2007-04-13 00:55:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay affectionate (physically), continue to tell your spouse that you love and appreciate them.
2007-04-13 00:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to really want to be married and marry someone who really wants to be married. You need to be dedicated to the idea of marriage. That is the glue that holds a relationship together when one or the other screws up in some way. The divorce rate is way too high because people are marrying for the wrong reasons.
Marriage should really be for life, in sickness and in health, richer or poorer, thick and thin etc. Yet, I hear people all the time divorcing after a couple of years because they are not happy or the spark is gone. Or the sex isn't as good anymore.
People like this should not get married. The way marriage works is this. First, of course the fire burns bright and hot with plenty of sparks. After a while the fire starts to mellow. It needs constant attention. But if you tend it well, it will provide you warmth and comfort for the rest of your lives.
If you marry the right person, the passion is replaced by something much better. A deep contentment and sense of security and dedication that can withstand the test of time and the effects of life in this cold, jaded world. People who get addicted to the passion of new relationships never achieve this and are doomed to a life of emptiness. Eventually, they become old and alone.
Happily married people stay forever young. I have been married several decades and my wife still looks the same to me. She is still my girl. I tease her sometimes because I never thought I would be making out with a grandmother!
2007-04-13 08:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recognize that sexual passion naturally dies down, more for some than others, with kids, age, stress, etc. If you're relationship skills are up to snuff and you're continuing to "face each other", not just the world, you can develop and maintain a deep, mature love. Love is a choice, not a feeling. The feelings that add to, or detract from, our commitment to continue to love someone are influenced daily by every interaction with our spouse. Check out the sources below. Gottman (listed second) is probably the first book you should read.
2007-04-13 08:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jack07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is between two person and it take two hands to clap,
one good way is to take it that you're still not married.
do things that you did when you're in love,
sweet short notes, small gifts, surprise your partner by meeting for lunch, spend quality time together as a family and as a couple, dump the kids somewhere (someone to look after) and go for a movie or romantic dinner, a walk in the park or go out for a late night spin when the kids are asleep, find somewhere safe and can do some french kissing etc whatever you do, keep the love, desire and lust etc burning
happy marriage dude
2007-04-13 08:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by transformer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep listening and keep yourself honest. If you must express anger, do not do it while you are angry. As years pass you both grow and interests will change. If your partner grows away, then you both need to recognize this and decide whether you are just good companions or if this is an evolution of your marrige into something more sedate. Having your own interests and ideas are important. Mutual respect for each other and each others needs is equally important.
2007-04-13 08:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Acorn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, fortunately after years of marriage both partners generally become to lazy to find anything better, so they stay with one another out of pure apathy.
2007-04-13 08:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are 10 tips to keep romance alive in marriage.
http://living.oneindia.in/relationship/love-and-romance/romance-alive.html
This is also good.
http://living.oneindia.in/relationship/marriage-and-beyond/everlasting-marriage.html
I have taken a few tips and it has worked well. Hope it helps you
Good luck
2007-04-13 08:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Cosmic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your spouse as your lover. Make sure you take time to spend alone just the two of you. No phone, no kids no nothing. Make sure that you spend time together everyday.
Some couples even take separte vactions, that way they miss your spouse. Read and pray together.
2007-04-13 08:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex, intimacy, romance, excitement, fun - all of these can be "maintained". Love either exists or it doesn't - it cannot be manipulated or construed.
2007-04-13 08:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nickie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that love needs to be rekindled every time. try to remember all the things you did at the time you first met. those things that you now think are not neccesary try them again
2007-04-13 08:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by miss Kese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋