my mom is not letting me have my fun!?

Question

me and a few other close friends wanted to have a sleepover somewhere.we dont want any parents there or any adults!its going to be co-ed in a hotel room...we are all teenages...why wont she let me go?!?well its not that she wont let me go,cuz she knows that im gonna go anyways...but she disapproves...but i mean,im chinese and i know better.i dont fool around alot so why does she dissapprove??

chinese parents are usually stricter so i know what not to do

Answer 1

i know. my mom is the same too. she says that i shouldn't listen to my choice of music. weird. i think it's because she thinks that you will do SOMETHING while she isn't there. Moms always think that we don't know anything, but we do! it's not lik we are babies! anyway yeah....

Answer 2

Yeah as a mom I wouldn't be ok with it either. A group of teens together no matter if it is co-ed or not alone without parents is not a good idea. Teens (even mature responsible ones) can become very stupid when away from parents and faceing peer presure to be cool. When I was a teen my mom was very picky about where i stayed all night and I remember when i turned 18 and she didn't have any control I did some stupid stuff (and I was a responsible teen who knew right from wrong). Just respect your parents, they do what they do to try to protect you. If you really want the sleepover with friends then pick a place where you will have a trustworthy parent there and your parents will feel much better.

Answer 3

Okay now I can't find the article but I did a report on it when I was in high school. Two girls went to a party and they were not drinking alcohol, and they had no intention of having sex, well one of the boys put a drug called ghb in there drinks, and the girls were raped and one of them died because of the toxicity of the drug. You have to be really careful. And if you decide to go anyways take a cell phone with you or if you don't have a cell available a ton of quarters, just in case, make sure you have enough money to take a cab home if needed. Buddy up with another friend or two, maybe one of them can bring a cell phone, and promise to look out for each other, have your phone number and address in your pocket, wallet or purse whatever you carry, so if anything happens your friends can call your home or take you there. Don't be afraid to call your mom if you need her even if you mess up and do something stupid it is always a good idea, because you will get in more trouble if you don't call...Also get your friends parents names number addresses etc. And never say yes if you don't want to...Make your mom fully aware that you are going to do all these things, say I am sorry if you don't like it, but I just want to have fun with my friends. Reassure her nothing bad is going to happen...Definately give your parents the exact address and who's name the room is going to be under. Tell them exactly when you are going to be home, and be home at that time, no matter what...no calling and saying you are going to be later then planned unless you have no other choice but to be late becasue your ride is still sleeping or something...And give your mom the phone number...tell her only to call if you don't come home by whatever time...And let her know who is going to be with you, everyone who is going to be with you...Make sure it is only teenagers...And if you happen to be the only responsible one there just remember that your life and reputation are valuable. You can never be too safe...Be safe have fun!!!

Answer 4

Let's see, group of teenage boys and girls having a sleepover in a hotel room without adult supervision... what could POSSIBLY go wrong? It's not like it's going to be an orgy with drugs and alcohol and then when the cops are called because of the noise they bust you with everyone else and your mom has to bail you out of jail but that's not the worst of it because someone slipped something in your drink, you will miss your next period, and your friends stop talking to you while all their boyfriends keep thanking you for the party.
And who is paying for the room? It has to be an adult. The only thing scarier than a co-ed teen sleepover without adults is one with an adult nobody is supposed to know about.
And haven't you seen Carrie? Awkward outside girl gets invited to the prom, thinking people are being nice and including her at last, only to get pig's blood dumped on her as a mocking allusion to her first period.

You've got an awesome mom. Instead of telling you that you can't do it, threatening to ground you, etc., she just tells you she doesn't approve. That, right there, is respect for you. You should show her respect in return.

Answer 5

It sounds like your Mother is being the "Motherly" woman she is. If I had a teenager I wouldn't let her go to a co-ed sleepover. I would trust her, but it would be the guys that I'd be worried about. Your Momma has reasons for worrying. If you don't see it now, you will when you get older. My Mom forbade me to attend any co-ed sleepovers when I was a teen and I'm glad she did because who knows what could have happened. I'm 25 now. Guys take advantage of girls and that's probably what your Mom thinks may happen. Your Mom is just trying to watch out for you, hun. You should be glad that she cares this much about you. A lot of parents don't really pay attention to what their teenagers are doing these days. It's a shame.

Answer 6

At your age it is hard to understand the things that concern parents. Try to remember she was your age once, and she reads, and sees the the news each day. You are precious to her, and she would do just about anything to keep you away from harm. You may truly believe you would resist temptations that could cause you trouble, and you probably would. But you are not the only one who could cause you harm. I seriously doubt your mom is purposely trying to keep you from having any fun. She undoubtedly loves you so much she can't bear to think of you being hurt in any way. The people you are planning to be with may be innocent, but then again it only takes one with bad intentions to spoil everything.
Girls and boys are taken advantage of all of time. Drugs are slipped into drinks. Sometimes virginity is lost, unplanned pregnancies happen, sometimes lives are ruined, and sometimes lives are lost. Before you disobey and disrespect your mom, I hope you will really think about the possible consequences of your actions. Best wishes to you.

Answer 7

I can't explain why she doesn't let you go.I was brought up(and am still being brought up) in a lberal family but of course I am responsible and my parents know that and wouldn't stop me go there if I want to.So,I can tell you that your mother doesn't approve of your friends or doesn't approve of the fact that there aren't going to be adults,which actually isn't that dangerous as many Americans consider it.

Answer 8

imagine having a sweet baby girl and she wants to go and stay the night in a hotel w/some boys...no brainer honey. She doesn't want boys messing around w/her baby girl PERIOD. So of course she is going to disapprove...can't blame her. It isn't that she doesn't want you to have fun...its that she doesn't want you to get pregnant before you finish high school/college.
Your lucky your mom loves and cares so much...

Answer 9

Alot of teens get into trouble with situations like this. She loves you and wants to keep you from doing something that could endanger you.

Answer 10

i'm not sure what Chinese has to do with a parent's decision. your mother is wise and you act like a spoiled brat. respect your mother's choice and let her do her job as your parent. it won't be long before you're out of the house and completely responsible for yourself. then, you can choose to have a coed sleepover.