't have any.

The only way out of the working cycle is to find another source of wealth. I assume you weren't born rich, or you wouldn't be asking...the only other viable option for gaining wealth involves some kind of work. Suck it up, the other couple billion of us have to as well.

Answer 5

You list six issues you don't want to deal with; I think your issue is not "issues", it's simply your perception and failing to see things in a more positive way; you're pessimistic in attitude.
To change that look at it differently;

You live in a home and wake up there, not in a grass hut...

You have a college available and not a one room school with a dirt floor and a Junta Government or rebels kidnapping and killing all around your neighborhood...

There are jobs available for you and your not forced into teen prostitution to survive nor are you forced into drug running to support a group you dispise, yet, since they kidnapped your sister and hold her your going to deliver the drugs our she dies and you later...

Loans are available to you to buy a house, and houses are also available...your not makiing a house out of straw and dirt and drinking brown water mixed with rice to live each day...

You don't have to get married.

You don't have to have kids, if you ever did you would understand they are more valuable than any of the above...

If you want to get out of this cycle, trade places with a girl your age in Rural Columbia or Bolivia as they would die (and they do) to get to your home and have what you have...

Perspective is everything, when you see what others do not have, purhaps you can learn to appreciate what you have; you life needs to be challenging, from your blog I can see you have nothing in the form of appreciation, purhaps this is due to your never being a part of making things happen and are content to be miserable letting others do it all, yet your still unsatisfied. That's all your doing and nobody elses.

Control, if your American, and my guess is you are, you have everything right there at your fingers tips. Use it.

Answer 6

I suggest finding something that is meaningful to you and doing that as your vocation. For instance, if creating art is meaningful to you, then make a career in that field. If helping others is meaningful to you, then do that. Finish high school, because you will regret it later if you do not; however, college is optional.

Actually, everything on your list is optional save the job: there are many people who do not marry and are quite happy; I chose not to have children and am so thankful!; I have a friend who saved enough money to buy a luxury car with cash, and you may be able to do the same to buy a condo one day if you so choose.

Visualize what you want your life to look like and then start making decisions to create that: everyday you have decisions to make that will either lead toward the life you envision for yourself or away from it. You are not trapped. You have choices. All the best to you.

Answer 7

I dont think anyone who has never been in this situation knows how you feel or the first idea of what advice to give you! I cant say I understand but I when I first my hubby he was in Winnipeg and I in Ontario more then 30 hrs apart. Although I did not know him for 9 yrs I know the feeling you mean in your heart and head it drives you crazy and you have no idea why. I think deep down you know what you should do, your just scared. It will kill you if you do nothing about it and you may not be able to be fully into the guy you end up with if you always have L on the brain. I dont know what I am saying, lol, but I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel cause he may need to hear that from you to truly make up his mind. Good luck to you, I can tell it's already tearing you apart!

Answer 8

Selective conformity. Do something you don't like until you can break the cycle. I hated school and dropped out my freshman year. I hated work and quite during my lunch break. Now I am in college working on becoming a drug and alcohol councilor. I am following the rules I need to get where I am going, and breaking rules that are pointless and stupid.

Becoming what I want will take time, but when I get there I don't ever have to go to school again.

"When you have a job you love, you will never work a day in your life" Benjamine Franklin.

Answer 9

even though you may spend the majority of your life either in school or working, those two things do not have to be what your life is about,,,,,,, there are many hours in the day,,,,, you will have time to do other things that you want to do,,,,,,, yes schooling develops you,, both mentally and in the sense of being able to get a better job,,,,,,, the job helps you afford things in life,,,,, to pursue your pleasures,,,,,, interest
and, if you plan carefully,, then you can retire early from a "job"
but really, whether you are working or not,, you always have the "job " of living,,,,,
as to buying a home, marriage, having children, those are hopefully options you will have,,,, that still doesnt limit you to a life of drudgery,,,,, your life is what you make of it, what are you interested in doing, if not school or work? find your passion, and turn that into your work

Answer 10

You don't have to do any of those things. The one thing you do need to do is to find your passion. What makes you tick? What excites you? Then find how you can do what makes you happy for the rest of your life. It can be done but you have to be willing to think outside the box in order to get there though.

Maybe a time in the Peace Corps might be a way to find meaning in your life in order to find your place in this world. Find a charitable organization that shares your passion and ask if they have any opportunities for you.

There are lots of possibilities...you just have to look in order to "see" with new eyes.