My b/f and I have been friends for about ten years now. I met him through his brother, whom use to be my b/f when we were younger. About 6 yrs ago, my b/f and I hooked up and dated for awhile until his guy friends were telling him lies of me to him, which ending our relationship and friendship for about a yr. When we became friends again it was alot of hard work to get to where we are now, best friends again!! yeah!! but here is the kicker...i do like him more than friends. ok i love the guy!! adore everything about him, im honest with him, can talk to him about ANYTHING, we are ourselves with one another and its comfortable. within the last 6 yrs he has only dated one person and i on the other hand have had about 4 different guys in and out of my life. i spent 2 yrs of those yrs alone trying to prove to him that i could be alone and that all i wanted was him. i have told him that i still care for him and LOVE him. but he wont give me a second chance. what can i do?? what can i say??
2007-04-11 19:18:44 · 5 answers · asked by sabylady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he still believes what his friends told him 6 yrs ago and im not sure if i can get him to not believe them. one of the things they said was that i slept with one of his friends, and that friend that i supposedly slept with says that i did. WHEN I DIDNT!!!!! so what the hell am i spose to do?? i think about my b/f constintly and i find excuses to go and see him. i call and talk to him for hrs on end about nothing or somtimes serious conversations like politics and such. but when it comes to me telling him how i feel he wont listen. does he like/love me back? is he scared to admit it? the thing is though, that when we go out together, it seems like we ARE a couple and that no one else in the room matters. its like we are the only two there. he always gives me a hug when he leaves me. when he drinks he tells me he loves me and that he misses us, but i know that the alcohol talking. or is it? some people say that the truth comes ot when you drink so is that whats happening? I REALLY NEED
2007-04-11 19:19:16 · update #1
HELP!! i am in a relationship know and i feel like i am cheating on the guy i am with becuz of the way i feel about my b/f. i feel guilty and im always wondering if he thinks that there is something going on between me and my b/f other than friendship, which tecnacly(sp) there isnt. but why do i still feel so bad!!?
2007-04-11 19:19:36 · update #2
Tell this guy that you can not continue to just be friends. Tell him that it hurts you too much. Explain that he should have trusted you, and you feel betrayed that he took his friend's word over yours. Tell him that you would like to be with him forever, but if that is not possible then it is time to break off the relationship . If he loves you, he will try to talk you out of it, but don't let him. Either make him see you side or give up. You can not keep torturing yourself like this.
By the way you are being unfair to the guy you are with, while holding these feelings for the other guy. Resolve this soon before he gets hurt very badly!!
2007-04-11 19:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a handful you've got there. But first, what's up with your friends? They're almost like sabotaging your relationship or something.. Have you had a good, clean closure with your b/f's brother? Or have you had any issues with any of their friends? I suggest you address them first before tackling the main issue here. I think once the 'lies' stop pouring out of people's mouths then the truth may really come out and your b/f might finally listen to you. Hope this helps.
2007-04-11 19:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Xiand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look first, u think carfully and u find out which bf you actually love. and if its that guy then u sit him down and u tell him one last time that u look him and give him the resons, and u tell him that ppl can think wat they want but shame on u for thinkin of me that way. and u tell him ur not gonna give me one last chance, am gonna give U one last chance. and if the answer is no then i honestly have no idea why u should actually be still sitting ther thinkin abt him cuz that guy isnt even a friend! dont forget to include:"try me". i hope this would work out with u but u gotta understand that if he turned u down then that guy is an asshole. ps: dont loose the other bf just yet! :) tc
2007-04-11 19:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by omar c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like a butterfly in your hand, squeeze too tight & you crush it, let it go, & if it comes back to you then maybe there is a chance,
Sometimes letting a loved one chose & respect that decision, even though it hurts, is the only way to go.
2007-04-11 19:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by ozraikat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SEEMS LIKE YOU LIKE YOU EX BETTER THAN YOUR BOYFREND AND JUST KEEP TELLEN YOUR EX THAT YOU WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND THAT YOU NOTHING HAPPENED AND YOU WOULD NEVER ECER CHEAT ON HIM
2007-04-11 19:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by pjg898 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋