I am in love with my husbands ex-wife, I know this sounds unusal but I love everything about her! I can't see why he divorced her! Should I tell her?
2007-04-13 04:24:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is really strange. i think you should question youre sexuality. on another note i can understand what its like to fall for someone you really shouldnt be falling for.
2007-04-13 04:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by love him 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really that unusual actually....My mother has always been straight but she met this woman who was a wonderful person and my mother fell in love with her, the woman my mother fell in love with was a lesbian and she fell for my mom as well and they spent like 8 years or so happily together and they got married in vegas
Then years later april ( my mom's ex wife) cheated and left my mom....
So just because you are in love with a woman does not necessarily mean your bi or lesbian, i for instance am bisexual and i have always been attracted to woman as well as men, you have just been attracted to one woman right? If no then you could possibly be bisexual..Think about it!
Do you love his ex wife more than you love him???If so then maybe try finding out if his ex wife is into woman or not and go from their:)
good luck
p.s and to all the people who are hating just because she loves another woman does not make her disgusting or gross..I am married as well and i am bisexual it does not make me love him any less or make me gross, you can't help who you fall in love with and you certainly can't help who you are attracted too it's apart of life so grow up and stop judging people..You should treat everyone as equal no matter than sexuality, race ect..
Don't listen to some of the people on here girl. Their just immature and don't know how to deal with situations like these and it is not your fault....
2007-04-13 05:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a crush on another woman does not mean you are in love. Do you definitely think you are a lesbian? Why? Because another woman fascinates you? Using the words 'in love' means you would choose her over your husband. Do those words still make any sense to you?
I am totally heterosexual but once in awhile I meet another woman who fascinates me so much I could sit and listen to her and watch her for hours! I want to know all about her, as if she was a character in a novel. I imagine what her life must be like. I have actually met two such women in the past 10 years and I love my husband and don't consider them to be in the same league as he is - sexual attraction- wise. My dream is not to have either of these women masturbate me, which is what it means to be a lesbian.
On the other hand, would I like for them to be the people who confide in me and consider me their best friend and explain all the mysteries I would like to know about them? Sure! And if we were best friends, could I say I love them. Yes, definitely, the way I say I love other friends and other women friends say they love me.
But 'in love'? No. Although that fascination feels a lot like the first time you meet a guy who is just a knock out and he's actually paying attention to you - what a rush!
Think hard about what you are feeling. It's too bad that lesbianism actually gives friendship among women a bad name! Love among women friends is wonderful. It took one of my best friends 20 years to say she loves me. And I took it just the way she intended it - to say that I am a great person in her life!
2007-04-17 04:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Love and support your husband not his ex! You may never understand the reason why he divorced her and you may never will but it is not your job to, you only see a part of her, you haven't had to live with her, you're being difficult!
2007-04-13 04:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R u drunk ? dont tell her .she will think u r crazy...
do u know his ex-wife in and out? if u just looking ar her externally probably many wud like her of her looks, dress, attitude..ur hubby knows her more than u do and also knows why he left her for u...u have to fall in love with urself first coz u have something that made him come to u that his x-wife doesnt have... it only means u r feeling inferior to her n gulity that u r not her ,...
2007-04-13 04:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by RCD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is completely different from a friendship. There is nothing wrong with loving a person for who they are, she is probably a great person, but that is not all taht is needed in bad times and good times. And you probably don't knwo her ike he did. You should not tell her you do not know why he left her, taht may hurt her feelings or be awkward. But you can probably tell her she is a great friend/person.
2007-04-13 04:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this is a very unusual situation, do you know why they got divorced? You are obviously not happy with a man or leading to being with a woman but why your hubbys x?
2007-04-13 04:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by evilstepmonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny! Is it a romantic thing? I would pay money to hear you ask your husband if he would a agree to a threesome with the ex wife! Ha
2007-04-13 04:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be ashamed of yourself. You are married. Is there anyone out there that actually values the sanctity of marriage? Why did you get married in the first place if you are attracted to women also? Women such as yourself make me very upset because you make it bad for the real women who are willing to perform the wifely duties prescribed by God.
2007-04-13 04:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Nisha 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
*raises eyebrow* You can't be serious. [begin sarcasm] Yeah, you should tell her. In fact maybe the two of you can have an affair. I'm sure that your husband would be just tickled about that. [/end sarcasm] Why would you want to tell her anyway?
2007-04-13 04:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by AnonymousGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband...see how he reacts! Who knows? Maybe all 3 of you will end up together! What a gross thought!
2007-04-13 04:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by Nubian Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋