I fell out with my close female friend-we didn't speak for 4 months-we got too close for comfort, I fell for her, she didn't feel the same. To deal with this, I broke contact-(not the best idea-I know!)
We recently started talking again via Facebook, I don't ask how she is, she don't ask how I am!Though she says what she's upto.She also says she hope's I'm ok+to take care.She also has a boyfriend now.
Before I cut contact, we used to tell each other everything-(even about sex life!),had constant contact, met each other regularly, she said she thought about me a lot, cared about me a lot etc.....
Contact is slowly increasing, still via email/Facebook though.I'm also in touch with her best mate(she contacted me 1st).
1. Does this mean she genuinely wants to remain friends?
2. Is she just being "NICE" with the 'hope ur ok', 'take care' comments?
3. Will relations get better or the distance remain?
We WEREN'T a couple-just extremely close friends.
2007-04-13 03:24:47 · 7 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe the two of you can be friends again, which would be nice. Just remember that the two of you probably will never be close as you once were. But its nice to know that there is obviously still something there, however take things slowly, don't rush things.
If you want to be friends with her again then fine and keep emailing her, but just let things develop naturally and don't expect too much
2007-04-13 10:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similiar situation,quit all contact again its all you can do it's hard but in the weeks ahead it won't be.
Its a very simple equation,few people understand - The more time you spend with her the more pain you'll feel not happiness not joy but pain.Maybe occasional bursts of happiness but afterward pain.Do you like pain?
People are not obligated to fall in love with you just because you are in love with them everyone finds this hard to swallow because basically it means your have no value your a piece of crap to this person,unworthy of their love.
Even if hundreds of other people are in love with you everytime you see them the "im not worth their love" idea is sitting in the back of your head.When you hang around someone who has rejected you - you are always one step below them and will put them on a pedstal because of it.
Dont torture yourself no matter how strong those feelings are.
Remember,Your here weighing up what to do,dealing with all these emotional issues etc and she;s probably fkng her boyfriend and couldnt care less remember that and you'll quickly get over her.
2007-04-13 03:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by rusalka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, move on, happened to me, got made a fool of, I'll never walk down that road again.
If your like I was your secretly hoping that "hope you are OK" and "take care" comments meant something more than just polite conversation, they don't!
Best to make a break before you get really hurt.
2007-04-13 03:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anchor Cranker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time passing is your best bet. awkward feeling are still in the air. i believe she's rebuilding and establishing new grounds for a friendship you, having to take the last current events into affect. don't pressure or act overly keen and don't over do it or under do it. just go a long slowly but surely and you will gradually pick up new grounds and understanding of a reestablished friendship.
2007-04-13 03:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by shadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's got a boyfriend now. Do you want to be sloppy seconds? Don't wait for her. If she really wanted to be with you, she would be. She doesn't. Don't take this the wrong way but, get a clue. If you want to continue to be friends, that's fine, best only through emails. Move on with your life. Find someone who wants to be with you.
2007-04-13 04:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it, it sounds as if you may have shocked her and maybe she is questioning herself? but continue doing what our doing, no pressure and if she truly values the friendship you'll finally get to the point where she tell you how she felt/ feels.
Good luck!
2007-04-13 03:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it up to her to make further contact and leave it at the level she keeps the friendship at. it was you who broke contact.
2007-04-13 04:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋