My ex Father in law is feeding my daughter every idea im against, and when I correct her, she argues with him and he argues back...yes! with an 8 year old child..(for example) he tells her that she needs to fully agree with anyone older (no matter what the case).
2007-04-11 19:53:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
she dont have to agree but respect them
2007-04-11 20:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately a lot of older people are like this. They were raised in a time when children were seen but not heard. I would suggest you have a talk to him, and explain your point of view, but I suspect he would tell you, you don't know what your talking about. Instead have a talk with your daughter, 8 year olds are very smart these days. Explain to her that her Grandfather doesn't mean any harm, but he was bought up a long time ago when things were different. Ask her not to argue with him, but to come and check with you if she feels what her Grandfather is saying isn't right. Try not to put him down to her, she will, in time work it out for herself.
2007-04-12 03:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kazzbar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Telling a child to agree with what anyone older says is stupid and dangerous. Your ex father in law is an idiot.
2007-04-12 02:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a situation like this with my father-in-law and my daughter, 10 years old at that time. So I honestly told him that I will have to keep her away from his useless (to MY family) ideas until he will find strength to respect me. He disregarded what I said, and I took her away for next three big family gathering...
He pout for a while but changed and we did not have any problems after that.
2007-04-12 03:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is trying to teach her to respect her elders and to not argue. Not a bad idea. But If they are arguing about what time she should go to bed, she should definitely listen to him. If he is telling her what to believe as far as religion for example, that you as her parent should tell HIM to back off.
2007-04-12 12:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by hippieiam29 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 8 you can tell her that grandpa is nice but has all the wrong ideas and to just not argue with him but ignore everycrap he says.
2007-04-12 02:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dull 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her make up her own mind who to beleive. Give her a good example of why she shouldn't always beleive or trust someone older. Ask her if "Uncle John" told her to seel sweets, would it be right? Then ask her if she still believes she should always listen to adults. Use an example that she can relate to. Another thing I do with my little ones is tell them no-one is alowed to touch them. When they bath, we make it a game, I say "No one is allowed to touch you, not mommy, not daddy, not uncle john, not aunty ann....." and then they start trying to mention everyone's name that they can remember.
2007-04-12 03:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grrrrr !!! I'd kindly tell him not to do it anymore...YOU are the parent, and it sounds like he's as much as a child as your 8 year old !!!
2007-04-12 02:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by That Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go rent the movie dutch with Ed O'Neil ( Al Bundy), and watch how he treats his girl friend's ex husband and the end of the movie, then give ol' ex-pops, the same thing!!
2007-04-12 03:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lazrus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are her daddy not him. Correct him and tell him to stop putting idea in her head.
2007-04-12 02:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by Koozie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to got to heaven an hang a left.
2007-04-12 02:59:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋