Although I do ignore her, she's 21 to my 42, it's degrading to be a subject of ignorance on her part.
2007-04-13 03:42:20 · 12 answers · asked by quiltopslady 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
contact your human resources man.
Had it been the other way, they would be the first one to get the guy fired!
2007-04-13 03:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your word against hers. First document the date, time, and what exactly she said. Note if other co-workers or customers overhear what is being said and who they are. Make sure you have at least three incidents before you take this to your manager. IF your manager doesn't do anything, only then, should you go to HR.
The first thing HR will do is contact your manager to find out what is going on. Your manager will be very angry with you if they don't know what is even going on in their own department, and have to deal with this situation because HR told them about it. HR's role is to protect the company, so they will talk to management first, to do what's in the best interest of the company.
Be prepared to defend yourself, since the first line of defense for someone accused of verbally abusing a co-worker, is to accuse you of the same or worse behavior.
I've had similiar incidents happen like this in my workplace, and have had to deal with management as an employee and as a manager dealing with the situation.
Be careful and good luck!
2007-04-13 04:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Verbal abuse" is a pretty broad statement. Does she call you names? use racial/ethnic/religious slurs? sexually harass you? sneer at your work? Different responses may becalled for in each of these situations.
If she is doing something illegal, such as making discriminatory remarks or slurs, or sexually harassing you, you need to report her right away, to you manager, to the HR person at your site, and to the department of labor if necessary.
If she is making remarks intended to be hurtful, about your age, weight, incompetence, etc., first realize that she is not your boss and has little ability to actually cause you harm in terms of pay, title, etc. The next time she does it, you might ask her directly why she feels it is necessary to make those remarks to you. Confronting bullies directly, in a professional manner of course, often removes the wind from their sails.
If she ctiticizes your work to (or within earshot of) the boss, then youhave a different problem. Talk to your boss, along the lines of, "I'm sure you hear Mary criticizing my work. However, she is not my supervisor - you are. I want to make sure that you and I are aligned on the performance expectations for my position, and I want to address any concerns you may have about my performance. What do you perceive as my strengths, where do you feel I can improve, etc." Then the next time Mary starts badgering you, you can mention breezily that you already chatted with Boss sue and she has no complaints about your work.
Good luck.
2007-04-13 04:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to work in HR. I would go to HR first, and tell them how much this is upsetting you. They have to investigate confidentially, and if they don't, that could be a lawsuit. If they don't make satisfactory progress, then take it up to someone higher, or just go to court. Companies won't deal with harassment because it can cost a ton of money in the hands of the right lawyer. Good luck and hold your ground.
2007-04-13 04:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Marusia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would first try to talk to the girl to discover what the problem is. If you can't agree a truce, then you should go to your line manager. It's her responsibility to resolve the problem.
If no luck there, the go to your H.R.
No one should have to put up with verbal abuse. It's difficult but try to ignore her. She is looking for a reaction and if she doesn't get one, she may give up trying.
Good luck.
2007-04-13 03:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does she have to say? is it professional criticism or just mean abusive remarks, before taking the cause up with management , be sure your not doing so unjustly. If she has no business giving you any input tell her to go pound sand. Good luck
2007-04-13 04:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Report her behavior to your Human Resources Manager as soon as possible. I think you need to report this to your boss/supervisor also, so there will be a record of your complaint against her. No one should ever have to put up with the likes of her on the jobsite.
2007-04-13 03:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact HR. And keep a diary of her harassment, what was said and when it happened (and if someone else overheard... witnesses just in case it really goes to extremes), you stand stronger that way. What does your other coworkers say, does she harass them too (weather it's on purpose or just out of sheer ignorance)?
Cover your butt, pardon my french, but let HR take the battle.
Hope your situation solves soon :-)
2007-04-13 03:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Camilla H 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
imitate her voice when answering her. in other words, if her voice conveys anger when she asks you something. answer her back in anger. if she says something very fast like, "when are you going to be finished" answer "i am working on it right now" in the exact same tone she used. she might not realize how she is speaking to you, until she hears it from you in the same tone.
2007-04-13 04:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by caveman for hire 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Slander, Deflm of chara; might need a judges help with that.
2007-04-13 03:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋