I want children, but I am not sure if my hubby really wants them. A male co-worker stated that we (my hubby and I) are not ready for children because we have 3 dogs and fixed our backyard to cater to the dogs.
2007-04-11 17:37:08 · 11 answers · asked by msstikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is ANYONE really ever ready for children? lol its a scary thought, for anyone, even those that already have em'! i have three and one on the way, they are the best that has happened in my life! and i wouldnt trade that for the world! kids are great, even though it is scary! what is the old saying? i wouldnt give them up for a million bucks, but then wouldnt pay a nickle for one just like em'! go for it! GOD bless!
2007-04-11 17:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by brn.eyed.grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you unsure if you want them then it is not time. Having kids should be planned and you should both want them this is a huge aspect of any relationship. I think it due time you ask your hubby even wants them. I myself have 2 dogs, 2 birds and a cat with my wife and we not having kids been married almost 8yrs. If you wanted kids this is something that should have been throughly discussed with your husband before marriage. Alot of people feel it is not right to bring a child into this world the way it is and just like having pets for companionship and they are treated like the kids.
I think deep down you don't even feel like having kids either or you may not have asked this question. Really starting a family is never a easy task or something you should rush into
if you do not have the financial means and your spouse is not open to having kids, then it may only destroy what you have built together. Love your pets and if is meant to be then one day both of you will decide to start a family together but for now you need to communicate to your husband and see where he is at maybe he is happy just having you and the dogs period.
I know I love the simple life and my pets are my kids and my wife's.
God Bless and Good Luck
Remember always safe to plan parenthood not going in blind!
2007-04-11 19:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are divisive, not bonding,.... they can destroy anything, as my mom said. Be sure your bond is strong before you begin (if ever) to have a child. Your rolls forever change.... you are now the huss, the babe, the sexy lady, and your husband the stud, the man, the dude. When you become parents you become the mother and housewife, and he, the dad and provider.... a real switch, and some --- most!!! marriages don't much survive it past about 5 years.... (50% divorce rate in this country) Are you ready for that????
Children are also an agreed upon effort, with lots of real consideration before you decide. Every child deserves to have parents who did some planning, and talking. Obviously you and your husband, from what you have written here have not really discussed this...... So, no, you for sure are not ready for children.
And there is nothing wrong with remaining childless... God, my husband and I have been all over the world, have $$ to burn, lovely house, nice cars, great parties, lots of friends, happy as clams. We came to this marriage both of us with "our tubes tied". Neither of us was ever interested in PTA, soccer games, violin lessons, yadadaydayda.... And We have lots of friends whose kids are now grown, and they say it just wasn't worth it.... at $250,000 per kid, I can see why. Many have children who don't even like them!!!!!
And what browneyes said above, my mom said to me as a child... That was a real eye opener.... And it was something I NEVER forgot..." I wouldn't take a million for you but wouldn't give a dime for another just like you..." great attitude. And probably one of the reasons I figured parenthood wasn't anything I wanted to bother with... That line says it all.
2007-04-11 17:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other people thoughts will not help you when it comes to being responsible for a baby, so, you need to make up your mind and speak to your husband about the matter. This decision will be more important than anything else in your lives. The few things you do to take care of your dogs are no comparison to what babies needs demand. Your whole life changes in most every way possible. Wish you luck!
2007-04-11 17:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend won't be incomes adequate to assist a family members. Your decrease fee expenses would be long gone in a week. A Pram costs money as do cots, blankets nappies etc... extra beneficial to attend some extra years till your decrease fee expenses is extra significant. a minimum of you have a call interior the problem while many youngsters have not got the alternative. i assume you're in England so the criminal age is sixteen yo for intercourse. so a minimum of your boyfriend is purely no longer performed for decrease than-elderly intercourse. Do the mother and dad approve of you and him? terrific to have parental help because of the fact having a toddler would be very stressful on a youthful couple. mum and dad can infant-take a seat so which you 2 can bypass to stay stay shows and acquaintances events. yet bear in mind, you is purely no longer waiting to bypass to acquaintances events a week. perhaps as quickly as a month yet in ordinary terms after the 1st 6 months after the start. you ought to place it right into a extra attitude physique. particular, a toddler is a kit of excitement, a super form of the time. What approximately while the infant gets sick? i could recommend you wait till your are approximately 24 yo because of the fact it provide you the two time to have some exciting formerly the complicated yards set in. perhaps bypass distant places for a holiday. additionally perhaps shop for a deposit for a house.
2016-12-09 00:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by keeven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh the way you put it sounds intriguing.... I mean seriously I don see a problem if you can commit to the 3 dogs and not just one baby
2007-04-11 17:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by sheadrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously talk it out with your husband. If he doesn't want kids, then it might lead to problems if you have them. No one on here can give you any actual answer, you'll just have to ask your husband if he's ready for kids.
2007-04-11 17:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then you're probably not ready. Wait a little longer and enjoy the time you have together.
2007-04-11 17:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask I definitely say no, get some more dogs instead.
2007-04-11 17:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great , you seem to respect the dogs more than anything.don't over do it one day they 'll show what they really are .maintain a distance.
2007-04-11 17:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋