my husband is always fighting with me. He is so possessive with me tat is the main problem i find with him. he wont allow me to go out with friends he dont want to mis me even a hour what should i do for that he is not giving me a freedom.
2007-04-13 01:29:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FIRST WIN THE TRUST OF YOUR HUSBAND IT HAPPENS ONLY WHEN MAN DOES NOT BELIEVE IN HER WIFE. NOW IT IS UP TO YOU THE WIN THE HIS CONFIDENCE.
2007-04-14 18:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asha, your english is a little broken here and I wonder of what country you are in. Laws are not the same in all countries.
As a person, you should have full freedom of your life with only the added responsibilities you choose to make a difference, such as marriage or a working career, as example. Yet, these should not overcome you and prevent you from having your own space if the laws of your country have regard for this.
It appears your husband is "obcessed" with his possessiveness and this is an illness requiring professional help Most men refuse mental therepy and, because it becomes an issue of yours, he is sure to become more abusive towards you.
Do you have children ? Their welfare must always be above your personal needs...always...no exceptions ever !
It would seem best you "calmly" discuss this situation with your husband and explain to him that you need some space of your own and perhaps additional money to make that space worthwhile. If you both cannot set a specific time weekly for you to begin your space then your choices are limited while the situation grows worse.
Do nothing further to aggravate the situation and if he refuses to seek help to fix his problem then you have no choice but to leave him before mental abuse becomes physical abuse.
You need some very close friends for helping you right now, Asha, and I wish they are near to you.
Be cautious and make good choices.
2007-04-13 02:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by farplaces 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is obsessive and trust me it is not healthy... ok if he loves you so much that is the most beautiful thing, but to suffocate you in this way is not acceptable you both need to communicate and compromise with each other.... you are not a child your grown and should be able to go out with your friends..... does he know he could actually drive you away from him... you can only take so much, and then you will have no choice but to fly free from him.... so nip it it in the bud now...good luck.
If he becomes possesive for girl other than u then dont write a question. good na! Man fights with the one whom he loves very much. so njoy! u should make him convinced that u r njoying his company much more than others but u have to socialize to remain social animal ..... & u talk to ur husband to very happly ,,
Possessiveness is always good till some limit-excess of it is bad for any relationship. Make him understand this, or tell some common friend or relative to help you out. Ask him to behave or threaten him about leaving him. If he is a sex-maniac, you can easily control him...
It takes two people to fight, so stop fighting. Just say, "I refuse to discuss it." Repeat, repeat, repeat.
What does "he won't allow me to go out with friends" mean? In what country to you live where you have to have your husband's permission? If he has you locked up or tied up, or if he is physically restraining you, call the police because that's criminal behavior. However, I strongly doubt that is the case -- I think you are lying. This is the 21st century -- a husband does not have the power to allow or not allow a woman to do whatever she chooses to do. So do what you want.
Talk to him. Tell him that going out with friends doesnt mean that you dont love him. There may be a strong reason why he behave like that. Maybe he didnt even trust himself and afraid of losing you. You have to reassure her that you love him, and you also need to spend time with others as in your family and friends as this is also your personal needs to balance your healthy and social life for as long you dont do anything wrong .
And I pry ur marrage life make good life.....
2007-04-13 03:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two people to fight, so stop fighting. Just say, "I refuse to discuss it." Repeat, repeat, repeat.
What does "he won't allow me to go out with friends" mean? In what country to you live where you have to have your husband's permission? If he has you locked up or tied up, or if he is physically restraining you, call the police because that's criminal behavior. However, I strongly doubt that is the case -- I think you are lying. This is the 21st century -- a husband does not have the power to allow or not allow a woman to do whatever she chooses to do. So do what you want.
2007-04-13 01:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is always fighting with me?
2014-12-15 03:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is obsessive and trust me it is not healthy... ok if he loves you so much that is the most beautiful thing, but to suffocate you in this way is not acceptable you both need to communicate and compromise with each other.... you are not a child your grown and should be able to go out with your friends..... does he know he could actually drive you away from him... you can only take so much, and then you will have no choice but to fly free from him.... so nip it it in the bud now...good luck.
2007-04-13 01:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only his fear of loosing you that had changed his attitude or the other way round is the thought that you would get spoiled by the other ladies. Gen. ladies have lot of bad/ill habbitsof chatting, spreading rumours and often there are occassions that male members are head on to fight out.
I think that you can gain the confidence of your husband by visiting you friends along with him.
Even I dont like my wife to speak/go out with out informing me. He should be aware of the quality/class of people that you mix up with.
All the five fingers are not the same, both of you have to compromise lot many things to rrun the married life. You cant call it ego, nor possessive. Its the same way that the bonding should be from both the sides.
2007-04-13 23:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows tat ur husband loves u madly.
In our life what is more imp?? love? husband? freedom?
Talk to him , U can make him realise only wid ur love.
My husband was d same but very very slowly I convenced him and now He dont have any prob.
I compromised all what I loved to do b4 marriage like parting, hangingout, etc. But I also realised that now when I am married I have lots of responsibilities.
Everyone love freedom but not @ any cost!!!!!!
2007-04-13 08:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you need to see a councilor with your husband. I take it that you are a beautiful wife and your husband is insecure because of your beauti. He has to go through counseling because a woman was not created to be abused and this is spousal abuse. He needs to love himself for who he is and improve his life physically and educationally, so that, he can trust you ,love , honor and adore you. You should be his queen and not his prisoner. Get professional help from a pastor or a councilor or Family resource Center.
2007-04-13 02:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by EarthRover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possessiveness is always good till some limit-excess of it is bad for any relationship. Make him understand this, or tell some common friend or relative to help you out. Ask him to behave or threaten him about leaving him. If he is a sex-maniac, you can easily control him.
2007-04-13 03:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by anil m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a doomed relationship if you BOTH don't get some counseling. He's borderline abusive. You are an adult(I suppose)why would you put up with this. He's very insecure and doesn't trust you.
2007-04-13 01:34:45 · answer #11 · answered by janice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋