i m in love with a guy....we have lot of differences...like i m hindu n he is muslim.....he is 23 i m 26.....n many more.....we have been in love for last 2 years....i really want to marry him n he too....but dont know wht to do?
2007-04-13 00:11:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can marry him without his or your conversion to either of the religion by court marriage. Court marriage as you call it is solemnized under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 all such marriages can take place between any two Indian citizens as well one Indian citizen with a foreigner irrespective of their religion, caste or creed, and you can say this is the secular form of marriage available in our country. Such a marriage is solemnized before the marriage officer/registrar usually D.C. deputy commissioner of the area (Sub registrar/SDM is the marriage officer/registrar only in case the already solemnized marriage under any other Act has to be registered) where both or any of the parties to such a marriage reside permanently or for at least one month. Cost of such a marriage is merely Rs90/- or as the rate prevalent in your area. Now how you proceed? Both the parties to the marriage file a joint application before the marriage officer along with individual affidavit attested by notary public specifying the age(boy 21yrs &girl 18yrs), place of residence, marital status(unmarried or divorcee as the case maybe), mental status(not idiot or not with unfit mind), not related to each other. Along with this you have to give proof of age , proof of residence(Passport, ration card, voters id card, PAN card, rent agreement, even in your case hostel certificate stated period of your stay) & the application of such a marriage should be witnessed by 3 independent adult persons, affix one photograph of each of the parties & all the 3 witnesses. You have made such an application/notice to the marriage officer in person along with all the 3 witnesses. On receiving such an application the marriage officer issues a month notice regarding the intended marriage & get such a notice affixed on the notice board out side his office, a copy of such notice is sent to the marriage officer under whose jurisdiction the other party lives, also a copy is to the individual parties address. After expiry of the period of notice a date is fixed on which all the persons parties to the marriage & 3 witnesses appear again before the marriage officer who declare them married & issue a certificate to this regard. Incase of any objections raised the marriage officer will settle these objections. Now what can be objections that can be raised? These can ONLY BE REGARDING THE CONDITIONS NECESSARY FOR SUCH MARIAGE & NOTHING ELSE. What are the conditions? As I stated above i.e. Age, martial status, mental status, prohibited relationship (related to each other by blood). This is the brief procedure I have told you here, incase you want any clarification you can ask.
2007-04-13 01:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a strong believer in love and life... If you have found what really makes you happy then religion can take a step back...
Traditions and cultures can make these things difficult but it comes down to the fact that you live for yourself and the ones you love... If this is the man that will make you happy for the years to come then by all means, follow your heart! You may NEVER find someone that you love this much again... As for the age... three years is nothing! You dont have to have a formal wedding, im not to sure about the vast differences between your two religions but you can be legally wed in a court... Then sort out the differences between your two families and have a ceremony... :) Follow your heart! Think of what will make you guys happy FIRST before pleasing others.
2007-04-13 07:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by SpeedyLa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There r lot of obstacles in front of u both & that were too tough also.
And u both have many differences ....so intially u both have to struggle for existance & have to face many challenges...that is not so..easy...
U r as Indian woman...if any thing goes wrong...then especially..u r the big looser.
So keep this in mind...think once or twice and take near & dearers advice and come to one conclusion.
First u..u better to know that guy is really loves u or not.
And u have to think..how much he is capable to take & handle the challenges. How long he can support u against the family members & society.
Still...u loves him & he loves u...then go ahead!
Good Luck!
2007-04-13 14:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by swaagat143 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind yourself don't let anyone confuse you. Know what you want and go for it, I guess you are are matured to know what is good for you. Age is just a number-in marriage age does not count, all you need is understand between both of you. As for your religion I will not go into that because I am neither a Hindu nor a Muslim. Wish you luck.
2007-04-13 07:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Stella A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's a difficult situation.
When there are religious differences, it's a bit difficult as there are different culture matters, different belief matters... but I'm sure u can work out something if u speak about it closely. U love each other and it should be in a first step. Talk about it with him, listen his opinion about that and think wisely; I'm sure u can do it.
Never bother urself with an age differences as it really not a big deal. The biggest thing to be happy together!
Good luck!
2007-04-13 07:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Panther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want to marry then just go ahead ,listen to your heart. I know we live in a Society ,so their are lots of does n donts ,we have to follow but its you who have to spend the life not this ******* society! yes they will talk for a long time bcoz v ppl love to gossip . But soon soon they will get bore and look for something more spicy. So , do what u want ! Your n his parents will b also against so this will b the big question - R u n ur bf ready to go against them???
B sure that its a true love so in future u dont have to repent 4 wat u did.
I dont know y but I really feel that u both r n true love.
Get what u want or u will b forced to take wat u dont want.
BEST OF LUCK
2007-04-13 07:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him just marry him, but u and him that age still not ready i think so both of u are still young. i would like to tell you that the muslim guy they can marry many girls until he can afford to feeds the girls he married. by the way God Bless for the both of you.
2007-04-13 10:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by jeremy_gomez2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...... I would say this ........
Go sit in front of sea an early morning or at your favourite spot.... close your eyes... ask yourself a question.... Is the guy the most important thing in my life other then myself.... Is being with him going to be a journey I have dreamt for myself ... Can he be the other wheel of this vehicle called life... Do it fast just in some moments... I f he appears as an answer to all your questions, .......Go to a marriage court ... get married asap........ No further questions... no further answers... As they say.... ' just Do It Baby :) " My best wishes ....
2007-04-13 07:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by maanuv B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make some strong mind and left this Muslim boy because at present you see only love but after marriage many problem create like religion,family,and i think both side no one family member create relationship with you and your husband . i know at present you think its OK i have no problem but in future you and also your kids realise for family support and backing
2007-04-13 08:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose your own destiny. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to achieve happiness. If you and him are willing to go through with it, why does it matter what other people think. As long as you have him and he has you that will be your happiness. Your family will come around sooner or later.
2007-04-13 09:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋