Even if my husband doesn't want me to?
Is it ok to drink despite his wishes?
2007-04-13 04:21:37 · 33 answers · asked by tina*21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless your husband already had some serious problem with booze and you knew about it before(i.e. it's a longstanding issue) OR he's a total control freak (in which case you guys need to talk) there is one other possibility:
Maybe you act very differently (ok, maybe you're a total *** when you drink) but don't know it. When you drink with your girlfriends, what do they say? Any good friend will tell you, especially if you ask.
If this is not the issue, you might want to get the bottom of why he's got such a problem with it. Had a problem himself? Had a family member who did? Just plain doesn't like it in principle?
One detail you did not mention is whether he ever drinks. If he does, then it's a double-standard, and he possibly has some control issues.
But any which way, you two need to talk.
2007-04-13 05:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Hurricane77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, your husband should not be "telling you what to do". You're a grown woman and you can do whatever you want.
On the other hand, by "drink alcohol" do you mean the occasional cocktail at a party, or a night out with friends or do you feel the need to booze it up all the time? If he is categorically opposed to drinking, you two are probably not a good match. If your drinking is becoming a problem where it was not before (i.e. you are drinking more now than ever before), you might want to think about it a little bit.
If you're being excessive (I know, difficult to define), your husband deserves to have a sober wife. If you are not willing to give that up for your husband, then you two need to talk about the foundations of your relationship. It is always OK to go against his wishes, he's not the boss of you, but there will be consequences. And I don't mean you'll be "in trouble" but he deserves to have what he wants out of a relationship and if he's not getting it, he deserves to get out.
2007-04-13 04:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by robin0408 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he has a drinking problem which he may have that you don't even know about, it may be hard for him to not drink if you are... You will be temptning him and toying with his recovery. If he doesn't drink b/c that are his wishes without any past troubles behind that then a moderate drink here or there with dinner &/or a compromise could probably be met between you two. If you drink and get embarassing silly then do not and grant his wishes. If his reasons are for fact of temptations while drinking then more communication must be done beteween you both. drinking can be highly addicting and he may just fear you getting hooked.
What are his reasons!!!!??????
What are your reasons for wanting to?????!!!!
2007-04-13 04:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask that question here maybe you have a drinking problem and you are trying to get other people to say it is ok to make yourself feel better. If you don't have a drinking problem, then you should talk to your husband and see why he doesn't want you drinking. Then make your decision based on all the facts and how it will affect your life and marriage.
2007-04-13 04:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you haven't said the reason why he wouldn't want you to drink. Are you an alcoholic? Is he? Do you become violent or otherwise overly emotional when drinking? Are you a danger to yourself or others when you drink? More information is needed to answer the question.
2007-04-13 04:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by AnonymousGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your of drinking age / legal....but your married and your husband doest like you too, I'd say respect his wishes...for not only the women, but men too if the spouse has an issue over you doing something, find out whats the deal and work it out. perhaps you have a drinking problem and he hates seeing you drunk, whatever the reason talk to him and let him know you respect his wishes but your confused over this issue.
2007-04-13 04:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by K F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are at least the legal drinking age, you can do whatever you want.
Now, if you have a drinking problem, then perhaps you should listen to your husband. I would ask your husband WHY he doesn't want you to drink.
2007-04-13 04:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well every once in a while sure, but the car/club scene isn't your scene anymore. Why not invite your husband to go with. I know if my fiance was bugging me about going out drinking Id be suspicious about it. I mean don't get me wrong a girls night is fine, but that shouldn't be an every weekend thing.
2007-04-13 04:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by MeghanGene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you take vows with your husband, or the booze?
If you even have to ask this question, there's a few problems here.
Drinking is more important to you than the feelings of your husband?
Get help, now.
Either you are an alcoholic, or you don't love your husband, probably both, unfortunately.
2007-04-13 04:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well let me ask u one thing first why should u have it.. if its for the sake of having it.. well better not..
And ur husband is against it, so how is he? would you want him to do things behind ur back.. May be because u love him u should give up this wish
Its all up to u and if u wont have any guilty conscience after having it and want to have it.. Its ur choice
2007-04-13 04:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋