I dont know what to do...PLEASE HELP!!!!?

Question

well im 17 nad pregnant.my parents know and so does my boyfriends mom.But there has been a lot going on.My b/f holds long conversations with my friends and they come up to me and tell me stuff that he has apparently said.i dont know weather to beleive them or not.I have been told that he was flirting with 2 of my best friends and wish he would have gotten with them bc then he wouldnt be i nthe situation that he is in.But if thats the case then why does he live with.(note:he does have another place to live if he wanted)But he still is at my house.So i dont know what to do about all this.Should i believe him or my friends.(when i ask him about the stuff i am told he says its not true and he would never say that bc he loves me and wants to be with me)

Just for the record my B/f is almost 20.but we are still too young for this mut its done and over with.

Ok i have reveiwed the answers that i have gotten and i did not just jump into bed with him nad yea he is being immature and i know we are not ready to have a baby but the point of this ? was not to get degrading answers like the one saying that i jumped into bed with him.i like most of these answers but i would like to keep this open and see what other ppl have to say.

Answer 1

Go with that little nagging voice in your head....it's your instinct and it's never wrong. What does your gut say? That you can't trust him or that you can? You are so young and probably aren't to the point in your life where you trust that little voice, but you have gotten into a very adult situation so it's time to start doing what adults do....listen to your gut and don't doubt it. No one can tell you who to believe, only you know the answer. The question is, do you like the answer or are you making excuses to NOT listen to your intuition b/c it's not what you want to hear? Good luck.

Answer 2

The reason why two people are together because they love each other.

Having a baby is not an excuse to be living together more so getting married because then that would be being together and getting married for the wrong reason.

Talk to him if he really loves you or if he just pity your condition or maybe he feels guilty and he thinks being with you is the right thing to do. Its totally different wanting to be with somebody because of love and the need to be with somebody because of guilt.

You must settle this soon because you might not want to solve your problem with another problem. You are not married yet and he flirts around how much more when youre married. REMEMBER: There will be no smoke if there is no fire. Dont just believe your friends but also dont put aside what your friends have told you. Investigate. Seek the truth.

A relationship should be based on trust and respect for each other and not just love. How can you love a person you cannot trust? How can you love a person who doesnt respect you? THINK.

Answer 3

well you do not need the extra stress of all of this when you are pregnant. Things are hard enough your first time around. Your boyfriend is probably also stressed out too. Your friends are being friends by telling you I am not saying that but all I am saying is that you need not to worry about what they are sayin. At your age people and girls mostly want and think that they want to settle down and have a baby because they are so cute not becuase they are the most ready for one in that time of there life. Maybe your friends are jealous of you and your boyfriend because he lives with you and loves you. You are also probably getting alot of attention due to the baby. That could be another thing that they could be jealous about. You are also very hormonal right now I wondered if my fiance was going to cheat on me and leave me while I was pregnant. Your body is changing and you are gaining weight which is very normal. You are not used to your new look and think sometimes that you aren't as pretty due to the belly. That is all bull.... You are even prettier because you are carrying a new life inside of you and it is truely a wonderful thing. And for the comment that if your boyfriend was with one of them then he wouldn't be in this situation well who is to say that they couldn't have gotten pregnant it is not a rare disease or something like that. You need to be putting all of your energy to good use not towards he said she said stress. Calm down relax on focus on your baby. Having a baby can also put stress on a couple especially at your alls age.

Answer 4

Gosh, this is so hard to answer. When it comes down to it a lot of men are just dogs. Not ALL of them though. First off, ask him about it and see what he has to say. Sure he can lie to you, but watch his eyes. If he won't look you in the eyes, chances are, he is lying. Also, watch what he does with his hands. Fiddling with his hands nervously is also and indication that he may be lying. But regardless, if you can't trust him, your relationship will never work even if you do have a child together. Friends can be just deceiving, I hate to say. So really watch what your friends do too. Not too much though. Just know that if your friends are truly your friends that will not give in to his flirting. True friends also would stand up for you when he is flirting. Are they just sitting back and letting him do it? Or are they confronting him? Just some things to think about.

Answer 5

I don't know because I don't know the people involved. Who do you believe? First of all, he should not be having LONG conversations with them and they should not be telling you what he said. If he is having problems with you and telling them, they really need to back away and tell him to speak to you. Also, you both are very young. There is a good chance that he doesn't want to be in this situation and he may not stick around for the long haul. I think you need to concentrate on you and having a healthy baby. Hopefully you have a good support system in family and friends. If your bf is a stand up guy and stays around and supports you, then great, but don't expect him to.

Answer 6

Honey, you are 17! TRUST ME..........By the time you are 25, you are going to look back on this and laugh at how immature you all are. You are in a very unfortunate place, you did not use proper birth control, and now, at 17, have an entire set of added challenges coming your way. Start thinking of YOU and your baby. Those are the most important things, not a young boy, who is also immature, and GOSSIP...........Go back to school, college, get a degree, work on yourself, and don't be bothered by silly situations that really are not worth it in the big game of LIFE.

Answer 7

I think he is freaked out. Being a father at that young of age is scary. Guys react differently than girls do. You have different emotions that him. Do you trust your friends? Do you trust your boyfriend? You need to concentrate on this baby. What happens is going to happen. I don't doubt he doesn't love you. Everything happens for a reason and this baby coming into the world there is a reason. Don't get too freaked out. Hang in there I am sure he will come around.

Answer 8

Having a baby at 17 is a very difficult thing. He is too young to look at it maturely. Unfortunately the chances of this relationship failing are very high. Maybe you should just cut your losses and let this guy go.

Answer 9

believe your friends honey! especially if they are your good friends! of course your boyfriend will denies that he's flirting with other chicks! who men will admit it? remember its a guy thing! even if you caught them in act they will eventually deny it. you fall for the wrong guy sweetie! why didnt you make sure you will not get pregnant? dont you think about the consequences first before jumping on the bed with him? and now you're suffering the consequences. you're real problem is your pregnant and your expecting your boyfriend to be responsible enough for your child. but honey, it seems that he doesnt care at all! and now your worrying about his affairs with other girls! gosh! your child is more important than him! cant you see? he'll just leave you any time soon without warning! and you're gonna be left with all the responsibilities to your child! talk to his parents and tell e'm about your pregnancy, and his negligence to his responsibility. talk also to your parents, and decide if you want that child to be born or aborted. then talk to your irresponsible boyfriend, about your decision to that unborn child. if i we're you i'll breakup with him, immediately! he's just another burden to your problems. im telling yah! he'll give you nothing but headaches! take this as a lesson to be learned.

Answer 10

heres a few things to think about, are these friends of ur close friends??.. like ones that u know that wouldnt lie and havent, and has been there for u no matter what???.... if they are that kinda friend that is true..... then i think that they might be telling you the truth...if they arent that kinda friend then i think that they might be telling you stories....but becoming a father for the 1st time is hard on men.... trust me i know... im 21 and my husband is 27 we've been married since dec 06, and im 10 weeks pregnant, its taken him awhile to come along with it, even though he wanted this in the 1st place, its harder for me to become apart of it all untill the baby is born.........as for him living with you, and saying that he loves you its probably true, u know he might have flirted but flirting is harmless unless u truely act upon it....... but again he might have not been flirting in his eyes but in ur friends eyes it might have been alot of times flirting is mistaken........also since u are prenant ur emotions are going crazy, dont let this stress u out, honestly if hes still there living with you, and u are pregnant, he could have just left when u became pregnant if he didnt want to be apart of ur life and the babies life................but he didnt hes right there with you.......................................

goodluck on everything and dont let this bother u so much....